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lain wrote:
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i don't want to treat people based on these things like i don't want to treat people on the autism spectrum different from other people unless they have explicitly asked me to do so
yes this is what i mean yes 
i dont tell people im autistic irl unless it is necessary, because when ive told old friends they end up treating me differently and i dont understand that logic  
i think most people i interact with online are autistic and i would be lying if i said it wasn't frustrating a few times, but in those cases it's just it's a me problem and i need to step back and not let myself be frustrated at something stupid and have understanding that it is difficult sometimes, and i always feel bad when i'm not able to calm my anger and yell at people because it's not the right way to deal with frustration but i think and hope i've become better at it. it is just those tiny nuances that are automatic to some people that, in my experience, is not always something people on the spectrum are as sensitive to and that sometimes lead to misunderstandings and that sucks, but if i am better at clarifying when i can tell that i was misunderstood, it should be better? 
i can see how it can become frustrating yes 
and its so maddening (for me atleast) because i literally can not do anything about it, my brain will not function that way, i cant pick up on the cues automatically i have to do it manually and with pattern recognition 

however i just ask right out if i misunderstood, so i dont think i get into those situations where everyone gets frustrated a lot? 
i ask when im confused, i ask people to be patient, i have no problem with admitting that i think i have misunderstood something 

but also i dont feel like this is just an autistic thing either 
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Date: 18-12-2022 16:39
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wug wrote:
autism wrote:
wug wrote:
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yes that's what i do in real life as well i don't understand why i shouldn't do it online it's very convenient
communication seems to be the issue all the time, people are too proud to admit when they're confused about things and shit and it ends up in stupid things and it's annoying. 
sure it's possible to accommodate, but i feel like that's more about clarifying after a misunderstanding rather than explicitly explain every single thing as if everyone was born a minute ago 
yes agreed people should just learn to be openly confused it would make life much easier for everyone and some misunderstandings are very funny too so i don't mind them happening
yeah people should be less : S about communicating and expressing when something is unclear or bad and shit and the other person should address that in a mature way, that's the best way to deal with it instead of gaslighting and fighting and chaotic emotions and being hurt when there is no reason to be 
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Date: 18-12-2022 16:41
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autism wrote:
wug wrote:
autism wrote:
wug wrote:
i think most people i interact with online are autistic and i would be lying if i said it wasn't frustrating a few times, but in those cases it's just it's a me problem and i need to step back and not let myself be frustrated at something stupid and have understanding that it is difficult sometimes, and i always feel bad when i'm not able to calm my anger and yell at people because it's not the right way to deal with frustration but i think and hope i've become better at it. it is just those tiny nuances that are automatic to some people that, in my experience, is not always something people on the spectrum are as sensitive to and that sometimes lead to misunderstandings and that sucks, but if i am better at clarifying when i can tell that i was misunderstood, it should be better? 
to me you always seem super calm and smart and neutral and very adult very snusmumrikken in all conversations so i think you do a good job whenever that happens to you you handle situations super well thank you for that i admire your skills in life
i've had moments in private messages when i've gotten angry and said things i've regretted but a part of me is like apologising doesn't help because it shouldn't have happened because i should be better than being like that, but i work on it, sometimes i fail but then i just need to work harder on it next time 
yes reflecting on that kind of situations is so important that's probably why you've become very snusmumrikken maybe you reflect a lot and work hard that's why youre calm and cool
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Date: 18-12-2022 16:42
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WUG your magazines makes me cry, they are hilarious
Date: 18-12-2022 16:43
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Nesta wrote:
WUG your magazines makes me cry, they are hilarious
also tell me if you wanna have the red unique hair i won as hostage while i borrow the summer dress from you 
Date: 18-12-2022 16:44 | Times changed: 1
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wug wrote:
Mymble wrote:
wug wrote:
Mymble wrote:
yes this is what i mean yes 
i dont tell people im autistic irl unless it is necessary, because when ive told old friends they end up treating me differently and i dont understand that logic  
i think most people i interact with online are autistic and i would be lying if i said it wasn't frustrating a few times, but in those cases it's just it's a me problem and i need to step back and not let myself be frustrated at something stupid and have understanding that it is difficult sometimes, and i always feel bad when i'm not able to calm my anger and yell at people because it's not the right way to deal with frustration but i think and hope i've become better at it. it is just those tiny nuances that are automatic to some people that, in my experience, is not always something people on the spectrum are as sensitive to and that sometimes lead to misunderstandings and that sucks, but if i am better at clarifying when i can tell that i was misunderstood, it should be better? 
i can see how it can become frustrating yes 
and its so maddening (for me atleast) because i literally can not do anything about it, my brain will not function that way, i cant pick up on the cues automatically i have to do it manually and with pattern recognition 

however i just ask right out if i misunderstood, so i dont think i get into those situations where everyone gets frustrated a lot? 
i ask when im confused, i ask people to be patient, i have no problem with admitting that i think i have misunderstood something 

but also i dont feel like this is just an autistic thing either 
yeah i've heard people explain how they do things that for me is as basic as breathing and i can understand that it's not a great way of experiencing things and that it is exhausting. 

people should be better at being patient, but i think it's difficult for a lot of people to understand how much processing is involved in language and communication. it is super detailed and extremely complicated, so having to be focused on it rather than do it "naturally" is a mental work out session. 

i feel like the difference is that for autistic people it's often like it has to be consciously done at all times and at some point you reach the maximum of doing that like it's too much and then it gets bad, while others seemingly misinterpret things on purpose just to be cunts or read the absolute worst meaning into something because they are gremlins. of course confusion can occur at all times, i just think it's how you approach it that matters really. 
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Date: 18-12-2022 16:45
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wug wrote:
Nesta wrote:
Nesta wrote:
WUG your magazines makes me cry, they are hilarious
also tell me if you wanna have the red unique hair i won as hostage while i borrow the summer dress from you 
i'm not a massive fan of it and i trust you 
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Date: 18-12-2022 16:46
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wug wrote:
Nesta wrote:
WUG your magazines makes me cry, they are hilarious
lmao 
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Date: 18-12-2022 16:46
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wug wrote:
autism wrote:
wug wrote:
autism wrote:
to me you always seem super calm and smart and neutral and very adult very snusmumrikken in all conversations so i think you do a good job whenever that happens to you you handle situations super well thank you for that i admire your skills in life
i've had moments in private messages when i've gotten angry and said things i've regretted but a part of me is like apologising doesn't help because it shouldn't have happened because i should be better than being like that, but i work on it, sometimes i fail but then i just need to work harder on it next time 
yes reflecting on that kind of situations is so important that's probably why you've become very snusmumrikken maybe you reflect a lot and work hard that's why youre calm and cool
thank you 
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wug wrote:
Nesta wrote:
WUG your magazines makes me cry, they are hilarious
lmao 
honestly the one w spiderman even if i'm too broke to buy it... 
and itch will i stop itching 

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Date: 18-12-2022 16:47
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wrote:
wug wrote:
Nesta wrote:
Nesta wrote:
WUG your magazines makes me cry, they are hilarious
also tell me if you wanna have the red unique hair i won as hostage while i borrow the summer dress from you 
i'm not a massive fan of it and i trust you 
okay 
Date: 18-12-2022 16:47
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wrote:
Nesta wrote:
wug wrote:
Nesta wrote:
also tell me if you wanna have the red unique hair i won as hostage while i borrow the summer dress from you 
i'm not a massive fan of it and i trust you 
okay 
tell me when u want it back tho 
Date: 18-12-2022 16:47
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wug wrote:
Nesta wrote:
wug wrote:
Nesta wrote:
WUG your magazines makes me cry, they are hilarious
lmao 
honestly the one w spiderman even if i'm too broke to buy it... 
and itch will i stop itching 

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lmao 
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Date: 18-12-2022 16:47
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that whole debate is so stupid, if theyre so mad about people not wanting to use tonetags they can go over to everskies
Date: 18-12-2022 16:47
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wrote:
Nesta wrote:
Nesta wrote:
WUG your magazines makes me cry, they are hilarious
also tell me if you wanna have the red unique hair i won as hostage while i borrow the summer dress from you 
can i have the red unique hair you won as a hostage im poor
Date: 18-12-2022 16:48
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