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okay my reply isn't just gonna be abt the trans part of this debate but the overall dating preferences shtick
you can't control who you are attracted to: true
BUT your preferences are shaped by the way you were brought up which is most likely a postcolonial, patriarchal society that was shaped by the desires and ideals of the priviledged and powerful, the ideas of often white centered beauty, the ideas of how femininity and masculinity has to look, acceptable family constellations (just going back in history and realizing just how much christianity has shaped morals and societal order yikes), how society schould be structured, ....
On the other hand there is autonomy, every person should have autonomy over their body, i firmly believe that it's one of the most important concepts of a progressive society. No one should force you to make decisions about your body, dating, sex you are not okay with.
No one should force you to date someone of a different 'race', religion(ugh that term is such bs but that's a story for another time), or a trans person or someone of a gender you don't want to.
however, a little critical thinking never hurts so maybe ask yourself why exactly you have specific preferences like ' i wouldn't even consider dating eg a black person or a trans person.'
Being a little open won't hurt, i feel like people are very narrow minded when it comes to dating these days, we have all these unrealistic fantasies that stop us from having functional healthy relationships.
It's important to know your boundaries and respect yourself enough to make healthy choices for your own life, no one can take that away from you, just try to be kind to other people and open to their voices to make informed choices.
okay my reply isn't just gonna be abt the trans part of this debate but the overall dating preferences shtick
you can't control who you are attracted to: true
BUT your preferences are shaped by the way you were brought up which is most likely a postcolonial, patriarchal society that was shaped by the desires and ideals of the priviledged and powerful, the ideas of often white centered beauty, the ideas of how femininity and masculinity has to look, acceptable family constellations (just going back in history and realizing just how much christianity has shaped morals and societal order yikes), how society schould be structured, ....
On the other hand there is autonomy, every person should have autonomy over their body, i firmly believe that it's one of the most important concepts of a progressive society. No one should force you to make decisions about your body, dating, sex you are not okay with.
No one should force you to date someone of a different 'race', religion(ugh that term is such bs but that's a story for another time), or a trans person or someone of a gender you don't want to.
however, a little critical thinking never hurts so maybe ask yourself why exactly you have specific preferences like ' i wouldn't even consider dating eg a black person or a trans person.'
Being a little open won't hurt, i feel like people are very narrow minded when it comes to dating these days, we have all these unrealistic fantasies that stop us from having functional healthy relationships.
It's important to know your boundaries and respect yourself enough to make healthy choices for your own life, no one can take that away from you, just try to be kind to other people and open to their voices to make informed choices.
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