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So a girl I used to consider a friend was talking shit behind my back for stuff that happened in 2021.

For context, in the summer of 2021, we ended up in the same counselor training program at the camp I've been going to for years, the first time I met her was in the summer of 2019.

the training was for 3 weeks, we lived in the same unit together for 3 weeks. within those 3 weeks there was a lot of drama since we're a bunch of teenagers put under a lot of pressure and just overall immature. Throughout those 3 weeks we've had out altercations, I've said some pretty nasty stuff, but so has she. I'd like to add that I am autistic so when I'm overwhelmed/upset/overstimulated I tend to become aggressive (this is also important for later), however I have worked on this since then. Meaning I lashed out at her, however I have apologized and taken accountability for my actions. She has apologized for her behavior too but not genuinely.

we, or at least just me put what happened behind us, and rekindled our friendship, or so I thought. after camp it turned out she transferred into my school, we had the same spanish teacher for the entire year. We didn't have any issues, at least I thought we didn't have any issues. towards the end of the school year, the topic of camp came up, especially those 3 weeks. we were talking about the 2nd day of the 3rd week, she apologized for something she did by accident that I reacted badly to, I told her it wasn't her fault, I reacted the way I did because I was already upset and stressed out from the activity of that day (me and another person had to pretend to be counselors, whilst everyone else had to pretend to be campers, may be confusing but it was stressful because we had to take it seriously). I apologized to her for lashing out on her that day, and it wasn't her fault. and she was just like "Yeah you were crazy that day." like bruh?? idk if i just took it the wrong way it just kinda made me feel uncomfortable but i let it slide.

One time she was talking shit about another person in our group, saying he was creepy and weird. I straight up told her "He's autistic" and she straight up did not care and kept making excuses and tried defending herself. 

So what did she say? how did she talk behind my back?

for some reason she started talking shit about me to my friend a few months ago (my friend and i weren't super close then, and they also forgot about until our convo reminded them of it). The girl was saying shit how i was crazy and talking about the stuff that happened at camp 2021, a year and a half ago??? She couldn't have just told me she had a problem with me, she pretended to be my friend for a year and a half then talks shit about me. And whats worse that this past summer (summer of 2022), she was on kitchen staff. This is a whole ass staff member acting like a person in middle school, like u missed the entire point of our training wtaf.. Then I realized it's kinda rooted in ableism, she fully knows I'm autistic, I've talked about how my autism takes a part in my behavior sometimes (autism doesn't mean you have a free pass to be an asshole, however i wasn't purposefully being an asshole and I acknowledged my wrongdoings and stepped up to work on it)
the main reason why I think it's rooted in ableism is because the only people she had issues with in the group was me, and the other autistic kid. (Who literally never had fights with anyone in the group, he didn't cause any trouble). 

however i don't full hold it against her, yes she chooses to treat people that way herself and chooses to act the way she does, but it's kinda obvious it's from her batshit crazy mom. I always knew something was off with this girl but I thought it was just me being petty from the altercations we've had. Honestly I just hope she grows up, cuz she works with KIDS, like bruh.

sorry for the long rant it's just really annoying.