DeIure wrote:commander2 wrote:DeIure wrote:
Not yet! I'm a semi-anonymous donor (i think that's what it's called at least) so they get my information from the clinic when they turn 18 and not before, so there's still some years left. I chose not to do it openly, because I know how terrible the teenage phase can be, and I was worried I would end up in the middle of it. Also, I had just entered a relationship, and if we got any children later on, I would feel more comfortable about my children not bringing home a partner that shared some similarities with me, without being able to verify whether they shared genes or not.
It's honestly really interesting to see how different people feel about donations, because the donors, the children and the people who received the donation all have very different ideas of the thoughts of the other people.
Yee here they're all like that mostly as far as I know, I do know anonymous donations aren't allowed here anymore and I'm glad about that. But after doing like more research I feel like I'd prefer for them to just be able to contact as soon as they would want to and not have to wait til 18. Cause I'm rlly like eeeee I don't wanna feel like I'm keeping info from them or something?
I think ideally it'd be via a good friend bc then I also just know the person n he could just be more of an uncle figure or whatever? but then at the same time those situations can get messy too 😔
Makes me feel very jealous of cishets lol
On the other hand, it might be better for them to wait until they're 18, because they have a lot of confliction feelings before. If it's the law and you physically can't give them the information, then it's not your fault after all.
Well, that's also possible! I think you should look up some alternative ways to have a family and see the options. I heard an interview of a lesbian and gay couple who'd decided to buy a house together and then get two children together, and it honestly sounded like an amazing scenario.
Cishets have their own troubles, and I honestly don't think you should feel jealous if you see some of the crazy cases that goes around.
Yeah idk I notice I'm like super scared of somehow hurting them bc I was too selfish to opt out of my child wish or something like that