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Rouya wrote:
murdurur wrote:
C4TH3DR4L wrote:
I feel like the odd one out here after reading the comments

I actually don't mind porn itself, like if everything is consensual. But the problem is though that you can never know if it is or not, which is horrible x10000 if it isn't, like there is no way anyone can know the origin behind etc etc. It's a lot of abuse in the industry and private people getting unwanted stuff leaked
i think it's really worrying that porn addiction is a rapidly growing problem, expecially considering the biggest risk group is boys ages 10-18. Actual children. I think it's become too accessible and engrained into everything else, like even just watching a tv show on netflix you're pretty likely to witness a lot of sex scenes. and it doesn't even have to be there. showing people have sex in every other episode can't be all that important to the plot.

i went to see a movie at the cinema two weeks ago and had read multiple reviews and got a good impression of the movie, but what is this, suddenly there's a graphic rape scene with realistic sounds and everything, indistinguishable from the porn you find on pornhub yet the age rating for that movie was 15 years and up! i was so triggered i almost got up and left lol but i didn't want to draw any attention to myself.

i feel really alone in being bothered by shit like this and it's kinda making me think i shouldn't be alive in todays society and that there is no way i can live a happy life.
this is something i argue to my bf as well when trying to make a case for why the porn industry is bad... it's affecting our society, seeping into literally every piece of media created, and all media we consume affects us, whether it be conscious or not. it's desensitizing us to porn, to sex, to all those aspects of life. it's why for example it's become trendy to have "rough sex" and like to be "slapped around" etc. people get shamed today for being too vanilla, for being asexual, for not caring about sex. i dont know how to explain this to my boyfriend.
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Date: 29-11-2020 18:13
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Rouya wrote:
im not a fan of porn, the way it caters to men, the industry, none of it. but my boyfriend watches porn regularly and we have argued about it so much bc i try to explain to him the problem with the porn industry in a capitalist society, and while he is very leftist, he continues to deny this on and on. he also doesnt see how free porn in any way shape or form has affected our generation as the first generation to grow up with porn being freely accessible with one click for the first time in history.

idk what to do bc i am actually getting more and more angry with him the more this goes on. does anyone have like any articles or sources i can link him to that proves me right, bc i have read loads, i just havent saved them and i cant find them when i search for them anymore :/
THIS!! i am trying so hard to tell my bf this but he’s just like “porn was there for me when noone was” and it’s so infuriating. 
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Date: 29-11-2020 18:15
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Rouya wrote:
murdurur wrote:
my bf suffers from porn addiction too and being in a relationship with someone who has those kind of issues is actual hell lol. i want to die 24/7 and i have never hated my body or society more than i do now. 
i havent read through the thread so idk if youve mentioned it before, but if you dont mind me asking, how severe is his addiction? bc i literally dont know what's normal anymore. my bf said that if im away for a week or two, he will usually watch porn everyday and it upset me so much i almost started crying. i was so angry that i wanted to hit him (i didnt obviously lol but i was literally seething with rage and i feel so bad for reacting that way). idk if im in the wrong, or what's wrong...

also, are you asexual or not? (just curious if that is part of the reason why it makes you uncomfortable)
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Date: 29-11-2020 18:16
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Rouya wrote:
DAD wrote:
Rouya wrote:
im not a fan of porn, the way it caters to men, the industry, none of it. but my boyfriend watches porn regularly and we have argued about it so much bc i try to explain to him the problem with the porn industry in a capitalist society, and while he is very leftist, he continues to deny this on and on. he also doesnt see how free porn in any way shape or form has affected our generation as the first generation to grow up with porn being freely accessible with one click for the first time in history.

idk what to do bc i am actually getting more and more angry with him the more this goes on. does anyone have like any articles or sources i can link him to that proves me right, bc i have read loads, i just havent saved them and i cant find them when i search for them anymore :/
THIS!! i am trying so hard to tell my bf this but he’s just like “porn was there for me when noone was” and it’s so infuriating. 
YES its like GROW UP this is literally so much bigger than you and your need to fiddle your diddle honestly lol

find something else, you arent 13 anymore
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Date: 29-11-2020 18:17
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i hate porn where it's like spy cams, even if its pretend, why do u get off on the idea of invading someone's privacy? knocks me sick 
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Date: 29-11-2020 18:18
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DAD wrote:
Rouya wrote:
murdurur wrote:
my bf suffers from porn addiction too and being in a relationship with someone who has those kind of issues is actual hell lol. i want to die 24/7 and i have never hated my body or society more than i do now. 
i havent read through the thread so idk if youve mentioned it before, but if you dont mind me asking, how severe is his addiction? bc i literally dont know what's normal anymore. my bf said that if im away for a week or two, he will usually watch porn everyday and it upset me so much i almost started crying. i was so angry that i wanted to hit him (i didnt obviously lol but i was literally seething with rage and i feel so bad for reacting that way). idk if im in the wrong, or what's wrong...

also, are you asexual or not? (just curious if that is part of the reason why it makes you uncomfortable)
my bf hasnt watched porn since we’ve been together so if he did that to me i’d fucking break up lmao sorry if that makes me sound crazy or insensitive but i have mega body dysmorphia and insecurities so even hearing him mention his former faborite pornstars name sends me into a depression 
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Rouya wrote:
its literally making me shake and nauseous just talking about it rn bc i have dealt with this with him for a few months now and ive just buried it in my mind bc hes so fcking stubborn that i feel the resentment build up when we talk about it

but i seriously want to deal with this bc it cant go on like this with him. im glad to hear other ppl are in the same situation as me though, makes me feel less crazy :/
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murdurur wrote:
C4TH3DR4L wrote:
murdurur wrote:
i think it's really worrying that porn addiction is a rapidly growing problem, expecially considering the biggest risk group is boys ages 10-18. Actual children. I think it's become too accessible and engrained into everything else, like even just watching a tv show on netflix you're pretty likely to witness a lot of sex scenes. and it doesn't even have to be there. showing people have sex in every other episode can't be all that important to the plot.

i went to see a movie at the cinema two weeks ago and had read multiple reviews and got a good impression of the movie, but what is this, suddenly there's a graphic rape scene with realistic sounds and everything, indistinguishable from the porn you find on pornhub yet the age rating for that movie was 15 years and up! i was so triggered i almost got up and left lol but i didn't want to draw any attention to myself.

i feel really alone in being bothered by shit like this and it's kinda making me think i shouldn't be alive in todays society and that there is no way i can live a happy life.
I'm really sorry you had to go through that :-( I hope my comment wasn't making you feel bad because I didn't intend to do so. I completely agree with what you're saying though, I think I haven't just thought too much of it really. And maybe that just proves the point you're trying to make, we see so much sex everywhere it is so normal to us we don't even question it
oh no absolutely not, dw! i was trying to not word myself harshly because it's more like i'm just adding to what you're saying rather than arguing it lol. You're a good friend and I don't want to like accidentally stumble into an arguement wit you if that makes sense lol
Yeah I understand, I'm glad to see yours and others point on the matter because I haven't thought too much about anything of the sorts. Except music videos I fucking hate seeing the amount of nudity and sexual crap that goes on because I watch music videos all the time and it makes me severly uncomfortable
Date: 29-11-2020 18:19
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Sannissan wrote:
callum wrote:
i hate porn where it's like spy cams, even if its pretend, why do u get off on the idea of invading someone's privacy? knocks me sick 
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Date: 29-11-2020 18:20
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Delusion1111111 wrote:
Rouya wrote:
its literally making me shake and nauseous just talking about it rn bc i have dealt with this with him for a few months now and ive just buried it in my mind bc hes so fcking stubborn that i feel the resentment build up when we talk about it

but i seriously want to deal with this bc it cant go on like this with him. im glad to hear other ppl are in the same situation as me though, makes me feel less crazy :/
ur literally not crazy at all just fyi
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Rouya wrote:
DAD wrote:
Rouya wrote:
murdurur wrote:
my bf suffers from porn addiction too and being in a relationship with someone who has those kind of issues is actual hell lol. i want to die 24/7 and i have never hated my body or society more than i do now. 
i havent read through the thread so idk if youve mentioned it before, but if you dont mind me asking, how severe is his addiction? bc i literally dont know what's normal anymore. my bf said that if im away for a week or two, he will usually watch porn everyday and it upset me so much i almost started crying. i was so angry that i wanted to hit him (i didnt obviously lol but i was literally seething with rage and i feel so bad for reacting that way). idk if im in the wrong, or what's wrong...

also, are you asexual or not? (just curious if that is part of the reason why it makes you uncomfortable)
my bf hasnt watched porn since we’ve been together so if he did that to me i’d fucking break up lmao sorry if that makes me sound crazy or insensitive but i have mega body dysmorphia and insecurities so even hearing him mention his former faborite pornstars name sends me into a depression 
if my bf mentioned his favourite pornstar i would probably flip my lid lol. i had rage issues when i was younger and i dont anymore, but some things still trigger it a bit and apparently this does... i dont want to flip my shit on him
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DAD wrote:
Rouya wrote:
its literally making me shake and nauseous just talking about it rn bc i have dealt with this with him for a few months now and ive just buried it in my mind bc hes so fcking stubborn that i feel the resentment build up when we talk about it

but i seriously want to deal with this bc it cant go on like this with him. im glad to hear other ppl are in the same situation as me though, makes me feel less crazy :/
girl you are not alone trust me. i’m not currently dealing with him watching porn but sitting here hearing him jump over mental gymnastics to defend it makes me want to rip my teeth out one by one with pliers lmao
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Rouya wrote:
DAD wrote:
Rouya wrote:
its literally making me shake and nauseous just talking about it rn bc i have dealt with this with him for a few months now and ive just buried it in my mind bc hes so fcking stubborn that i feel the resentment build up when we talk about it

but i seriously want to deal with this bc it cant go on like this with him. im glad to hear other ppl are in the same situation as me though, makes me feel less crazy :/
girl you are not alone trust me. i’m not currently dealing with him watching porn but sitting here hearing him jump over mental gymnastics to defend it makes me want to rip my teeth out one by one with pliers lmao
same :/ i am at such a loss with how to deal with this. i tried watching porn myself to see if i was just overreacting, but i literally find it so disgusting even just visiting a pornsite made me so uncomfortable, and thinking about my bf ENJOYING and DEFENDING that just makes me want to cry and puke
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Rouya wrote:
Delusion1111111 wrote:
Rouya wrote:
its literally making me shake and nauseous just talking about it rn bc i have dealt with this with him for a few months now and ive just buried it in my mind bc hes so fcking stubborn that i feel the resentment build up when we talk about it

but i seriously want to deal with this bc it cant go on like this with him. im glad to hear other ppl are in the same situation as me though, makes me feel less crazy :/
ur literally not crazy at all just fyi
thank you!!!
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Rouya wrote:
god im so glad to be talking about this with people actually, i dont know how to bring this up with people i know irl bc i literally have no idea where to begin and how to talk about this, im just going insane
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