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Solar
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Solar wrote:

DaddyIssues wrote:

Conqueror wrote:

Mymble wrote:
wtf
id tell him to give back your stuff and stop contacting you tbh

yeah, this def is the best thing u can do in this situation. i feel like you need to cut him off for your own wellbeing. try to get your stuff back asap. if he's being an asshole abt the stuff, either let it go (if the stuff isn't too valuable) or you could get the police involved
if he's been holding onto it for a year, he sounds like a real ass

The stuff is in his car in another city so it's not like he is trying to keep it away from me.

I dont know. It's like. People hear the age gap and he is the villan. But it's way more complicated than that. And I still love him, (I dont trust him, but I love him), so i cant see the situation as it truly is either

for me its not so much abt the age gap (though i do have to admit i don't like it either) and more abt him just being an ass in general. the fact that he's sending u flirty texts while he has a gf, the fact that his new gf is someone he already knew when u guys were together and got together with right after you guys broke up. he just doesn't sound like a nice guy, age gap or no

Solar
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Solar wrote:
also, telling u he was ashamed of u is so mean. so mean. you don't deserve that at all

Private
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DaddyIssues wrote:

Conqueror wrote:
also, telling u he was ashamed of u is so mean. so mean. you don't deserve that at all

Yea, but this is just my whole history of men in a nutshell. So maybe the bar isn't super high...

I mean, I legit can't say one good male role-model I've had.

My dad was a drunk who died when I was 7.

My brother would hit me.

The teacher I looked up to the most would touch me, I was 14.

My first boyfriend told me I was nice to fuck, but not worthy of love.

My second boyfriend tried to kill himself and blame it on me.

My ex-fwb would hide me away from everyone he know (I worked with his friend and I was never allowed to even tell her that I knew him)

I had a friend who would try to pressure me into having sex with him "since he always had loved me"

Another dude I dated drugged and raped me

Another guy threatened to rape me since "I was a slut" cause I slept with someone else 6 months after we had a one-night-stand (This is also one of my brothers closest friends)

One of the kindest person I ever met told me he no longer could have contact with me since his girlfriend didn't like that he had friends that was girls. I mean this dude made me a Spotify playlist with my name so I "always had something to listen to and feel special" when I felt down. I'm not joking when he blocked me he just wrote "You are one of the kindest people I have ever met", then instantly blocked me on every social media. This hurt more than any other shit I've been through.

I then dated a guy that would make me feel bad every-time I didn't want to sleep with him. He also once accidentally punched me in the face and refused to say sorry.

So the bar might not be as high as it should and that could possibly really cloud my judgement... I mean this guy (that the thread is about) is someone that genially treated me like a person and not just an object you could push around. And that might be one of the thing that makes it so hard to let him go. Not that he was a magical once in a life time person. Just that he could act like a normal person and that I've never felt like that before... Actually seen.

Solar
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Solar wrote:

DaddyIssues wrote:

Conqueror wrote:
also, telling u he was ashamed of u is so mean. so mean. you don't deserve that at all

Yea, but this is just my whole history of men in a nutshell. So maybe the bar isn't super high...

I mean, I legit can't say one good male role-model I've had.

My dad was a drunk who died when I was 7.

My brother would hit me.

The teacher I looked up to the most would touch me, I was 14.

My first boyfriend told me I was nice to fuck, but not worthy of love.

My second boyfriend tried to kill himself and blame it on me.

My ex-fwb would hide me away from everyone he know (I worked with his friend and I was never allowed to even tell her that I knew him)

I had a friend who would try to pressure me into having sex with him "since he always had loved me"

Another dude I dated drugged and raped me

Another guy threatened to rape me since "I was a slut" cause I slept with someone else 6 months after we had a one-night-stand (This is also one of my brothers closest friends)

One of the kindest person I ever met told me he no longer could have contact with me since his girlfriend didn't like that he had friends that was girls. I mean this dude made me a Spotify playlist with my name so I "always had something to listen to and feel special" when I felt down. I'm not joking when he blocked me he just wrote "You are one of the kindest people I have ever met", then instantly blocked me on every social media. This hurt more than any other shit I've been through.

I then dated a guy that would make me feel bad every-time I didn't want to sleep with him. He also once accidentally punched me in the face and refused to say sorry.

So the bar might not be as high as it should and that could possibly really cloud my judgement... I mean this guy (that the thread is about) is someone that genially treated me like a person and not just an object you could push around. And that might be one of the thing that makes it so hard to let him go. Not that he was a magical once in a life time person. Just that he could act like a normal person and that I've never felt like that before... Actually seen.

im so sorry all this happened to you. you are worthy of all the love in the world. please don't settle for some guy who does the bare minimum - you are worth so much more. being treated like a person is a BASE RIGHT, not something romantic!! don't idolize this man just because he did something every guy is supposed to do.