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Parasite
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Parasite wrote:

Rosenbug wrote:
I've been friends with her since 2nd grade, but another girl joined our group in 4th grade.
I started showing pretty big signs of depression around 7th grade, and she would always make fun of it, and she even called me a "wrist violinist" multiple times (i never harmed my self tho, don't know where that came from).
I always tried to be there when either of them had a problem, but everytime i had something with my family she would always dismis it.

Now she's uwu depressed and has blocked me and the other girl from her story on instagram

We don't really talk anymore, but me and the other girl are still really close (she's an angel)

Stg her and my family is the reason i have trust/abandonment issues

:/
Had similar issues recently with my ex best friend.
She thinks she gets to put me down for things I struggle with when it comes to anxiety and depression, but she'll go cry to her other friends about how she's too anxious over something and claim she's depressed lol.
Hypocrites aren't worth your time, you're better off without them. ^^

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Lelop wrote:

Focalin wrote:

Rosenbug wrote:
I've been friends with her since 2nd grade, but another girl joined our group in 4th grade.
I started showing pretty big signs of depression around 7th grade, and she would always make fun of it, and she even called me a "wrist violinist" multiple times (i never harmed my self tho, don't know where that came from).
I always tried to be there when either of them had a problem, but everytime i had something with my family she would always dismis it.

Now she's uwu depressed and has blocked me and the other girl from her story on instagram

We don't really talk anymore, but me and the other girl are still really close (she's an angel)

Stg her and my family is the reason i have trust/abandonment issues

:/
Had similar issues recently with my ex best friend.
She thinks she gets to put me down for things I struggle with when it comes to anxiety and depression, but she'll go cry to her other friends about how she's too anxious over something and claim she's depressed lol.
Hypocrites aren't worth your time, you're better off without them. ^^

I'm glad you got out of it.
I try not to talk to her anymore, but it's kinda hard since we got accepeted into the same school so we bump into each other sometimes.

She also doesn't want me to meet her new friends lol.

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Lelop wrote:

Rosenbug wrote:
I've been friends with her since 2nd grade, but another girl joined our group in 4th grade.
I started showing pretty big signs of depression around 7th grade, and she would always make fun of it, and she even called me a "wrist violinist" multiple times (i never harmed my self tho, don't know where that came from).
I always tried to be there when either of them had a problem, but everytime i had something with my family she would always dismis it.

Now she's uwu depressed and has blocked me and the other girl from her story on instagram

We don't really talk anymore, but me and the other girl are still really close (she's an angel)

Stg her and my family is the reason i have trust/abandonment issues

Some other things as well:

1. She also lied/lies a lot about everything.

2. I once met her aunt in a bus and we talked for a while, and she flat out called her manipulative. Fun times.

3. She has a decent following on social media, and my sister told/showed me she puts on a "nice girl who has no friends" persona everytime she posts something

4. And she made fun of me for not wanting to drink alcohol because my dad is an alcoholic (which she knows)

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Caramelia wrote:
I'm back, gonna read through now and reply

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miu wrote:
i am the fake friend lol

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Caramelia wrote:

Marlene wrote:

Marlene wrote:
My story is very common it happens to a lot of people but I've actually never had a fake friend before.
I gave her a chance to talk about it face to face but she chose to lie about it and told me a couple of hours later even though i tried to talk about her and whats up fr.
She didn't want to she doesn't have to its not my problem anymore and she had the guts to tell me the night when she told me that they had slept, that she did not care and that she was a disgusting whore and she knows it and hang up.
Now shes spreading some parts of our story saying that she slept with him and i called her a whore and she doesnt know why im mad..
lol if youd listen youd know
I also called her out for being disrespectful towards my boyfriend talking about it open because she didnt think that there might be someone not wanting people to know about it and her respond was " its not my fault if the person i spoke to about this, talks about it with other people "

This is also the reason why i'm afraid of losing my v-card.
This is not what someones first time is supposed to look like.

Wow, that's super weird of her. Who would want to tell a story where they supposedly get told they're a "whore" and tell everyone who probably already knows she sleeps around? I would personally be so embarrassed, but Ig she likes the attention? It's weird how some people calm their needs like that. Like they even feed off of bad attention. Hope she gets some help, sounds like she could need it.
It's good to hear that your boyfriend is patient though. Sounds like a keeper for now!

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Caramelia wrote:

Marlene wrote:
I gotta say thanks for making this thread because I've really been feeling like talking about this other than with my friends and classmates who found out about it.
Thank you!!

aweee
Yeah, it's really surprising how talking with strangers about stuff like this can be super relieving. Especially when there's no judgement and prejudice. Just strangers listening to other strangers stories.
I'm glad that this thread helped you feel better

Allie
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Allie wrote:
Had this one friend I thought was really sweet and cute. Turns out she shared everything I ever told her to others and made fun of me and others behind mine and the others back. Her compliments were fake, her super positive way of being was fake and 90% of what she ever said was fake or not true. The one thing that made her into this was one argument or misunderstanding, depending how you'd see it. Didn't matter how much I apologized, she said she expected better from me. That I simply wasn't good enough apparently. Now when I know everything about her, I gotta say the same thing. I didn't expect this. I had my suspicions. But I never thought someone could be that pure evil. Can't believe I cared when she told me she might have covid. Can't believe I cared about her not getting home during lockdown. Can't believe I was so blind. Bet she is laughing about that as well, how blindly you can believe someone, or at least how I could.

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Caramelia wrote:

Focalin wrote:
Oh boy

I was best friends with a girl online for around 5 years.(Not a VP user)
I thought we were really close, but things changed this year apparently.
She'd constantly tell me we'd come out on top, because we always got through a lot of shit together.
Meet a new group of people and she slowly starts drifting away from me and turns into a shitty person.
They kept going to her about little issues they had with me instead of either having her actually come to me about it or just growing a pair and coming to me about it themselves.
Once she does finally come to me about those things she plays it off as if it's nothing and gets mad at the end when I "didn't change/didn't take it seriously" despite apologizing to the group at that time and saying I would be focusing on myself and working on those issues.

I had a discord server I made just for the group and when things started to come to an end her and one of the girls there only could come at me with attacks and then later claimed I was the one doing so lmfao.
Transferred ownership to the only girl I didn't have issues with and left and then my ex best friend decided to confront me in dms.
I tried to be rational about things and just explain to her how I was feeling and she threw insult after insult then said I was the one doing that again.
After having more time to process things and think I realized just how toxic she was and how all she did
was push blame on me for every fault of hers so I decided to end it with a message being more honest
than I was the night before (I felt the need to be careful of my words previously) and told her I was done and would be completely removing her.
She got angry at that so I ended up having to block her.
Later on she's tried starting drama with me twice and has tried telling people I still talk to that they shouldn't talk to me. Childish asf.

woooow, yeah that does really sound childish. The fact that she didn't come to you sooner and is the one who gets angry perplexes me? Like why would SHE be the one who's angry. You shouldn't be trying to become what they want you to be and if anything she should be angry at THEM for trying to change you. That's at least what I think a friend/best friend should be like. If she was decent she would've told you, but sided with you? It's that thing again where it's like people are too afraid to stand by themselves and their friends and just try to be like the "popular" ones or new friends. The fact that she gangs up on you with another person is honestly just.. yeah idfk, I'm just smh so hard irl right now lmao. The fact that she would shit on a 5 year long friendship because of some new friends she got. She obviously got angry when you told her you would be removing her from your life because she regretted it. Who wouldn't regret losing a friendship that had been going on for years? She prolly had an inner crisis or something and didn't know what to do to get your attention again, so she started drama because she a stupid hoeeeee
I think it was good that you removed her from your life. Doesn't it feel good thinking about the fact that you don't have a toxic bish like that in your life anymore? Ofc there will be things that'll be missed, it was a long ass friendship, but I'm sure you'll find(or have found?) new people who are incredible.

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wug wrote:
Why the trigger warning though

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ouch wrote:

DRAIN wrote:
i am the fake friend lol

Lol same ig

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beholder wrote:
when i was 16-19ish then 21, i reconnected with a friend from elementary school. she was a compulsive liar, which was really bad since my bf at 16 also was a compulsive liar so my head was just constantly getting fucked with. she would be so nice and great then have periods where she was so fucking manipulative and .. colder?

weird examples:
- i was meeting these guys for the first time she was friends with. things were chill, i had recently started therapy because i felt like i was depressed and she randomly blurts out during this hangout, "hey (me), WHAT DO THEY THINK IS WRONG WITH YOU?" across the room.

- when i was in the relationship at 16, she would say things along the lines of, "if you weren't pretty i would tell (then-bf) to break up with you"

- she told me she fucked her ex bf while she was currently seeing someone else. years later she denies that she ever cheated on him when she literally told me about it herself.

note: i am 25 fucking years old (and she's slightly older) and this girl still goes around telling people i'm a drama queen back home

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Caramelia wrote:

Rowan wrote:
Lol omg when I was 14 i hung out w this girl whod tell me i shud kill myself n tht i shud cut differently so it'd kill me n stuff n tht no one likes having me around n 2 this day i still feel like no one actually likes having me around lol
Bonkmoment

yo wtf
Who the fuck would ever say that to anyone?! How sad of a life they must have to be able to say shit like that. I'm actually kinda speechless right now? Is she okay? There must be something terribly wrong with her?? It's times like this I would like to think that people like her are in fact some other species or alien from far far away. To be a human and know that I'm sorta, kinda related to her far out is the bonk of this.
It's such a huge sign of bad friends when they say stuff like what you mentioned about them being the only ones who would put up with you? Like nono, a friend would think that everyone would want to hang out with you because of how awesome you are. I hope you're not alone anymore and that some other peeps can see how awesome you are and be proud of you. And really fuck that girl big time, I'm still kinda speechless lmao

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Caramelia wrote:

Marlene wrote:
rn im in the middle of my fam fighting so i cant rly focus but im also interested in being here for ppl n read their stories too like hell

Thank fuck I live by myself now
family feuds can be the pettiest fights lmao
Hope they leave each other and you alone

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Gilmore wrote:
Had a best friend for 9 years
Then when we got to different schools when we were turning 16 she messaged me, calling me a bitch and telling me how I ruined her life and mental health and used her as a doormat but never truly explaining what I had done. I tried to convince her to see me face to face, but she didn't want to. She also took all my other friends with her since they all went to the same school except for me. She blocked me everywhere. For six months I tried, I sent her a message per month or so, explaining myself and trying to get answers - but she didn't want to give me any.

I truly loved her, and I admit I had REALLY bad teenage years, but I can promise y'all that I never wanted to ruin shit for her, idk what I did. It's been almost 3 years now and it still haunts me and I still love and miss her (l)

I actually bumped on her here in VP but I doubt she knew who I was since she didn't block me.