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scoff wrote:
Yes, seriously. Been thinking about this for years wishing I'd manage to find one but... null.

Here's my problem: either it feels completely meaningless or it feels like a chore instead of something I genuinely enjoy within about fifteen minutes. This goes for everything. Seriously everything.

I've tried drawing - didn't like it. What's the point in drawing if I'll have to spend thousands of hours on it to even get good enough to let others see my drawings? Nah, that's a chore. And it's completely meaningless drawing only for myself. Same goes with music. And I was on that for YEARS tryna get good. Didn't get good. Not fun anymore. Fuckin' meaningless. Oh - and photography! Tried that as well. Turns out I'm too lazy to learn how to edit and stuff, so... yeah. Tried true crime blogging. Wrote five entries. Nah - feels like a chore. And nobody's reading it anyway. Sports ain't my thing. Going to the gym feels scary. Plus they're all closed down now anyway. Wanted to get into movie making for a while, but I was too lazy for that as well. I don't even like watching movies anymore. Not even my beloved 1970s slasher flicks. K?

What do I do?

And no, I'm not depressed. I've never had a real hobby that I liked spending time on. So that's that. I've just really tried to like things, you know? And either it didn't work or the thing became so important I basically wanted to die because I'm never gonna get good enough, I'm never gonna become something on this... so why am I doing it?

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scoff wrote:
Really. I'm gonna get depressed if I never find anything to enjoy.

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LOLITA wrote:
do you have something you like? like plants, animals, nature idk man

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uhyre wrote:
just keep trying stuff eventually u find something or u dont thats it

tho if not being immediately good at it is gonna be a hindrance then ur in for some trouble

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scoff wrote:

RATGORE wrote:
do you have something you like? like plants, animals, nature idk man

I don't know. I like cats. I like my cats. I'm into true crime and psychiatry, but I never find anything to actually do with it other than trying to get a job at the psych ward or at a forensic psych ward or w/e. I like the 60s and I like the 70s - as in, I'm fascinated with it. I like the photos they took. I like the music, and the horror films. Although I don't even watch movies anymore. I like to drink coffee. I like to drink beer and to try new beers. I like to spend time with friends, especially in the summer hanging out in a park or smth having a bbq and drinking. I like Guns N' Roses, but they're not very... it's not like I'm gonna find any new music from them.

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scoff wrote:

mikkelrev wrote:
just keep trying stuff eventually u find something or u dont thats it

tho if not being immediately good at it is gonna be a hindrance then ur in for some trouble

I've run out of ideas, so that's a problem. Forgot to add I can't stand knitting, crocheting or DIY'ing. I don't like things that demand high focus, a still environment and all that shit. I like to party. I can't have partying as being my only hobby for the rest of my life.

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scoff wrote:
You know what? Life is boring. Everything is boring. I'm desperate for something that I can enjoy and spend hours and hours doing, without getting tired of it. Like, I have a friend who's into art. She can spend hours and hours and hours on it, and it feels fulfilling for her. My bf is into renovating old mopeds and engines. He can spend a humongous amount of time on that without tiring of it. My brother loves gaming. He could do that for 20 hours a day for a week at least without tiring of it. My mothers fiancé likes fishing and if he could, he'd probably spend every waken hour away from work doing just that.

I want to have a passion like that, too. Something I can enjoy and look forward to and love. But I have nothing. It feels like I've tried everything, but nothing ever feels just right. And I hate that.

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Limbs wrote:
maybe something more active would be more up your alley? something that involves going someplace else, like uuhh.. hiking, or urban exploration

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scoff wrote:

Limbs wrote:
maybe something more active would be more up your alley? something that involves going someplace else, like uuhh.. hiking, or urban exploration

I'm very intrigued about the idea of urban exploration, to be completely honest. I've visited as many abandoned houses as I've could do with ease + an old abandoned mental hospital, but that was years ago and it's no fun doing on my own. And since it's illegal, no one I know feels like taking that risk, even though you rarely get punished for it unless it's a military spot or w/e. So that sucks. Because I LOVE abandoned shit.

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Valkyria wrote:
urban exploring is really cool idea

what talent did you have as a child?
do you like entertaining people?
you like to teach children?

maybe you can learn tiktok dances

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Clegane wrote:

scoff wrote:

Limbs wrote:
maybe something more active would be more up your alley? something that involves going someplace else, like uuhh.. hiking, or urban exploration

I'm very intrigued about the idea of urban exploration, to be completely honest. I've visited as many abandoned houses as I've could do with ease + an old abandoned mental hospital, but that was years ago and it's no fun doing on my own. And since it's illegal, no one I know feels like taking that risk, even though you rarely get punished for it unless it's a military spot or w/e. So that sucks. Because I LOVE abandoned shit.

I feel you so much on this
I've longed to visit an abandoned place but no one I know wants to join me and I definitely don't wanna go alone

I talked with this explorer dude online once and he recommended me to look for urban explorer groups or something similar that are based in my area/country

Maybe if you do that, you can find some cool people to go with

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absintjente wrote:
i think getting out of the mindset of doing things for others to consume helps. i dont draw to "get good", i draw because i think its fun and i like putting things up on my wall
oh and taking non-traditional ways to your goal. if youre not good at drawing human bodies irl, edit them however u like in photoshop or paint n print it.