Anachronism wrote:
This diagnosis is such a relief
It explains everything... the suicide threats, flipping moods on a dime, oscillating between love and hate, not wanting me to be independent or have a separate identity out of fear I will abandon her, the refusal to accept criticism, the drama.... it makes sense!
I'm terrible at setting boundaries because I am so afraid of upsetting her, and when I try to tell her our relationship is toxic she gets defensive, acts like I'm acussing her of being a bad person, and never really will admit how horribly she treats me when all I want is her acknowledgment
I'm starting to think I need to reassure her I wont leave, I love her, but I will have to take a break until she can learn to be independent, feel worthy of love, and treat me with respect and have boundaries. It's not personal, but that I want the best relationship we can have. Cuz honestly we just get into fights mostly, which I really do not want
Idk thank god for this diagnosis... it's not ME .. but I do need to learn how to communicate better, have gotten better over the years (I learned to stop taking it all so personally, its just her being in 'a mood') but I still make mistakes and am still learning
I AM SO HAPPY I HAVE AN ANSWER THO