Crawk wrote:Anachronism wrote:Crawk wrote:
having at one point wished my mom wasn't alive because i couldn't bare to see all her suicide attempts
i'm rly ashamed for ever wishing that and i love her more than anything, she is literally the reason i haven't tried to commit anything myself
but those years where all of that happened, was a total mess and the constant worry of her once again trying got me to a point where i felt i didn't want to have to worry 24/7
Very relatable
I used to hate my mom for her violent outbursts and suicide attempts and substance abuse
I used to feel guilty I ever felt that way but now I understand I was just a kid. My needs werent meant and I was put through things I couldn't handle. It was an understandable response honestly.
I'm understanding I have more resources to cope than i did as a teen. I'm no longer angry but I really did have a reason to be because I wasnt able to care for myself at that time. I just wanted to blame my mom because I didn't have the hindsight or maturity to understand the situation... but now I realize she isnt the one to blame.
Dont be hard on yourself dude. Growing up w/ a mentally ill parent is rough and you absolutely care about her if u feel guilty at all for how you felt.
sorry to hear u went through similar stuff ! it's not easy
i remember quite early on having to take responsibility for my brothers so they would wake up, eat, go to school and all that so i guess my wish stemmed also from my own needs not having been met either
n well i was rly angry because i literally had to be the mom to my brothers over and over again because none of us could count on her being in the right mindset
totally understandable tho! considering it was something no child should have to go through
i'm glad u have realized stuff, it's a good way to start working on yourself!
i've been working on it over the years so it's absolutely going in the right direction!
also, it turned out i have the same diagnosis as her so in a way we have grown closer because of it
it could've ended rly bad for me but i guess i'm "lucky" it was discovered before anything rly major happened
my mom was actually the one who said she suspected me to have it and it turned out to be true, so hadn't it been for her i'd prolly either 1. be dead or 2. very unwell
now in hindsight i can see why it went as it did and i know the mindset, to a certain point in regards to relating to the same struggles n diagnosis
we have forgiven each other and talked abt it all n i'm happy things are great for the both of us
Yeah your parents are supposed to take care of you, not the other way around. Therefore it's reasonable to be angry, though I think I should have been angry at things that were not my mother's mental illness you know? But at least I know that now. I was very judgmental of my mom, but at least I'm realizing the true cause of things (e.g. our mental health system, the war on drugs, her enablers) which is more than I could say ten years ago.