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Iero
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iero wrote:
Saudade wrote:
iero wrote:
i think ur reason against inviting them are perfectly reasonable and 100% up to u, no matter what anyone thinks !!
i am very close to my parents, i live with them both still. me and my mum are basically bffs. we sing together, get drinks together (both sweet and alcoholic), we argue but joke around with each other, i help her any way i can. i dont do as much with my dad but i still love him the same 
ow i remember seeing some posts of u and ur mum on fb, very cute <3
haha just to think that a few months after that, i'd be working at costa and the one serving her drinks like i did on all the pics i shared !
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:42
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Saudade wrote:
December wrote:
kinda close with my mom i guess, but not really with my dad. i can talk about some deep stuff with my mom, but not dad. they broke up for a few years when i was a kid, so i almost didn't meet him for 5 years while they were broken up. they got back together but like i had only been with my mom from like age 6 to maybe 11-12 or something so i'm kinda close with her, but still not super duper close. dad is more of a jokester and we more like joke with him and stuff, but i don't talk about like my personal life. he's also kind of an ass sometimes to mom and all so i'm like, no.
yeah understandable, my dad wasn't so bad when he was in a good mood cus he was a jokester too
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:43
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Saudade wrote:
iero wrote:
Saudade wrote:
another thing tho, my boyfriend is super close to his mum and family, so itll be mega sad seeing how much support he gets compared to me having maybe just my brother and sister
soon to be parent in law?? : o
welp not anytime soon but i def wanna marry this man one day <3
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:43
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Saudade wrote:
Teito wrote:
Saudade wrote:
Teito wrote:
I’d say it’s all up to how you feel about it all til the end. 
If you don’t like the thought of having them there on rare and special occasions cause of yeah whatever reason there might be, then you don’t invite them. I think that it doesn’t entitle them to anything just cause u share blood.

or thats atleast how I’m currently living life. My relation is not good with either parent. My dad is an abusive narcissist and my mom keeps up the pretend of being oblivious to everything. 
I just feel like because they birthed me they do have a right to be offended if i dont invite them but i doubt i will invite them, id rather have the people i love there
Oh you do feel that way. I can’t counter that at all. I just don’t agree, they may have birthed you, but they weren’t really parents right. 
I just think that those people who acted like your parents/ family are more deserving of sharing your happiness rather than those who just pushed you out
thats true ! im closer to my friends than i am with my parents. even one of my friends mum basically looked after me even when my mum was around, i love that lady way more
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:44
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Saudade wrote:
iero wrote:
Saudade wrote:
iero wrote:
i think ur reason against inviting them are perfectly reasonable and 100% up to u, no matter what anyone thinks !!
i am very close to my parents, i live with them both still. me and my mum are basically bffs. we sing together, get drinks together (both sweet and alcoholic), we argue but joke around with each other, i help her any way i can. i dont do as much with my dad but i still love him the same 
ow i remember seeing some posts of u and ur mum on fb, very cute <3
haha just to think that a few months after that, i'd be working at costa and the one serving her drinks like i did on all the pics i shared !
if i lived closer id come 2 costa 4 u
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:45
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miu wrote:
im not close with any of my parents 
i live with my mom but we arent close,, as much as i'd want to i can't develop a close connection

and i'd absolutely never invite my father to my wedding. It's a special moment for u and if them being there makes u feel worse then you definitely shouldn't. 
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:46
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Saudade wrote:
DRAIN wrote:
im not close with any of my parents 
i live with my mom but we arent close,, as much as i'd want to i can't develop a close connection

and i'd absolutely never invite my father to my wedding. It's a special moment for u and if them being there makes u feel worse then you definitely shouldn't. 
now that im back to seeing my mum i also cant develop a close connection, just feels like a lost relationship
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:47
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nope, not very close to them 
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:55
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miu wrote:
Saudade wrote:
DRAIN wrote:
im not close with any of my parents 
i live with my mom but we arent close,, as much as i'd want to i can't develop a close connection

and i'd absolutely never invite my father to my wedding. It's a special moment for u and if them being there makes u feel worse then you definitely shouldn't. 
now that im back to seeing my mum i also cant develop a close connection, just feels like a lost relationship
Yeah, i understand.. Being absent for most of your life and now suddenly wanting a to develop a close connection.. sheesh 
i've tried so hard to develop a close connection but i just lock myself up at the end and push them away. Trust issues rly play a big part in this LMAOO 
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:56
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Teito wrote:
Saudade wrote:
Teito wrote:
Saudade wrote:
I just feel like because they birthed me they do have a right to be offended if i dont invite them but i doubt i will invite them, id rather have the people i love there
Oh you do feel that way. I can’t counter that at all. I just don’t agree, they may have birthed you, but they weren’t really parents right. 
I just think that those people who acted like your parents/ family are more deserving of sharing your happiness rather than those who just pushed you out
thats true ! im closer to my friends than i am with my parents. even one of my friends mum basically looked after me even when my mum was around, i love that lady way more
And I hope you invite her!? lol. I may come off as very pessimistic in regards to biological parents and I do understand that they may have some rights to some parts of our lives, but time and time again they always fuck things up, you give them the chance to be part of your life, you invite them u give them your time to just be disappointed in the end. That’s how my reality has been and I don’t think I’ll recover and I don’t want to either. Just wanna forget everything and keep them at distance 
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Date: 22-06-2020 00:57 | Times changed: 1
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iero wrote:
Saudade wrote:
iero wrote:
Saudade wrote:
ow i remember seeing some posts of u and ur mum on fb, very cute <3
haha just to think that a few months after that, i'd be working at costa and the one serving her drinks like i did on all the pics i shared !
if i lived closer id come 2 costa 4 u
hehehe i mean WHEN we open tho : ( 
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Date: 22-06-2020 01:05
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I live with them atm but we aren't really close I guess 
Date: 22-06-2020 01:33
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Saudade wrote:
DRAIN wrote:
Saudade wrote:
DRAIN wrote:
im not close with any of my parents 
i live with my mom but we arent close,, as much as i'd want to i can't develop a close connection

and i'd absolutely never invite my father to my wedding. It's a special moment for u and if them being there makes u feel worse then you definitely shouldn't. 
now that im back to seeing my mum i also cant develop a close connection, just feels like a lost relationship
Yeah, i understand.. Being absent for most of your life and now suddenly wanting a to develop a close connection.. sheesh 
i've tried so hard to develop a close connection but i just lock myself up at the end and push them away. Trust issues rly play a big part in this LMAOO 
oh yeah my trust issues are the worst now, and i also question every friendship i have thinking they hate me or whatev er but its all in my head 
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Date: 22-06-2020 01:37
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Saudade wrote:
Teito wrote:
Saudade wrote:
Teito wrote:
Oh you do feel that way. I can’t counter that at all. I just don’t agree, they may have birthed you, but they weren’t really parents right. 
I just think that those people who acted like your parents/ family are more deserving of sharing your happiness rather than those who just pushed you out
thats true ! im closer to my friends than i am with my parents. even one of my friends mum basically looked after me even when my mum was around, i love that lady way more
And I hope you invite her!? lol. I may come off as very pessimistic in regards to biological parents and I do understand that they may have some rights to some parts of our lives, but time and time again they always fuck things up, you give them the chance to be part of your life, you invite them u give them your time to just be disappointed in the end. That’s how my reality has been and I don’t think I’ll recover and I don’t want to either. Just wanna forget everything and keep them at distance 
man this is very helpful, i just wanna say how wonderfully spoken you are
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Date: 22-06-2020 01:38
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meilin wrote:
I cut my dad off at 9 but had to keep seeing him until 11(?). I sometimes talk to my mom but not often. I've been thinking of cutting her off too though but I'm hoping things might change
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Date: 22-06-2020 08:26
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