If you tell your partner... - Forum

DaddyIssues wrote:

rixi wrote:

DaddyIssues wrote:

rixi wrote:
is it really that bad omg

If your partner questions you to the point you feel bad about something you have no reason to feel bad about and can't see how you are sacrificing a part of your life that you shouldn't have to: he needs to understand his wrongs and that that's an unacceptable behaviour.

i really don't want to frame him in a bad light because he's not a bad person, it's just every time it happens i tell him it's not right for him to be acting that way and he always gives a backhanded apology. in every other aspect of the relationship he's lovely but, for example, a couple weeks ago one of my guy friends commented "you look great" on my insta post and my bf spent the entire evening going on about it and how it makes him feel insecure. i just don't know what to do, we've been together for a year and a half and this has always been an issue. i love him so much and i know he's just projecting his insecurities, but no matter how much we go over it and try to sort it out i never feel comfortable talking to another guy because i'm scared of how he'll react. i'm in a groupchat with my old friends from my old school (one of which is this guy who i dated for like 3 days so barely an ex) and i could never ever tell my bf because he'd go mad. i don't want to be keeping things from him though and either way i just feel so awful about it

I don't believe he is a bad person but I do think that you need to bring it up to him. I've been there and it's so draining to constantly need to think about what you tell your partner and almost feel like you are cheating just cause you accidentally bumped in to an ex.