Sandcastle wrote:Adaarda wrote:
Ok, so my boyfriend has gotten mad/sad about me telling him I don't like to have sex that much or when I don't want to have sex, but that's because he thinks it's because I don't find him physically attractive anymore.
Ohh. Now I get what you mean by "you sound like me" comment.
Being in a situation like that sucks..
Maybe tell him that it has nothing to do with that?
For example, I am really attracted to my boyfriend but still, that doesn't mean that I'm always willing to have sex with him. There is such a thing as not being in the mood. I wish some guys could understand that better.
I have a really low sex drive (probably because of mental health) so it's a struggle tbh. I told him that it isn't him being the problem, and that the fact that I didn't want sex that often just is how it is (he also has a very high sex drive, so there's that). He didn't understand it at first but he has worked on it, and he knows that he isn't the peoblem even tho he feels like it sometimes, and I think that really has helped him a lot in understanding and coming to terms with it.