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have you ever dumped anyone
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Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
sad, scared and relieved i think
When I broke up with my boyfriend i was more scared about breaking up than the time after that. And i feel like thats not the case with you

I would recommend a serious conversation about this tho. Talking about your doubts, like you have described them here, about what would have to improve for you and listening to his needs. Then you can both decide if these expectations are doable or if they might be too high for you
yeah we have been talking for 2 days since i actually did write a "i break up with u" message and we have written after that. the last thing he wrote was that he wants me to make clear examples of things that we have discussed/argued about in a poor manner and how it should be changed. and i have no answer because i just feel like everything hurts/my brain shuts down when we argue because the communicational barrier is so high up💀 if that makes sense
Yeah i get it... You cannot easily describe these things. And i also feel like he should know some examples, because otherwise he thought these arguments were well substantiated and i cant imagine that. You just dont wanna think about all the fights you had... And I think fights are heavy for you because of family history, does he understand that part?
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Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
When I broke up with my boyfriend i was more scared about breaking up than the time after that. And i feel like thats not the case with you

I would recommend a serious conversation about this tho. Talking about your doubts, like you have described them here, about what would have to improve for you and listening to his needs. Then you can both decide if these expectations are doable or if they might be too high for you
yeah we have been talking for 2 days since i actually did write a "i break up with u" message and we have written after that. the last thing he wrote was that he wants me to make clear examples of things that we have discussed/argued about in a poor manner and how it should be changed. and i have no answer because i just feel like everything hurts/my brain shuts down when we argue because the communicational barrier is so high up💀 if that makes sense
Yeah i get it... You cannot easily describe these things. And i also feel like he should know some examples, because otherwise he thought these arguments were well substantiated and i cant imagine that. You just dont wanna think about all the fights you had... And I think fights are heavy for you because of family history, does he understand that part?
i guess he knows about that part but he doesn't think out fights are rough, just a natural part of relationships
but it's so draining aaaA
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Date: 13-10-2022 16:55
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Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
yeah we have been talking for 2 days since i actually did write a "i break up with u" message and we have written after that. the last thing he wrote was that he wants me to make clear examples of things that we have discussed/argued about in a poor manner and how it should be changed. and i have no answer because i just feel like everything hurts/my brain shuts down when we argue because the communicational barrier is so high up💀 if that makes sense
Yeah i get it... You cannot easily describe these things. And i also feel like he should know some examples, because otherwise he thought these arguments were well substantiated and i cant imagine that. You just dont wanna think about all the fights you had... And I think fights are heavy for you because of family history, does he understand that part?
i guess he knows about that part but he doesn't think out fights are rough, just a natural part of relationships
but it's so draining aaaA
I kinda feel like youve already made your decision, because of the difference in perspective on fights, but correct me if im wrong
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Date: 13-10-2022 16:57
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rottomilko wrote:
twice. 

one time bc I realized i needed to get away from the relationships asap. n I understood later just how toxic n manipulative he actually was.

second time bc I didn’t have feelings for him n I didn’t wanna hurt him more by pretending i did kinda. he deserved better than that. 
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Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
Yeah i get it... You cannot easily describe these things. And i also feel like he should know some examples, because otherwise he thought these arguments were well substantiated and i cant imagine that. You just dont wanna think about all the fights you had... And I think fights are heavy for you because of family history, does he understand that part?
i guess he knows about that part but he doesn't think out fights are rough, just a natural part of relationships
but it's so draining aaaA
I kinda feel like youve already made your decision, because of the difference in perspective on fights, but correct me if im wrong
yeah i think so too

just hard to sort your thoughts and also procrastination ölskdölsk

thanks for helping me sort things out
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Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
i guess he knows about that part but he doesn't think out fights are rough, just a natural part of relationships
but it's so draining aaaA
I kinda feel like youve already made your decision, because of the difference in perspective on fights, but correct me if im wrong
yeah i think so too

just hard to sort your thoughts and also procrastination ölskdölsk

thanks for helping me sort things out
Yeah i hope it works out well for you, but good luck <3 If you need someone to talk, you can always send me a message
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Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
I kinda feel like youve already made your decision, because of the difference in perspective on fights, but correct me if im wrong
yeah i think so too

just hard to sort your thoughts and also procrastination ölskdölsk

thanks for helping me sort things out
Yeah i hope it works out well for you, but good luck <3 If you need someone to talk, you can always send me a message
thanks a bunch!! <3
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bee wrote:
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yes twice. both about 1,5 years
first bc he was shitty and i was not happy
second bc both of us were too mentally ill to be in a relationship
hmm
with the second one, did it feel right ? or did it feel like u were giving up in a bad sense
it hurt like hell because we both loved each other, but when it was over there was no doubt it was the right thing to do
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Date: 13-10-2022 17:01
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Evey wrote:
bee wrote:
Evey wrote:
bee wrote:
yes twice. both about 1,5 years
first bc he was shitty and i was not happy
second bc both of us were too mentally ill to be in a relationship
hmm
with the second one, did it feel right ? or did it feel like u were giving up in a bad sense
it hurt like hell because we both loved each other, but when it was over there was no doubt it was the right thing to do
bittersweet then huh
how long did it take before u could rly move on 🥲
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Date: 13-10-2022 17:06
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bee wrote:
Evey wrote:
bee wrote:
Evey wrote:
hmm
with the second one, did it feel right ? or did it feel like u were giving up in a bad sense
it hurt like hell because we both loved each other, but when it was over there was no doubt it was the right thing to do
bittersweet then huh
how long did it take before u could rly move on 🥲
18 months...
i sadly broke up with him over text as he was in a mental hospital and i was unable to visit him. he replied back but that was the last i heard from him. i think what took so long to get over it was the tragic ending we had and the fact that i had felt so hurt and forgotten. after 18 months we had a brief conversation on text where i got to tell him how hurt i had been, and it was like from that point on i was able to truly heal 
so my advice is just, give it proper closure and dont let anything go unsaid 
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Babel wrote:
We were still just in the dating stage and weren't official.

I dumped him because he ghosted me more than once. Afterwards I recieved death threats and was called a cold hearted bitch by him.
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encrede wrote:
Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
Evey wrote:
yeah we have been talking for 2 days since i actually did write a "i break up with u" message and we have written after that. the last thing he wrote was that he wants me to make clear examples of things that we have discussed/argued about in a poor manner and how it should be changed. and i have no answer because i just feel like everything hurts/my brain shuts down when we argue because the communicational barrier is so high up💀 if that makes sense
Yeah i get it... You cannot easily describe these things. And i also feel like he should know some examples, because otherwise he thought these arguments were well substantiated and i cant imagine that. You just dont wanna think about all the fights you had... And I think fights are heavy for you because of family history, does he understand that part?
i guess he knows about that part but he doesn't think out fights are rough, just a natural part of relationships
but it's so draining aaaA
can confirm doe like disagreements are bound to happen sooner or later but its definitely possible to be with someone who is capable and communicating and solving issues more at the disagreement-argument stage before it turns into a Fight... like i rlly wouldnt say fights are just a thing u have to deal with in a relationship, no way
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encrede wrote:
also to answer the question, dump is a strong word.. but have kinda initiated a breakup after we talked (which i also initiated jdfghfj) and realised we didnt have a future together, and were just kinda staying together until further notice. so it was pretty mutual in the end i guess... tho i wouldnt know if he thought it was mutual or not bc i never found out / still dont rlly know how he felt abt it, like if he was even sad at all

oh and almost exactly 1 year, wanted to stay together like 2 weeks more officially just to get to the anniversary lol, but that didnt end up working out bc just felt insincere and weird to keep going until a deadline
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Evey wrote:
encrede wrote:
Evey wrote:
Pigeon wrote:
Yeah i get it... You cannot easily describe these things. And i also feel like he should know some examples, because otherwise he thought these arguments were well substantiated and i cant imagine that. You just dont wanna think about all the fights you had... And I think fights are heavy for you because of family history, does he understand that part?
i guess he knows about that part but he doesn't think out fights are rough, just a natural part of relationships
but it's so draining aaaA
can confirm doe like disagreements are bound to happen sooner or later but its definitely possible to be with someone who is capable and communicating and solving issues more at the disagreement-argument stage before it turns into a Fight... like i rlly wouldnt say fights are just a thing u have to deal with in a relationship, no way
hmm yeah, and i think i'm just tired in life in general atm and the strenght to have fights or even arguments aren't rly there 💀 i'm just so tired of it, even if it's better, still very tired since life is draining already sdskljldsk
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Evey wrote:
encrede wrote:
also to answer the question, dump is a strong word.. but have kinda initiated a breakup after we talked (which i also initiated jdfghfj) and realised we didnt have a future together, and were just kinda staying together until further notice. so it was pretty mutual in the end i guess... tho i wouldnt know if he thought it was mutual or not bc i never found out / still dont rlly know how he felt abt it, like if he was even sad at all

oh and almost exactly 1 year, wanted to stay together like 2 weeks more officially just to get to the anniversary lol, but that didnt end up working out bc just felt insincere and weird to keep going until a deadline
sounds like a vvery non dramatic break up, i guess it would be easier to get over when it just ran out in the sand like that?
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Date: 13-10-2022 18:28
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