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bee wrote:
which is very weird since i have been basically friendless since i was 18

i guess going out and getting shitfaced to socialize payed off??

i feel very scared and anxious but also excited and giggling like a little kid. i also feel really bad for not including my really close and only friend. like we have been doing everything together since we met half a year ago, but its so nice to explore other friendships without her and feel myself being confident in being independent? idk i feel like im going behind her back going to this event with new people next week and not including her

having no friends at all would be nice so i could stop overthinking and worrying, but i gotta be honest this kinda feels nice too!

Dwaal
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Dwaal wrote:
It's okay to not always bring someone! Esp if it's something new, which it sound like it is!

Ofc when you've established the friendship in the new you should invite her at least once, otherwise it could be read as you only "Needing" her when you got nothing else, and that you don't feel close enough to include her in other activities.

But that said, you also need to be careful of it backfiring, and her being more "included" and invited than you (if that makes sense? )..

I've been in both positions and tbf none of them are fun, but yea relationships are complicated, and annoying, but also so so giving, I'm glad to hear you're finding friendships!

LexiLuvsKirby
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LexiLuvsKirby wrote:
I'm glad!
I wish I was able to make friends lmao

Elisia
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elisia wrote:
fun thing about clubbing, is you relax, and also those are some of the coolest chillest people!

im very proud of u putting rself ou there and being honest

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bee wrote:

Dwaal wrote:
It's okay to not always bring someone! Esp if it's something new, which it sound like it is!

Ofc when you've established the friendship in the new you should invite her at least once, otherwise it could be read as you only "Needing" her when you got nothing else, and that you don't feel close enough to include her in other activities.

But that said, you also need to be careful of it backfiring, and her being more "included" and invited than you (if that makes sense? )..

I've been in both positions and tbf none of them are fun, but yea relationships are complicated, and annoying, but also so so giving, I'm glad to hear you're finding friendships!

yea and i definitely want to invite her along, but right now i also just want to enjoy this feeling of establishing new friendships on my own while not on the verge of screaming crying throwing up

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bee wrote:

LexiLuvsKirby wrote:
I'm glad!
I wish I was able to make friends lmao

getting to this point in my life where im able to socialize and build new relations without feeling like im actually dying is such a big achievement for me and getting here is probably the hardest thing i have ever done
if i can do this so can you!! it really just require a ton of willingness, energy and prioritizing

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bee wrote:

elisia wrote:
fun thing about clubbing, is you relax, and also those are some of the coolest chillest people!

im very proud of u putting rself ou there and being honest

yes really, you can just go talk to a bunch of people and not be serious. maybe its not healthy getting drunk every weekend, but clubbing is really the environment i have found to be the easiest for me to open up and meet new people. i have really grown from it. now i have met people who want to do things with me outside of clubbing and it makes me so excited and giggly

and thank you so much, im really proud of myself too <3

Elisia
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elisia wrote:
Big changes start with small steps!

You wont go out drinking and clubbing forever, enjoy it while you do!

***enjoy responsibly