Kit wrote:
thats fine ? its just like . idk comparing me to my abuser, telling me im a lost cause & not worth forgiveness, but then also insisting that i keep trying and doing everything for them to try and earn that forgiveness when they'll never actually forgive me ? is an impossible situation for me idk
but ya i acknowledge i was a bully nd that that had a huge impact on them, but i also think they're displacing a lot of their feelings about our abusive father onto me bc im "safer" than he is to get angry at idk
kruspersille wrote:
idk i think ur sibling is allowed to feel however they want to feel abt u bullying them growing up
for all we know, that could be something that really stuck w them, n might also be why they're projecting that onto others now
but then again, i dont know you, i dont know ur sibling, i dont know at whate age u bullied them n how old they are now
yhh idk i really dont wanna b like "they're not allowed to feel that way" bc like ? that's their feelings ? idk i think ur sibling is allowed to feel however they want to feel abt u bullying them growing up
for all we know, that could be something that really stuck w them, n might also be why they're projecting that onto others now
but then again, i dont know you, i dont know ur sibling, i dont know at whate age u bullied them n how old they are now
thats fine ? its just like . idk comparing me to my abuser, telling me im a lost cause & not worth forgiveness, but then also insisting that i keep trying and doing everything for them to try and earn that forgiveness when they'll never actually forgive me ? is an impossible situation for me idk
but ya i acknowledge i was a bully nd that that had a huge impact on them, but i also think they're displacing a lot of their feelings about our abusive father onto me bc im "safer" than he is to get angry at idk