Melody wrote:
my parents r very faithful to one another - they've been married for 10+ years and have known each other for little less than 40 out of which they've been together for around the same amount. i know dad has for instance told mom if he has accidentally gotten into a flirty situation with a woman when he's been drunk the previous night (i wasn't supposed to hear abt it)
that being said, it would b extremely hard for me to tell either of them. i don't rly think it's my business either, so it'd take either of them to tell me abt it, which i would in return tell them it's a shitty situation they r putting me in and urge them to tell the other, drastically lowering my respect for the one who tells me abt it
i think most of our dads are around 40-50s rn? i know for a fact that at least my dad was raised v shittily so he developed and "inherited" toxic masculinity, out of which i think he's been slowly progressing to grow out of but it's not an easy journey. he swore to not raise me and my sister the way his father raised him, though idk if the would have treated an amab kid differently
the above paragraph i think plays a major part in all of our habit of having harder time to confess things to our dads. times were rougher in their childhood, and yet it doesn't excuse their bad behavior (entirely). i also find it harder to tell things to my dad bc he's far more passive than my mom (unless he drinks, which stresses me greatly bc i can't stand alcohol), but when it's something more urgent i'm not afraid, but hesitant, to tell him abt it