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disintegration wrote:
here's a complicated one: should i get a nose job?

pastelice wrote:
depends. what are your specific reasons for getting a nose job? @disintegration 

bee wrote:
i met this boi two months ago at a party and he's really cute right
so we've been texting ever since but like our conversations are so boring. we just talk about our day when nothing really happened and when none of us know how to continue the conversation we just draw heart to each other, which is kinda cute but it get kinda idk monotone in the length you know. 
we have met once after the party at a movie night with some friends and we didnt talk all night??? we hugged hi and goodbye but nothing else. later he wrote that he was so sorry that he didnt talk to me or anything but he just didnt know how or something. told me he has never felt this way about someone before... 
its a problem cus im super shy and he's super shy so none of us really have the guts to take the first step. i really want to see him again and we talked about it and stuff but i really wish he would take initiative to do something.
also with the conversation thing i, as a very antisocial person, try my best to keep the conversation going but i never know what to write and he always answer wth something that just kills it. it kinda sounds like he dosen't like me but he friends told me he really do butt he's just really shy
idk where im going with this i just dont know what to do

it sounds like im a 12 year old with boy problems, im almost 18 help me

pastelice wrote:

i feel you should communicate that with him about it OR you should definitely try the question game, a game i usually play with the guys im talking to so i can get to know them. you ask a question, he answers it, and he asks one to you and you answer. basically it promotes conversations and perhaps he will be willing to talk about deeper things/not as boring things once you and him get to know each other. i used to date a very shy nerdy guy who has issues with intimacy, and although the conversations were boring at first, i got him to speak more by the question game and after we had barely any room to have boring small talk.

if you do that and it turns out it doesnt work, communicate with him about it. let him know you wish to have more complex conversations and that you feel your conversation is boring and lacks substance.

Giffi2 wrote:
In norway we have this thing lånekassen where we can borrow money for it and 40% of it we dont have to pay back (if we succeed in the year) so i do have the funds for it. It costs a lot of money both of my choices. I dont really know if I can go to the design school because I haven't succeeded high school, but there is a chance (gonna talk with a guidance on thursday and i have talk to ne of the schools). but i am just so unsure, because I dont really know if designing is my thing, but I really wanna know more about fashion and that stuff and it would be fun. BUT i would have to move to Oslo alone. I really want that, but at the same time, what if I cant handle it? thats why i am thinking about a folkehøgskole first because a friend of mine has applied for the same i have been thinking about. still have to move tho, but i live at the school and i have her there. so it would be like a test. but i kind of wanna go straight to into it. just move to oslo and yeah.
but its so scaaaary and i wanna do both

disintegration wrote:

it makes me insecure and i don't like how it makes my face look

pastelice wrote:

if you make a pro-con list, this may help you to sort your thoughts. basically, take one school and write down the pros and cons of it, and then do the same to the other school. if you find that the pros and cons are equal, then you should ask others what one you should go to. personally, i'd go to the folkehogskole due to the fact that i would be around a friend and i wouldn't have to put up with wondering if i could make it in that school. you can always start designing now and figure out if it's something you enjoy. as someone who as first wanted to be a graphic designer, i found that i always found art to be fun and a hobby, and doing it as a job would just kinda ruin it and put a downer on my imagination considering i would have to do it everyday and eventually i'd feel as though it's just something to get money instead of something i enjoy.

bee wrote:
that actually a very good idea 
but uuh.... what do i even ask him 

Giffi2 wrote:
You are right. I should really make a list. Oooo, graphic designer sound so exciting. Im not really very creative and cant draw so lmao, but i really want to. I remember when I was little I wanted to become a designer, but I was like "no i cant draw" and i stopped drawing. regret that, but hey im thinking about it again so.. But yeah. Im gonna make a list. Thank you <3

pastelice wrote:
different things. i usually start off with no substance questions (ex: what's your favorite restaurant) and then slowly transition to deeper topics (ex: what's the worst regret you have?) if you know some parts about him already and you want him to explain more, ask. also, the best way is to tell him "hey, if i ask a question you're uncomfortable with, let me know." and if you're alright with it, say "there is no limits to anything you ask. if you want to ask a personal question, go for it c:" this opens communication and it basically allows both of you to set any boundaries needed (: don't be too awkward with it though. @bee 

pastelice wrote:

that's exciting! however, you should definitely prepare yourself. many pets die at the vet due to being old, or just dying from numerous causes. they may come in severely injured, and you'll probably be unprepared and very anxious. in a way, you should prepare yourself to watch something like that happen. although, this sounds negative, it's the reality. 

make sure you come in acting like you're prepared and confident, even though you're not. also make sure you're prompt and get plenty of sleep before going. this could be a very good experience for it as long as you allow it to be (:

@Suchomimus 

bee wrote:
thank you so much!! im gonna do this(:

Suchomimus wrote:
ahhhhh thank u !!
i think i'll have to rly emotionally prepare myself for stuff like that yea
also bc they said they might let me watch operations

ohh i actually didn't think abt that !
i'll make sure i have lots of rest n eat n stuff like that so i can be at my best

thank u again !

pastelice wrote:

no problem! and do be polite to the veterinarians and the assistants and stuff! some may be agitated and may sound mean, but the best way to handle them is to be extremely friendly and polite and use manners. this gives off a very positive attitude and in turn will make them give you better reviews if you choose to use them as references for an actual job! @Suchomimus