MasileinDE wrote:Quinzelle wrote:MasileinDE wrote:
stories like this make me so sad and angry at the same time
like I don't know about others, but I still feel like the sexual awakening (even if it's just in the way of suddenly having a different body and realising it's something that is so important for many people in their lives later on) and then not getting told what the changes are you're going through? like seriously, you already have all the hormonal troubles that make you so emotional and miserable half ot the time, and then you're just sitting there in front of a pile of really awkward questions that society still tells you are nasty to ask... I just can't! I mean, doesn't matter if it's about periods, sexual cravings, weird hard-ons and what not, it's a very uprising (no pun intended) time in everybody's life and not being allowed to get to know and understand yourself on a purely biological level ...
It's what makes me so happy, that there is more and more magazines and youtube channels and what not you can find online that really do a great job at educating young people about the changes their bodies go through and how to work with them. I feel like we finally need to break that shame spiral when it comes to sex - not just the act itself, but also everything else it entails. The bodies, the forms, the possibilities. And I don't mean it in the clickbait way women's magazines like Cosmopolitan and co do it. And that people really need to differenciate between what is porn and what is deemed educational. Like, sorry, but showing teenagers how a body looks like and what variations you can have is not the equivalent to throwing a Playboy at them.
I honestly feel you.
I still feel so ashamed of a lot of it and it fucking sucks. The only person I feel like I can really talk to it all about is my boyfriend because he's "deemed so by society" - like you're made to feel like you should only talk to your partner about it. Like, I'm 20 and scared to talk about stuff like this and feel self-conscious.
My school didn't even fucking teach us how to put condoms on! None of that cucumber or bananas or anything. We'd saw diagrams like once but they weren't really detailed. I barely remember the lessons.
Before I met my boyfriend, I thought it was a thing that when guys get cold they're dick goes into their body. Like genuinely. He thought it was hysterical and we make a joke of it now but THAT is how he realised how shit my school's sex-ed really was xD
omg, yet another "myth" I hate this society for

like seriously, I talk about these matters to anyone who's willing to listen. like, I'm lady tmi in my friends group when it comes to anything.
as for the condom thing ... I was the lucky one who was "allowed" to do it in our class. yes, let's give that task to the biggest clutz in the whole room

also, it was a lubed condom, so slippery affair altogether. I did feel mortified at that moment, but mostly because I kept losing grip and everyone was laughing (though to be fair, most laughs were probably out of embarassment). I do have a fond memory about our teacher going all out and presenting a whole bunch of flavoured condoms to smell. We basically had half a lesson just talking about the different kinds you can get, how to use them, when they aren't safe anymore regarding storage, etc
also, regarding the cold
the ball sack actually can retract a bit when cold. it's really pronounced in babies, where it can go really up into their body (weird things your mom tells you when you start talking about balls to her)
Ikr! I'm just extremely grateful that my boyfriend doesn't get weird or shy about any of it like periods or anything like a lot of guys can do/stereotypically do. That would've just made me feel even worse about it all but since meeting him, I'm slowly gaining confidence in it all. I hope I can have that much confidence in myself one day!