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Also, from a scientific standpoint, your bf's prefrontal cortex is almost fully developed (averages around age 25 or later). Yours is still developing big-time. It's an important part of your brain used in decision making. A less developed prefrontal cortex (aka you at 16) is more prone to impulsive decisions, poorer judgement, and using less reasoning. This is a good reason why dating teenagers is so ... off-putting to most people past a certain age. It doesn't mean you're stupid, your body is still developing as it should. 

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What does the prefrontal cortex do?There are a variety of functions for which the prefrontal cortex is responsible. Although significant development of the prefrontal region occurs during adolescence, experts argue that it continues until (at least) our mid 20s.

Attention: The ability to focus on one thing, while ignoring distractions is a function of our prefrontal cortex. Those with attentional deficits (e.g. ADHD) may have abnormalities within the prefrontal region. Similarly, those who abuse drugs and/or alcohol may end up with attention problems as the brain forms.
Complex planning: The prefrontal region is responsible for complex planning. Anytime you set a goal that requires some degree of planning, your prefrontal region is at work. Planning out tasks in your day, developing a business plan, etc. – this region is responsible. An underdeveloped prefrontal region means that your planning capabilities haven’t been solidified.
Decision making: We often struggle to make good decisions when we are teenagers, but as we enter our 20s, our decision making improves. This is due to the fact that our prefrontal cortex helps us think logically and make more calculated assessments of situations. Our brain weighs the risks and tells us whether a certain behavior or choice is a good idea vs. a bad one.
Impulse control: Struggling with impulsivity is often related to deficits in the prefrontal cortex. The ability to maintain self-discipline and avoid impulsive behaviors hasn’t reached its peak until the 20s. This means that if you struggle with impulsivity when you’re 18, it may get better as you continue to age.
Logical thinking: Justifying behaviors based off of emotions rather than logic is common among teens. When the prefrontal cortex fully develops, logical thinking simultaneously improves. This means you will be better at rationalizing and making smarter choices. It also means that your ability to write and solve math problems will improve.
Organized thinking: Organizing your thinking can be difficult when you’re a teen. A barrage of thoughts are typically influenced by hormones and you may have concentration difficulties. As you continue to age and your thoughts become more organized. The organization of your thoughts is a result of your prefrontal cortex.
Personality development: Your personality is directly expressed based off of your prefrontal cortex. Without proper stimulation, you may struggle with identity issues and developing a favorable personality. Since personality development continues throughout the 20s, you may want to consider how environmental inputs may affect who you are.
Risk management: The ability to assess risky situations and determine whether they will result in long-term benefit is a byproduct of your prefrontal cortex. Those who are poor at assessing risk may have underdeveloped prefrontal regions. The ability to turn down immediate gratification for long-term rewards is a result of this region.
Short-term memory: Your short-term memory function is influenced by the prefrontal cortex. When still in development, your short-term memory isn’t as good as it will be by the time you’re 25. As the brain continues to mature, your cognitive function and memorization capacity will improve.

source:
mentalhealthdaily.com/2015/02/18/at-what-age-is-the-brain-fully-developed/
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myavf wrote:
KarroXx wrote:
Paramore wrote:

u never know
He once said he would scoop out my eyes with a spoon... I'm not making this look any better, am I...?
context please. ?????
It was a joke. He asked about my eyesight and since I have perfect vision he joked that he would sell my eyes on the black market. He also calls me eagle-eyes after that :3  
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Sirenia wrote:
im confused

Me and a guy met online (December 2017). He lives in another country. He is 7 years older. He asked if I wanted to move in with him (not gonna do it tho). We have met up a few times.


Am I missing something? :3
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KarroXx wrote:
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I'm not telling you to dump this person, because I know you're aware there are always exceptions to the rules. But please approach this relationship with caution. Don't move in with him until you have spent a great deal of time with him in person.

I feel sick in my own house and he knows that, that's why he gave me the idea of moving in with him in the first place. Then he just kept giving me reasons of why it would be a perfect thing. Like "spend more time together" and so on.
After a while he got more realistic with it and now he is actually suggesting it... 
so he will practically adopt you? he'll take a teen in his house, work to feed you, dress you pay for your studies...
or will you just drop school and get a job? i dont think it is right in any way for a 16yo to live with a 23yo guy.
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myavf wrote:
KarroXx wrote:
beholder wrote:
I'm not telling you to dump this person, because I know you're aware there are always exceptions to the rules. But please approach this relationship with caution. Don't move in with him until you have spent a great deal of time with him in person.

I feel sick in my own house and he knows that, that's why he gave me the idea of moving in with him in the first place. Then he just kept giving me reasons of why it would be a perfect thing. Like "spend more time together" and so on.
After a while he got more realistic with it and now he is actually suggesting it... 
so he will practically adopt you? he'll take a teen in his house, work to feed you, dress you pay for your studies...
or will you just drop school and get a job? i dont think it is right in any way for a 16yo to live with a 23yo guy.
I'm studying on distance so I could still study from there. Plus I can get a job so it's not like I will be his pet...
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my ex is 21 and im 16 so i can relate :p
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KarroXx wrote:
myavf wrote:
KarroXx wrote:

I feel sick in my own house and he knows that, that's why he gave me the idea of moving in with him in the first place. Then he just kept giving me reasons of why it would be a perfect thing. Like "spend more time together" and so on.
After a while he got more realistic with it and now he is actually suggesting it... 
so he will practically adopt you? he'll take a teen in his house, work to feed you, dress you pay for your studies...
or will you just drop school and get a job? i dont think it is right in any way for a 16yo to live with a 23yo guy.
I'm studying on distance so I could still study from there. Plus I can get a job so it's not like I will be his pet...

what are you aiming for with this relationship? like what are your goals?  where do you picture yourself in 5 years? in life, generally.
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myavf wrote:
KarroXx wrote:
myavf wrote:
so he will practically adopt you? he'll take a teen in his house, work to feed you, dress you pay for your studies...
or will you just drop school and get a job? i dont think it is right in any way for a 16yo to live with a 23yo guy.
I'm studying on distance so I could still study from there. Plus I can get a job so it's not like I will be his pet...

what are you aiming for with this relationship? like what are your goals?  where do you picture yourself in 5 years? in life, generally.
I'm not sure... I was planning on just see where it leads. 
And in life, I want to work with something I love but that's all I know c:
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KarroXx wrote:
myavf wrote:
KarroXx wrote:

I feel sick in my own house and he knows that, that's why he gave me the idea of moving in with him in the first place. Then he just kept giving me reasons of why it would be a perfect thing. Like "spend more time together" and so on.
After a while he got more realistic with it and now he is actually suggesting it... 
so he will practically adopt you? he'll take a teen in his house, work to feed you, dress you pay for your studies...
or will you just drop school and get a job? i dont think it is right in any way for a 16yo to live with a 23yo guy.
I'm studying on distance so I could still study from there. Plus I can get a job so it's not like I will be his pet...
If u move in with him u are too dependable on him. Like where would you go when u break up? Back to ur parents in another country? Not that  simply done :-//
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vex wrote:
KarroXx wrote:
myavf wrote:
so he will practically adopt you? he'll take a teen in his house, work to feed you, dress you pay for your studies...
or will you just drop school and get a job? i dont think it is right in any way for a 16yo to live with a 23yo guy.
I'm studying on distance so I could still study from there. Plus I can get a job so it's not like I will be his pet...
If u move in with him u are too dependable on him. Like where would you go when u break up? Back to ur parents in another country? Not that  simply done :-//
Thx cx
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