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Barbarella wrote:
Claire wrote:
Barbarella wrote:
Claire wrote:
its very common for women to not be diagnosed with adhd and similar disorders until theyre adults
That's what my therapist said
on that note she has not diagnosed me, of course
she just put me on a path to getting a diagnosis if there is one to be had.
I'm glad shes better than my last therapist and when she didn't have an answer she referred me out to someone who can help.

the whole thing with me even going to a therapist at all was just two weeks of totally out-of-control symptoms and I don't understand why it'd suddenly get worse or I'd lose my ability to manage thru it unless I just totally cracked under stress or something.

I have friends in mental health care who legitimately would not allow me to continue fucking my shit up haha

i ccan only speculate and im not a doctor and i literally know nothing and am an idiot but i imagine the shit with your old roommate has created extra stress and also you have physical pain which can influence mental issues and vice versa

like i can absolutely see you having more adhd type symptoms during and after that ordeal without even considering anything else youre going thru.
I didn't realize it until like I started trying to journal it out but I think I've probably had episodes like this in the past at other high-stress times, but I always had a job or a roommate that distracted me from the full effects.
I also have been fired, often, during my highest stressed points. That's why I'm starting DBT for emotional regulation because I can't just like, not work forever.

when my therapist asked me about substitute teaching (which I was fired from because of...well, a temporary loss of my verbal filter lol), and how I managed anxiety in such a high stress job, I mentioned the fluorescent lights and the buzzing and she lit up and that was when she was like "thats a super common adhd trigger" 
oh crazy
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Date: 31-03-2021 00:55
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Barbarella wrote:
Crawk wrote:
as someone who's afab we tend to get diagnoses quite late,, unfortunately,, i don't have adhd, but i have autism n got it diagnosed right before my 18th birthday
n like i had suffered so much for years before a psychiatrist at the ed-clinic suggested i'd do a test 2 see if i'd have aspergers (the term they used back then) n well turned out i had it all along and explained my whole childhood n my difficulties

i hope u can get the answers for ur struggles ! as it's easier when u know what u have (or don't have)

tbh it's so shitty one has to go through what feels a lifetime of thinking ur weird or like not functioning properly like everyone else,,, truly messes with ur head
That's gotta feel so good to finally know!


I did good in school but had a super hard time making friends and got berated by adults a lot without really understanding why.
I also think I could have just never learned how to...properly exist and function because my mom wasn't able to teach me.
Which is why I'm glad I've got a psych and therapist now, so I'm covered at either extreme lol
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Date: 31-03-2021 01:00
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hutsu wrote:
i got diagnosed with adhd at 18 kinda by an accident. i had some psychological tests done to look for perceptual disorder or something similar because i struggled with high school classes. my mum was studying in the uni to become a social worker and she took some med school classes with a separate permit at the time, and she told me that they were learning about add/adhd and it felt very familiar. i suggested her theory to the psychologist and my doctor and they ended up diagnosing me. i'm still grateful that she pointed it out.
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Date: 31-03-2021 01:01
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Ground wrote:
Barbarella wrote:
Crawk wrote:
as someone who's afab we tend to get diagnoses quite late,, unfortunately,, i don't have adhd, but i have autism n got it diagnosed right before my 18th birthday
n like i had suffered so much for years before a psychiatrist at the ed-clinic suggested i'd do a test 2 see if i'd have aspergers (the term they used back then) n well turned out i had it all along and explained my whole childhood n my difficulties

i hope u can get the answers for ur struggles ! as it's easier when u know what u have (or don't have)

tbh it's so shitty one has to go through what feels a lifetime of thinking ur weird or like not functioning properly like everyone else,,, truly messes with ur head
That's gotta feel so good to finally know!


I did good in school but had a super hard time making friends and got berated by adults a lot without really understanding why.
I also think I could have just never learned how to...properly exist and function because my mom wasn't able to teach me.
Which is why I'm glad I've got a psych and therapist now, so I'm covered at either extreme lol
it truly is ! i've been able to work on stuff n have improved especially socially with eye contact, body language etc !

i feel u on that, i barely had any and usually the ones i had were being mean as well
sorry u had to go through that, it's hard without guidance < / 3
i'm glad ur getting help! it's a sign towards a healthier future for ur wellbeing ! honestly i wish u luck and that things will get easier for you <3
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Date: 31-03-2021 01:03
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Barbarella wrote:
hutsu wrote:
i got diagnosed with adhd at 18 kinda by an accident. i had some psychological tests done to look for perceptual disorder or something similar because i struggled with high school classes. my mum was studying in the uni to become a social worker and she took some med school classes with a separate permit at the time, and she told me that they were learning about add/adhd and it felt very familiar. i suggested her theory to the psychologist and my doctor and they ended up diagnosing me. i'm still grateful that she pointed it out.
Dude it is life changing to have folks in your every day life with some mental health education. 
My best friend is studying to be a social worker and she was the one who finally put the pieces together and talked me into making some appointments.
she was like, "I do not know what is wrong but something is not right"
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Date: 31-03-2021 01:03
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Barbarella wrote:
Crawk wrote:
Barbarella wrote:
Crawk wrote:
as someone who's afab we tend to get diagnoses quite late,, unfortunately,, i don't have adhd, but i have autism n got it diagnosed right before my 18th birthday
n like i had suffered so much for years before a psychiatrist at the ed-clinic suggested i'd do a test 2 see if i'd have aspergers (the term they used back then) n well turned out i had it all along and explained my whole childhood n my difficulties

i hope u can get the answers for ur struggles ! as it's easier when u know what u have (or don't have)

tbh it's so shitty one has to go through what feels a lifetime of thinking ur weird or like not functioning properly like everyone else,,, truly messes with ur head
That's gotta feel so good to finally know!


I did good in school but had a super hard time making friends and got berated by adults a lot without really understanding why.
I also think I could have just never learned how to...properly exist and function because my mom wasn't able to teach me.
Which is why I'm glad I've got a psych and therapist now, so I'm covered at either extreme lol
it truly is ! i've been able to work on stuff n have improved especially socially with eye contact, body language etc !

i feel u on that, i barely had any and usually the ones i had were being mean as well
sorry u had to go through that, it's hard without guidance < / 3
i'm glad ur getting help! it's a sign towards a healthier future for ur wellbeing ! honestly i wish u luck and that things will get easier for you <3
thank you!

even if it is nothing and just turns out I have a shitty personality and bad work ethic after all, at least I'm starting this DBT so I can do better and not inflict this damage on anyone else in my life lol
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Date: 31-03-2021 01:05
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Ground wrote:
Barbarella wrote:
Crawk wrote:
Barbarella wrote:
That's gotta feel so good to finally know!


I did good in school but had a super hard time making friends and got berated by adults a lot without really understanding why.
I also think I could have just never learned how to...properly exist and function because my mom wasn't able to teach me.
Which is why I'm glad I've got a psych and therapist now, so I'm covered at either extreme lol
it truly is ! i've been able to work on stuff n have improved especially socially with eye contact, body language etc !

i feel u on that, i barely had any and usually the ones i had were being mean as well
sorry u had to go through that, it's hard without guidance < / 3
i'm glad ur getting help! it's a sign towards a healthier future for ur wellbeing ! honestly i wish u luck and that things will get easier for you <3
thank you!

even if it is nothing and just turns out I have a shitty personality and bad work ethic after all, at least I'm starting this DBT so I can do better and not inflict this damage on anyone else in my life lol
getting help in general is good and can surely improve things like that too !!
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Date: 31-03-2021 01:07
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hutsu wrote:
Barbarella wrote:
hutsu wrote:
i got diagnosed with adhd at 18 kinda by an accident. i had some psychological tests done to look for perceptual disorder or something similar because i struggled with high school classes. my mum was studying in the uni to become a social worker and she took some med school classes with a separate permit at the time, and she told me that they were learning about add/adhd and it felt very familiar. i suggested her theory to the psychologist and my doctor and they ended up diagnosing me. i'm still grateful that she pointed it out.
Dude it is life changing to have folks in your every day life with some mental health education. 
My best friend is studying to be a social worker and she was the one who finally put the pieces together and talked me into making some appointments.
she was like, "I do not know what is wrong but something is not right"
as i've said before, i'm so so happy for you having people like her around you!! this will help you A LOT. just remember to put in all the work you can, especially when you don't want to/feel like it/believe that you have it in you. that's how to break behavioural patterns. i just had a talk with my mum tonight about how i tried my hardest to learn how to do things better when i started on adhd meds, and i feel like it's changed my life. then i spotted out to my ex that he shows a lot of signs of adhd, and he got his meds but didn't even try to change anything about himself. i feel lowkey responsible that he got on the wrong track with drugs again because of that, but like we'd just met.......didn't try to undermine his life but i think i accidentally did
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Date: 31-03-2021 01:11
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Barbarella wrote:
hutsu wrote:
Barbarella wrote:
hutsu wrote:
i got diagnosed with adhd at 18 kinda by an accident. i had some psychological tests done to look for perceptual disorder or something similar because i struggled with high school classes. my mum was studying in the uni to become a social worker and she took some med school classes with a separate permit at the time, and she told me that they were learning about add/adhd and it felt very familiar. i suggested her theory to the psychologist and my doctor and they ended up diagnosing me. i'm still grateful that she pointed it out.
Dude it is life changing to have folks in your every day life with some mental health education. 
My best friend is studying to be a social worker and she was the one who finally put the pieces together and talked me into making some appointments.
she was like, "I do not know what is wrong but something is not right"
as i've said before, i'm so so happy for you having people like her around you!! this will help you A LOT. just remember to put in all the work you can, especially when you don't want to/feel like it/believe that you have it in you. that's how to break behavioural patterns. i just had a talk with my mum tonight about how i tried my hardest to learn how to do things better when i started on adhd meds, and i feel like it's changed my life. then i spotted out to my ex that he shows a lot of signs of adhd, and he got his meds but didn't even try to change anything about himself. i feel lowkey responsible that he got on the wrong track with drugs again because of that, but like we'd just met.......didn't try to undermine his life but i think i accidentally did
I think sometimes even our kindest intended actions have deep selfish roots we have to work on
I enabled a lot of addictive behavior in my ex because I love and respect addicts like any other human, but really deep down I probably just didn't want to be alone

everyone is responsible for their own behavior, we don't force anyone into substance abuse, but its definitely healthy to recognize the roles we play, at least for our own personal journey.
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Date: 31-03-2021 01:15
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hutsu wrote:
also congrats about the dbt, i've done that several times but basically got kicked out for telling about my did symptoms. i hope you get a kick ass dbt therapist, i loved the first one i had. he helped me stop cutting/other severe sh completely at 15 after like 7 years. he was amazing and gave me so much, but that's the most concrete example.
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Date: 31-03-2021 01:16
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hutsu wrote:
Barbarella wrote:
hutsu wrote:
Barbarella wrote:
Dude it is life changing to have folks in your every day life with some mental health education. 
My best friend is studying to be a social worker and she was the one who finally put the pieces together and talked me into making some appointments.
she was like, "I do not know what is wrong but something is not right"
as i've said before, i'm so so happy for you having people like her around you!! this will help you A LOT. just remember to put in all the work you can, especially when you don't want to/feel like it/believe that you have it in you. that's how to break behavioural patterns. i just had a talk with my mum tonight about how i tried my hardest to learn how to do things better when i started on adhd meds, and i feel like it's changed my life. then i spotted out to my ex that he shows a lot of signs of adhd, and he got his meds but didn't even try to change anything about himself. i feel lowkey responsible that he got on the wrong track with drugs again because of that, but like we'd just met.......didn't try to undermine his life but i think i accidentally did
I think sometimes even our kindest intended actions have deep selfish roots we have to work on
I enabled a lot of addictive behavior in my ex because I love and respect addicts like any other human, but really deep down I probably just didn't want to be alone

everyone is responsible for their own behavior, we don't force anyone into substance abuse, but its definitely healthy to recognize the roles we play, at least for our own personal journey.
honestly i'd known him for like 2 days at that point (i'm pretty quick to spot things in people) and had NO idea what a rollercoaster it'd turn out to be. like... i couldn't have guessed i'd break up with the guy i was back then, get together with this new guy i told he probably has adhd while helping him clean his flat because i like cleaning and he was struggling with it, and that he'd end up acting like addicts often do and treating me bad. i'll probably need to learn to keep my mouth shut. anyway i'm glad you're seeing things clearly!! it's a pretty cool experience 
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