MasileinDE wrote:Alam wrote:MasileinDE wrote:
oh, I don't want to step on anyone's toes, but I think this coming out culture is just sooo bad and contraproductive
like, yeah, I get it, it's all about being visible and showing that there isn't just cis-gendered heterosexuality around
but seriously, do we have to applaud a culture that kind of feels like you should be forced to tell everyone in no uncertain terms who you'd rather fuck, just so they can all call you brave and comment on your maybe even non-existant struggles?
like dafuq, let people be who they want to be, let them fuck who they want to (kinda, I don't condone doing it with kids or animals) and stop making such a big deal out of it. just because you are anything other than heterosexual or cis-gender, that does not mean you are a great person and have to be hyped up for just existing.
I mean, you kind of
have to tell people if you're transitioning?
kind of and that's not really my squabble
like, just tell them "Hey, I'm now this person, this name, I want to be gendered that way, thanks"
like, no need to make a big announcment
it's mostly about sexuality though, but I didn't want to leave out the trans hype train
like, omg, it is so great for you on a personal level if you finally can feel happy with who you are and you find your true self and if you want to shout it from the rooftops, do it!
but I hate this notion of people being like "oh, you're so strong and brave for coming out" and also some even stigmatising people for not tattooing their sexual orientation on their forehead
like come on dude, what is it your business who I want to hop into bed with, what is it your business who I think is marriage material? and why is it something I practically have to do, just because I'm not hetero? like if we do it that way, I want hetero people to have to come out as well if they want to be accepted in today's society
I don't wanna come out as hetero i just want nobody to come out everybody just silent nobody knows whats going on