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Thecellabration
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thecellabration wrote:

Evey wrote:

thecellabration wrote:

Evey wrote:
i've had an issue with that as well. i think i could be content with working 4 hours days, 6 hours TOPS, but that just ain't reality

yeah i'm literally not even working much right now (6.5-7 hours a day but most weeks only 4 days) and it's still draining i have zero energy left to be a person, and the fact that this is life forever........... bad

i think it differs a bit between jobs, how draining they are, maybe u can find a less draining one soon

but yeah i've quit both jobs i've ever had because they were too stressful for me. didn't make me feel good at all and the feeling never went away before i quit and took my time to recover sheesh

that's true, i like my job technically but it's so exhausting

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Evey wrote:

wug wrote:

Evey wrote:

wug wrote:
do you have a big picture life plan? yes

like what's your plan for your life? the big things classified

relationship? how long do u want it to last? just one? or a few over time? do you want kids? if no, what do you want? no, no, no, no, no. just no.

bonus question
are you good at relationships? never been in one so the fuck do i know

sounds relaxing
well depends a bit on the classified part but
the other stuff soothes my brain

i have very specific plans for my entire life, i know what i want, i just don't enjoy talking about it because it's not something i'll be able to do
the relationship thing is like in my late teens i just realised that it's unlikely to ever happen and at this point i've concluded that it's what's best in the end, there's no point with it

u should create more plans so that u can have some that might happen

can't tell you that ain't true about it being for the best because i'm bad at relationships and they drain me but i keep ending up in them. also have bad defence mechanisms, can't leave them because i just panic when i try, i don't want kids and apparently attract men that do, et fucking c, so yeah. sounds soothing to just not have that part in ur life atm

Aphrodite
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Aphrodite wrote:

Evey wrote:

Aphrodite wrote:
I do have a plan but at the same time I am so incredibly lost with.. everything
I hope there’s an older and wiser person in the new workplace im going because I desperately need some good advive on life in general

Bonus question:
I would say so? One of my strongest traits is my social skills and I view myself as an empathetic and caring person but on the other hand I feel like my overthinking can ruin good relationships. I am also quite sensitive in many ways so it can definitely affect other people as well as myself but I’m sure through therapy I can work on myself and hopefully it shows in my relationships. (:

ugh yeah i wonder where one gets wisdom because for me, it doesn't seem to be with age lmfao

that's good!! overthinking suuucks and i think one can train it away but it's painful as hell and hard... one of my bad traits with relationships is that i refuse to get hurt so i build up walls/go offensive if there's a high probability. do not recommend

But you’re still so young too! It’s ok not to know everything yet, and tbh I don’t think anyone really knows what they’re doing, they’re just pretending that they know how to do life XDD

and yes can relate to this! the thing im trying to remember in my relationships is that if i want to enjoy it as fully as possible i need to be able to be vulnerable. As scary as it is, it can give you so much! And some people are just not a fit for you anyways. I hope u and me both learn to appreciate ourselves! Because it is truly what everyone deserves

Private
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Evey wrote:

Laboratory wrote:
Tbh my only like big life plan for now is just finish my bachelors n then probably masters after n hopefully land me some epic job within the field that I love a lot once im done w school,,, in terms of love life n relationship I hope to stay w my current bf n go through life together, he da best, no we don't want kids
in terms o uh is there something thats a danger to my plan,,, uuuh lmao me not getting through my education ig thatd suck hard cause for years now ive just been thinking n relying on going the long education route to hopefully secure myself some more ........ security lol n not have to work all those crappy jobs ukno so would stink if I dont get through school n have to just make do w crappy jobs, would b like welp guess i shouldve just done this to begin with

ugh that sounds lovely i hope everything turns out approximately as u want

i think as long as u keep on trying, a degree will be yours (as long as you haven't picked something that is really really really not your thing) so that doesn't sound too bad !!

Private
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wug wrote:

Evey wrote:

wug wrote:

Evey wrote:
sounds relaxing
well depends a bit on the classified part but
the other stuff soothes my brain

i have very specific plans for my entire life, i know what i want, i just don't enjoy talking about it because it's not something i'll be able to do
the relationship thing is like in my late teens i just realised that it's unlikely to ever happen and at this point i've concluded that it's what's best in the end, there's no point with it

u should create more plans so that u can have some that might happen

can't tell you that ain't true about it being for the best because i'm bad at relationships and they drain me but i keep ending up in them. also have bad defence mechanisms, can't leave them because i just panic when i try, i don't want kids and apparently attract men that do, et fucking c, so yeah. sounds soothing to just not have that part in ur life atm

no that's uninteresting i know what i want i don't want to settle

i've never even been close to a relationship, i'm not attractive in any sense and idc and i don't really find the concept appealing or interesting either. i enjoy my own company why would i soil my life like that

Private
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Evey wrote:

thecellabration wrote:

Evey wrote:

thecellabration wrote:
yeah i'm literally not even working much right now (6.5-7 hours a day but most weeks only 4 days) and it's still draining i have zero energy left to be a person, and the fact that this is life forever........... bad

i think it differs a bit between jobs, how draining they are, maybe u can find a less draining one soon

but yeah i've quit both jobs i've ever had because they were too stressful for me. didn't make me feel good at all and the feeling never went away before i quit and took my time to recover sheesh

that's true, i like my job technically but it's so exhausting

what's exhausting about it? crossed fingers it's a jobs that gets more chill with time because u get into a routine

Private
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Evey wrote:

wug wrote:

Evey wrote:

wug wrote:
i have very specific plans for my entire life, i know what i want, i just don't enjoy talking about it because it's not something i'll be able to do
the relationship thing is like in my late teens i just realised that it's unlikely to ever happen and at this point i've concluded that it's what's best in the end, there's no point with it

u should create more plans so that u can have some that might happen

can't tell you that ain't true about it being for the best because i'm bad at relationships and they drain me but i keep ending up in them. also have bad defence mechanisms, can't leave them because i just panic when i try, i don't want kids and apparently attract men that do, et fucking c, so yeah. sounds soothing to just not have that part in ur life atm

no that's uninteresting i know what i want i don't want to settle

i've never even been close to a relationship, i'm not attractive in any sense and idc and i don't really find the concept appealing or interesting either. i enjoy my own company why would i soil my life like that

hoping for a miracle then

i've come to dislike the concept too so yeah won't argue

Private
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Evey wrote:

Aphrodite wrote:

Evey wrote:

Aphrodite wrote:
I do have a plan but at the same time I am so incredibly lost with.. everything
I hope there’s an older and wiser person in the new workplace im going because I desperately need some good advive on life in general

Bonus question:
I would say so? One of my strongest traits is my social skills and I view myself as an empathetic and caring person but on the other hand I feel like my overthinking can ruin good relationships. I am also quite sensitive in many ways so it can definitely affect other people as well as myself but I’m sure through therapy I can work on myself and hopefully it shows in my relationships. (:

ugh yeah i wonder where one gets wisdom because for me, it doesn't seem to be with age lmfao

that's good!! overthinking suuucks and i think one can train it away but it's painful as hell and hard... one of my bad traits with relationships is that i refuse to get hurt so i build up walls/go offensive if there's a high probability. do not recommend

But you’re still so young too! It’s ok not to know everything yet, and tbh I don’t think anyone really knows what they’re doing, they’re just pretending that they know how to do life XDD

and yes can relate to this! the thing im trying to remember in my relationships is that if i want to enjoy it as fully as possible i need to be able to be vulnerable. As scary as it is, it can give you so much! And some people are just not a fit for you anyways. I hope u and me both learn to appreciate ourselves! Because it is truly what everyone deserves

hahaha yeah that's a bit reassuring actually, we all just doing our best around here

<3 very well said, totally agree with everything u wrote

Private
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Evey wrote:
and no i have no shame when it comes to double/triple posting lmfao

Private
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wug wrote:

Evey wrote:

wug wrote:

Evey wrote:
u should create more plans so that u can have some that might happen

can't tell you that ain't true about it being for the best because i'm bad at relationships and they drain me but i keep ending up in them. also have bad defence mechanisms, can't leave them because i just panic when i try, i don't want kids and apparently attract men that do, et fucking c, so yeah. sounds soothing to just not have that part in ur life atm

no that's uninteresting i know what i want i don't want to settle

i've never even been close to a relationship, i'm not attractive in any sense and idc and i don't really find the concept appealing or interesting either. i enjoy my own company why would i soil my life like that

hoping for a miracle then

i've come to dislike the concept too so yeah won't argue

nah

i've never found it appealing but i'm probably damaged in some way because i genuinely don't have an interest in it, i'm barely attracted to anyone and barely interested in others. i simply cannot for the life of me understand why it's appealing to anyone, so much bullshit and so much compromise and shit and people are just awful

Aphrodite
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Aphrodite wrote:

Evey wrote:

Aphrodite wrote:

Evey wrote:
ugh yeah i wonder where one gets wisdom because for me, it doesn't seem to be with age lmfao

that's good!! overthinking suuucks and i think one can train it away but it's painful as hell and hard... one of my bad traits with relationships is that i refuse to get hurt so i build up walls/go offensive if there's a high probability. do not recommend

But you’re still so young too! It’s ok not to know everything yet, and tbh I don’t think anyone really knows what they’re doing, they’re just pretending that they know how to do life XDD

and yes can relate to this! the thing im trying to remember in my relationships is that if i want to enjoy it as fully as possible i need to be able to be vulnerable. As scary as it is, it can give you so much! And some people are just not a fit for you anyways. I hope u and me both learn to appreciate ourselves! Because it is truly what everyone deserves

hahaha yeah that's a bit reassuring actually, we all just doing our best around here

<3 very well said, totally agree with everything u wrote

Exactly! And thats more than enough, remember to give urself credit for just doing ur best everyday
Ur are valuable, important and worthy of so much love <333

Private
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Evey wrote:

wug wrote:

Evey wrote:

wug wrote:
no that's uninteresting i know what i want i don't want to settle

i've never even been close to a relationship, i'm not attractive in any sense and idc and i don't really find the concept appealing or interesting either. i enjoy my own company why would i soil my life like that

hoping for a miracle then

i've come to dislike the concept too so yeah won't argue

nah

i've never found it appealing but i'm probably damaged in some way because i genuinely don't have an interest in it, i'm barely attracted to anyone and barely interested in others. i simply cannot for the life of me understand why it's appealing to anyone, so much bullshit and so much compromise and shit and people are just awful

yeah well i think i'm leaning towards the same mindset but i hope that it might be a good thing when u r older and know what u want and find someone who also wants the same things and ur too old to rly take advantage of having "all the freedom in the world" anymore . but atm i don't see why i couldnt just have a lot of good friends and be content that way ((guess it would suck to be second priority to every friend because they hav a s/o though lmfao but idk if i would care most of the time)

Private
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AcaciaOnyx wrote:

Evey wrote:

AcaciaOnyx wrote:
I have a pretty solid plan but I don't know if I will be able to accomplish it.
I want 3-4 kids, a solid career healing mostly cats - maybe have my own clinic concerning felines. I want to live in a big house with a huge garden where I can grow vegetables and fruits, and a huge catio, because I want to breed British Shorthairs.

i feel like a pro with wanting kids in these times is that inflation won't make it harder to get them, in comparison to the dream of owning a big house with a garden that seems soooo far away atm

Kids cost a lot of money too. And I'm waiting patiently for the housing market to crash.

Private
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Evey wrote:

Aphrodite wrote:

Evey wrote:

Aphrodite wrote:
But you’re still so young too! It’s ok not to know everything yet, and tbh I don’t think anyone really knows what they’re doing, they’re just pretending that they know how to do life XDD

and yes can relate to this! the thing im trying to remember in my relationships is that if i want to enjoy it as fully as possible i need to be able to be vulnerable. As scary as it is, it can give you so much! And some people are just not a fit for you anyways. I hope u and me both learn to appreciate ourselves! Because it is truly what everyone deserves

hahaha yeah that's a bit reassuring actually, we all just doing our best around here

<3 very well said, totally agree with everything u wrote

Exactly! And thats more than enough, remember to give urself credit for just doing ur best everyday
Ur are valuable, important and worthy of so much love <333

Private
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Evey wrote:

AcaciaOnyx wrote:

Evey wrote:

AcaciaOnyx wrote:
I have a pretty solid plan but I don't know if I will be able to accomplish it.
I want 3-4 kids, a solid career healing mostly cats - maybe have my own clinic concerning felines. I want to live in a big house with a huge garden where I can grow vegetables and fruits, and a huge catio, because I want to breed British Shorthairs.

i feel like a pro with wanting kids in these times is that inflation won't make it harder to get them, in comparison to the dream of owning a big house with a garden that seems soooo far away atm

Kids cost a lot of money too. And I'm waiting patiently for the housing market to crash.

same