murdurur wrote: ugh i hate it when that happens. you might want to try this one, basically the same test but it gives you a description of each bar instead of giving you a single result based on your highest percentage
You have a fundamental belief that you will lose the people you love and be left emotionally isolated. Whether you imagine that they will die, send you away, or leave you, somehow you feel that it is inevitable that you will be left alone. You expect to be abandoned, and you see the state of loneliness as the default condition in your life. In your heart, you feel it is your destiny to live completely alone. You often read the intent to abandon you into even innocent remarks made by others. Anything that feels like others have disengaged can trigger these fears in you, even if there is no actual danger. Once triggered, you tend to go through a cycle of negative emotions – anger, grief, and fear. People with abandonment can be alone for long periods of time. They might withdraw from close relationships out of hurt, or out of fear of being hurt again. Many have already faced loneliness as children and know they can survive it. Loneliness is not the issue. Rather, it is the process of separation that is devastating – that is, having a connection and then losing it, only to be thrown back into loneliness once more.
Yoko wrote: Your lifetrap is:VulnerabilityYour primary feeling is one of anxiety. You feel as if catastrophe is about to strike at any hour, and that you lack the resources to deal with it. Your fearful outlook is two-pronged: You exaggerate the risk of danger and minimize your capacity to cope. You feel anxious most of the time as you go about your daily life. You worry so much about possible accidents or illnesses that you take unnecessary precautions. You may at times in your life have become a burden to your family and loved ones because of your constant need for reassurance. It is possible that these fears have hampered your ability to enjoy aspects of your life.You may suffer from panic attacks as a result of your preoccupation with risk and harm. When you weigh the costs and benefits of taking a risk, your primary concerns are safety and security. Being safe is more important than any possible gain. Life for you is not a process of seeking fulfillment and joy, but rather a process of trying to contain danger. Your chronic anxiety may in fact make you vulnerable to certain psychosomatic illnesses (eczema, asthma, ulcers, the flu). It is possible that you rely on medication, alcohol, or food to counteract your chronic anxiety. But a psychosomatic disorder involves both mind and body. Curing the body is easy, but fixing the mind is hard.
Your lifetrap is: Multiple Lifetraps You appear to have multiple, equally prominent lifetraps. It is possible that you have several lifetraps that are all strongly expressed and which co-exist in you. But, on the other hand, it is also possible that one of these lifetraps is your primary one and that the others merely accentuate it. We are unable to say. For the same reason, we are also incapable of giving you a more personalized description. But you can consult the charts below in order to see which lifetraps you scored the strongest on.
murdurur wrote: ugh i hate it when that happens. you might want to try this one, basically the same test but it gives you a description of each bar instead of giving you a single result based on your highest percentage
this test i got ]Lifetrap Strength Failure very strong Punitiveness very strong Insufficient self-control very strong Approval seeking very strong Defectiveness very strong Abandonment very strong Sosial isolation very strong Emotional deprivation very strong Pessimism strong Subjugation strong Entitlement strong Dependence strong Self-sacrifice strong Emotional inhibation strong Vulnerablity strong Unrelenting standards medium Abuse medium Enmeshment medium
Heartbroken wrote: Your lifetrap is:AbandonmentYou have a fundamental belief that you will lose the people you love and be left emotionally isolated. Whether you imagine that they will die, send you away, or leave you, somehow you feel that it is inevitable that you will be left alone. You expect to be abandoned, and you see the state of loneliness as the default condition in your life. In your heart, you feel it is your destiny to live completely alone. You often read the intent to abandon you into even innocent remarks made by others. Anything that feels like others have disengaged can trigger these fears in you, even if there is no actual danger. Once triggered, you tend to go through a cycle of negative emotions – anger, grief, and fear.People with abandonment can be alone for long periods of time. They might withdraw from close relationships out of hurt, or out of fear of being hurt again. Many have already faced loneliness as children and know they can survive it. Loneliness is not the issue. Rather, it is the process of separation that is devastating – that is, having a connection and then losing it, only to be thrown back into loneliness once more.YUP.