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wug wrote:
i feel like people misunderstand what empathy is

Mymble wrote:
i dont mind them but also i dont like it if i mention i have autism and someone suddenly starts using tone tags when we've already had many conversations without them
also vp discussed this once and i was like you all are using it ironically/wrong anyways so what is the point

autism wrote:
i agree because i have no idea what empathy is i gave up on trying to understand it years ago it's too hard concept for my brain even math is easier and i'm badbad at math

wug wrote:
i think it's not normal behaviour to be fully aware of your own tone at all times, it sounds like some kind of mental thing like super obsessive, plus the "what did you mean" serves as two things like people can double down and continue to be offensive or they can back down and be like "it was a joke", like it gives people the option to choose how it was supposed to be read, without having planned it in advance, it's a part of interaction and the tone tag thing is just going to limit speech and understanding and i don't think it's going to help people on the spectrum in the long run and it's babying them like goo goo ga ga smol babie do not understand :' ( uwu and that's ableist as well 

GenderTeam wrote:
failed at finger snap rip should've saved it when i made one on accident

autism wrote:
yes i agree with this so much i want the interaction tonetags make me confused what is light hearted what is half joke

wug wrote:
people are here like empathy applies at all times no matter what and that's just not right, am i supposed to feel sorry for people all the time? that sounds condescending 

wug wrote:
it's a very weird way of solving something that, at least online, could be solved by just asking "what did you mean now?" 

Mymble wrote:
yes this is what i mean yes 
i dont tell people im autistic irl unless it is necessary, because when ive told old friends they end up treating me differently and i dont understand that logic  

autism wrote:
yes that's what i do in real life as well i don't understand why i shouldn't do it online it's very convenient

wug wrote:
i think most people i interact with online are autistic and i would be lying if i said it wasn't frustrating a few times, but in those cases it's just it's a me problem and i need to step back and not let myself be frustrated at something stupid and have understanding that it is difficult sometimes, and i always feel bad when i'm not able to calm my anger and yell at people because it's not the right way to deal with frustration but i think and hope i've become better at it. it is just those tiny nuances that are automatic to some people that, in my experience, is not always something people on the spectrum are as sensitive to and that sometimes lead to misunderstandings and that sucks, but if i am better at clarifying when i can tell that i was misunderstood, it should be better? 

autism wrote:
to me you always seem super calm and smart and neutral and very adult very snusmumrikken in all conversations so i think you do a good job whenever that happens to you you handle situations super well thank you for that i admire your skills in life

wug wrote:
communication seems to be the issue all the time, people are too proud to admit when they're confused about things and shit and it ends up in stupid things and it's annoying. 
sure it's possible to accommodate, but i feel like that's more about clarifying after a misunderstanding rather than explicitly explain every single thing as if everyone was born a minute ago