MasileinDE wrote:bee wrote:MasileinDE wrote:
okay, if it's about your dad and someone else, then it's still kinda weird, but also ... idk, they're adults, they're their own people, they can do whatever they want and have to live with potential consequences, so ... weird, yeah, but whatever I guess?
true. only reason i care about this is because i care about my mom and i dont want her to get hurt. and because my mom is always working her ass off. shes so stressed at work but she manages to provide the only income for this house of four adults. while also cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, mowing our huge lawn, keeping the garden neat, everything really. while my dad is home every single day, laying on the cough and watch tv, spending the money she earns on booze and cigarettes. my dad dont deserve this bonding with a nice person who shows up with baked goods for him, whatever the intention is. its making me bitter
I mean, yeah, but what would you do about it
either it's nothing and no harm done or it is something and then you wouldn't be able to prevent her from being hurt
you can be there for her and understand, but this is so out of your reach and responsibility. you can do everything in your power to help her with her workload, but emotional management for other people is just something we humans can't do, no matter how much it sucks.
im still gonna be bitter about it but yes youre absolutely right