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Alam
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Alam wrote:

MasileinDE wrote:

ouch wrote:

MasileinDE wrote:
kind of and that's not really my squabble
like, just tell them "Hey, I'm now this person, this name, I want to be gendered that way, thanks"
like, no need to make a big announcment
it's mostly about sexuality though, but I didn't want to leave out the trans hype train
like, omg, it is so great for you on a personal level if you finally can feel happy with who you are and you find your true self and if you want to shout it from the rooftops, do it!
but I hate this notion of people being like "oh, you're so strong and brave for coming out" and also some even stigmatising people for not tattooing their sexual orientation on their forehead
like come on dude, what is it your business who I want to hop into bed with, what is it your business who I think is marriage material? and why is it something I practically have to do, just because I'm not hetero? like if we do it that way, I want hetero people to have to come out as well if they want to be accepted in today's society

I don't wanna come out as hetero i just want nobody to come out everybody just silent nobody knows whats going on

my point too, but if people want to celebrate the "power" of telling everyone what your sexuality is, then heteros should have to do it too - fairness and all
but yes, I'd rather people would stop meddling in other people's lifes and just let them be who they want to in silent

It is brave to tell people you're gay in certain places though? I come from a very weird country that is both very liberal and very very very conservative and coming out to certain people here isn't an easy feat. I don't think you should coddle anyone and tell them they're so brave for doing it because that's patronizing and shit but I don't think it's not brave, if that makes sense.

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the thing is, i think what masilein here is saying that one way to make it easier to be accepted/normalized by the rest of society is by not making a big deal out of your labels... ur non-binary, ok, so what do u wanna eat for dinner

and again, my opinion is that making urself to be superior/more unique than the rest because you are a certain lgbt label doesn't help it being normalized aaa just say "im just a person but i am trans" its ok its okkk

altho, i support neopronouns nowe that im more educated.. if u wanna be unique by using them ok do what u want i dont care at all bye, im just speaking abt the """"default"""" lgbt (in how many more forum posts can i make myself cancelled lol fuck)

Gilmore
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Gilmore wrote:
I have one rather radical but everyone here would hate me so I can't say it

not about the BLM / LGBTQ+ community

Private
International star

wug wrote:

Gilmore wrote:
I have one rather radical but everyone here would hate me so I can't say it

not about the BLM / LGBTQ+ community

MasileinDE
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MasileinDE wrote:

ouch wrote:
Like shit I aint even come out to my parent I don't care like they will know is it ever happens

I mean, I did kinda come out to my family, but that was more because my brother and my mom started to get worried if I was even happy or if I was maybe shutting myself off
but it wasn't like oh yeah, hey, this is my label, but I just told them that I'm happy alone and that I have no interest in hooking up of having ons' and that was it, we never talked about it again
but we still all talk about some people and how attractive they are (I mean, I was watching Germany's next topmodel with my brother and that one girl was freaking cute, like I can't even and I said so and he was like Yeah, she's totally my type too". there's no big moments needed for stuff like that)

Alam
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Alam wrote:

MasileinDE wrote:

Alam wrote:

MasileinDE wrote:
kind of and that's not really my squabble
like, just tell them "Hey, I'm now this person, this name, I want to be gendered that way, thanks"
like, no need to make a big announcment
it's mostly about sexuality though, but I didn't want to leave out the trans hype train
like, omg, it is so great for you on a personal level if you finally can feel happy with who you are and you find your true self and if you want to shout it from the rooftops, do it!
but I hate this notion of people being like "oh, you're so strong and brave for coming out" and also some even stigmatising people for not tattooing their sexual orientation on their forehead
like come on dude, what is it your business who I want to hop into bed with, what is it your business who I think is marriage material? and why is it something I practically have to do, just because I'm not hetero? like if we do it that way, I want hetero people to have to come out as well if they want to be accepted in today's society

I think that's mostly a movie trope, people mostly just tell people like "hey, I'm gay so don't hook me up with the opposite gender" or "hey, I'm bi so don't be surprised I have a partner of my same gender"

well, I guess I'm living in a movie then

i know a bunch of people who actually made a huge deal out of coming out and I'm here like "dude, no one gives a fuck, just go be happy"

I don't know, I don't go outside. Anyway, that' their moment and if that's what they want to do, by all means, go ahead. I think it's a bit rude to be like "no one cares" because again, there might be more to it, they might have struggled a lot to get to the point where they feel comfortable telling you and that's, I don't know, nice.

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Gilmore wrote:
I have one rather radical but everyone here would hate me so I can't say it

not about the BLM / LGBTQ+ community

cant tease us

Private
Popstar

ouch wrote:
Another opinion
I don't think ppl should b forced to not b racist/homophobic/transphobic etc but like as long as their actions r ok since they know they shouldn't b those things
I see a lot of ppl shaming like white ppl for being like a tiny bit more careful when a black person walks past them vs a white person for example n its like! U can't expect them to just get rid of the base thought, cus it would b very very hard if u first have it in ur head, but this is only if they manage to keep it in their head n not reflected in their actions cus they know its irrational.
So yes I think every thought is fine (also same with pedophilia here) even tho its not good as long as they don't turn into something outside ur head

MasileinDE
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MasileinDE wrote:

Alam wrote:

MasileinDE wrote:

ouch wrote:
I don't wanna come out as hetero i just want nobody to come out everybody just silent nobody knows whats going on

my point too, but if people want to celebrate the "power" of telling everyone what your sexuality is, then heteros should have to do it too - fairness and all
but yes, I'd rather people would stop meddling in other people's lifes and just let them be who they want to in silent

It is brave to tell people you're gay in certain places though? I come from a very weird country that is both very liberal and very very very conservative and coming out to certain people here isn't an easy feat. I don't think you should coddle anyone and tell them they're so brave for doing it because that's patronizing and shit but I don't think it's not brave, if that makes sense.

I get what you mean and even in the most progressive countries today you can still get beat up or overlooked for promotions and similiar just being open about your sexuality (and here being open suffices to be married to someone of the same sex), so it sure as hell can mean social suicide to do so
but I don't think that that's a reason to keep it secret nor to be extra brusque about it and tell everyone
it's more of a "does it really need a comment?" type of thing

Alam
World famous

Alam wrote:

Heaven wrote:
the thing is, i think what masilein here is saying that one way to make it easier to be accepted/normalized by the rest of society is by not making a big deal out of your labels... ur non-binary, ok, so what do u wanna eat for dinner

and again, my opinion is that making urself to be superior/more unique than the rest because you are a certain lgbt label doesn't help it being normalized aaa just say "im just a person but i am trans" its ok its okkk

altho, i support neopronouns nowe that im more educated.. if u wanna be unique by using them ok do what u want i dont care at all bye, im just speaking abt the """"default"""" lgbt (in how many more forum posts can i make myself cancelled lol fuck)

That's the thing though, I think that's mostly an internet culture thing, I don't think the vast majority of lgbt peeps are like that, if anything it's the opposite, they might feel inferior to other people. I sure do.

Slave2Master
Streetmusician

Slave2Master wrote:
i think it's dumb when people assume one's intelligent simply for having an opinion
"you are a Trump supporter so you must be really stupid!" not basing that of any thing other than them being a Trump supporter

you can be the most evil vile criminal and still be insanely intelligent/smart

MasileinDE
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MasileinDE wrote:

Alam wrote:

MasileinDE wrote:

Alam wrote:
I think that's mostly a movie trope, people mostly just tell people like "hey, I'm gay so don't hook me up with the opposite gender" or "hey, I'm bi so don't be surprised I have a partner of my same gender"

well, I guess I'm living in a movie then

i know a bunch of people who actually made a huge deal out of coming out and I'm here like "dude, no one gives a fuck, just go be happy"

I don't know, I don't go outside. Anyway, that' their moment and if that's what they want to do, by all means, go ahead. I think it's a bit rude to be like "no one cares" because again, there might be more to it, they might have struggled a lot to get to the point where they feel comfortable telling you and that's, I don't know, nice.

yeah, that's what I said too, if you want to tell it, do it
but I don't think it should be something we should be proud of for people doing so
like, in my opinion it has the same informational value as someone telling me they are allergic to carrots (actually, I'd say that's more important that what sex they like)

Private
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Maxwell wrote:
Wtf okay my brain iz turned off I was gon write that in messenger wtf-

Private
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wug wrote:

Slave2Master wrote:
i think it's dumb when people assume one's intelligent simply for having an opinion
"you are a Trump supporter so you must be really stupid!" not basing that of any thing other than them being a Trump supporter

you can be the most evil vile criminal and still be insanely intelligent/smart

i'm trying to make sense of this

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Alam wrote:

Heaven wrote:
the thing is, i think what masilein here is saying that one way to make it easier to be accepted/normalized by the rest of society is by not making a big deal out of your labels... ur non-binary, ok, so what do u wanna eat for dinner

and again, my opinion is that making urself to be superior/more unique than the rest because you are a certain lgbt label doesn't help it being normalized aaa just say "im just a person but i am trans" its ok its okkk

altho, i support neopronouns nowe that im more educated.. if u wanna be unique by using them ok do what u want i dont care at all bye, im just speaking abt the """"default"""" lgbt (in how many more forum posts can i make myself cancelled lol fuck)

That's the thing though, I think that's mostly an internet culture thing, I don't think the vast majority of lgbt peeps are like that, if anything it's the opposite, they might feel inferior to other people. I sure do.

the internet is a big part of people's everyday lives nowadays, we can stop acting as if it's some kind of exclusive club.