gothgirl wrote: can i butt in on the slurs thing???
yes
like i think slurs should be used for reclaiming for people in the communities like i'm a lesbian so i can use the word dyke to describe myself and not have used as a "slur", but more of a reclaiming of a word inside of my community. i can't say the n-word ( i'm white) or the f-word ( i'm a woman ), so pretty much only the slurs directly coined to me and identity is something i can use and reclaim. otherwise it's used as a slur by others, and if i weren't a lesbian, i couldn't say like that. then it would be a slur.