IMPORTANT QUESTION - Forum - Virtual Popstar

Private
National star

scoff wrote:
how do you make life feel less fake?

like, i've always been stuck with the feeling that nothing really matters anyway or it doesn't serve any purpose and this or that would be fun, but what's the point?

i'd love to learn german (i mean, it can't be impossible, can it? after all, i did learn english and i think i managed pretty well to be honest), but then i'm like "why? what's the point? when and for what would use it anyway?"
i once bought a ukulele and i've been telling myself ever since i bought it that i'm gonna try and learn to play it, but it's the same thing there - what's the fucking point? sure, it's a skill but what's it good for? what am i supposed to do with it?
and then that list goes on and on and on and on and on

yeah, i can get a better, bigger apartment in the future and put actual furniture in it and all that shit, but what's the point? i can get a drivers license, but why? i mean, to get a job, naturally, but why do i want to have that job anyway? what's the point in it?

ok this is a lot of bullshit, but i think i just want to do things or learn things or accomplish things because part of me thinks that that will make me feel a little bit more fulfilled, like i am something or i've done something or w/e, but... the bigger part of me actually simply just does not care one bit for that shit. why would i strive to achieve anything? what's the point?

eh. k.

Private
International star

wug wrote:
for the language part, you don't need a reason to learn a language, it's a great way of training your brain. there are a lot of interesting studies with multilingualism and brain damage and all that which is currently indicating that by knowing multiple languages the damage may be less severe or something like that
it's always a great idea exercising your brain

Private
National star

scoff wrote:
and while i realize my post might come off as something from a depressed person, that's not it here
maybe i've just succumbed to boring life™ and became my mom ("why should i do this/that or strive for this/that when i can just live contently the way i do?" )

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

Snusmumrikken wrote:
for the language part, you don't need a reason to learn a language, it's a great way of training your brain. there are a lot of interesting studies with multilingualism and brain damage and all that which is currently indicating that by knowing multiple languages the damage may be less severe or something like that
it's always a great idea exercising your brain

how many languages do you need to know and how fluent must you be in them for that effect to appear? do you know that?

Private
International star

wug wrote:

scoff wrote:

Snusmumrikken wrote:
for the language part, you don't need a reason to learn a language, it's a great way of training your brain. there are a lot of interesting studies with multilingualism and brain damage and all that which is currently indicating that by knowing multiple languages the damage may be less severe or something like that
it's always a great idea exercising your brain

how many languages do you need to know and how fluent must you be in them for that effect to appear? do you know that?

well honestly i don't know. my brain is a mess when it comes to languages because i enjoy learning. i don't think it does any harm at least.

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

Snusmumrikken wrote:

scoff wrote:

Snusmumrikken wrote:
for the language part, you don't need a reason to learn a language, it's a great way of training your brain. there are a lot of interesting studies with multilingualism and brain damage and all that which is currently indicating that by knowing multiple languages the damage may be less severe or something like that
it's always a great idea exercising your brain

how many languages do you need to know and how fluent must you be in them for that effect to appear? do you know that?

well honestly i don't know. my brain is a mess when it comes to languages because i enjoy learning. i don't think it does any harm at least.

i mean the problem for me is that i simply don't enjoy it, i think? it takes time and effort, and i'm really lazy when it comes to time and effort... especially effort, which is, uh, quite a bad personality trait to have

Private
International star

wug wrote:

scoff wrote:

Snusmumrikken wrote:

scoff wrote:
how many languages do you need to know and how fluent must you be in them for that effect to appear? do you know that?

well honestly i don't know. my brain is a mess when it comes to languages because i enjoy learning. i don't think it does any harm at least.

i mean the problem for me is that i simply don't enjoy it, i think? it takes time and effort, and i'm really lazy when it comes to time and effort... especially effort, which is, uh, quite a bad personality trait to have

I think you should start in like the small things so attempt to do a duolingo lesson a day at least, if you feel like doing more than one sometimes, you should do that, but only force yourself to do one every day, after some weeks it is starting to be a habit. also, a more intense - still low effort - thing you can do is change the input language on your phone to your target language, or on your social media accounts if you have any. it's very challenging in the start but after a few .. so long... you start understanding it because you get used to it

Private
Youtube star

Limbs wrote:
what do you think would make you happy? if you had all the money you needed and didn't need to work what would you do?

Account deleted

wrote:

scoff wrote:

Snusmumrikken wrote:

scoff wrote:
how many languages do you need to know and how fluent must you be in them for that effect to appear? do you know that?

well honestly i don't know. my brain is a mess when it comes to languages because i enjoy learning. i don't think it does any harm at least.

i mean the problem for me is that i simply don't enjoy it, i think? it takes time and effort, and i'm really lazy when it comes to time and effort... especially effort, which is, uh, quite a bad personality trait to have

then don't do it. what do you enjoy?

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

Limbs wrote:
what do you think would make you happy? if you had all the money you needed and didn't need to work what would you do?

i'd go places
like, i'd go to london and maybe to the US and then to berlin and then i'd stay in berlin and just... live there? idk man, i like berlin

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

Snusmumrikken wrote:

scoff wrote:

Snusmumrikken wrote:
well honestly i don't know. my brain is a mess when it comes to languages because i enjoy learning. i don't think it does any harm at least.

i mean the problem for me is that i simply don't enjoy it, i think? it takes time and effort, and i'm really lazy when it comes to time and effort... especially effort, which is, uh, quite a bad personality trait to have

I think you should start in like the small things so attempt to do a duolingo lesson a day at least, if you feel like doing more than one sometimes, you should do that, but only force yourself to do one every day, after some weeks it is starting to be a habit. also, a more intense - still low effort - thing you can do is change the input language on your phone to your target language, or on your social media accounts if you have any. it's very challenging in the start but after a few .. so long... you start understanding it because you get used to it

i mean, i'm pretty good at understanding german, i just can't... speak or form my own sentences, pretty much
like, when it comes to talking i can, like, ask for directions, introduce myself, order stuff on bars or restaurants, pay for shit... stuff like that.

Private
World famous

Claire wrote:

scoff wrote:

Limbs wrote:
what do you think would make you happy? if you had all the money you needed and didn't need to work what would you do?

i'd go places
like, i'd go to london and maybe to the US and then to berlin and then i'd stay in berlin and just... live there? idk man, i like berlin

if you came to chicago you could crash at my place for real i've got a spare room and an air matress

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

Dracarys wrote:

scoff wrote:

Snusmumrikken wrote:
well honestly i don't know. my brain is a mess when it comes to languages because i enjoy learning. i don't think it does any harm at least.

i mean the problem for me is that i simply don't enjoy it, i think? it takes time and effort, and i'm really lazy when it comes to time and effort... especially effort, which is, uh, quite a bad personality trait to have

then don't do it. what do you enjoy?

i don't know
being in berlin??? i've always been happy while being in berlin lol

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

Claire wrote:

scoff wrote:

Limbs wrote:
what do you think would make you happy? if you had all the money you needed and didn't need to work what would you do?

i'd go places
like, i'd go to london and maybe to the US and then to berlin and then i'd stay in berlin and just... live there? idk man, i like berlin

if you came to chicago you could crash at my place for real i've got a spare room and an air matress

you know, the thing about that is that now i can actually do that? not now during the corona pandemic, naturally, but afterwards when i get time off work (i got a job - or maybe another one, i'll know that on monday, otherwise i'm going in to sign papers on tuesday) i could actually really go places

i've never left europe before,,, i couldn't go to say the US or so with the ex cos he'd been charged with possession of drugs

Private
National star

scoff wrote:
it's so crazy actually being able to do anything??? yet doing nothing

i've mostly been focused on the practical shit, like having someplace to live and making sure to get enough money to pay for rent and stuff, but now all those things seems to have worked out pretty well pretty quickly aaaand... now what? my goal was that within a year, i'd have a nice place to live and a job that pays alright and now it seems like i might be able to achieve that a lot sooner (as soon as i've signed some papers, i'll start calling and mailing places about a bigger apartment and it usually doesn't take long if you know people or you know what you're doing despite that nationwide housing shortage we have going on)
ok, there's also this thing about getting my drivers license, but i feel like i could get that done as well

but THEN what?

Private
World famous

Claire wrote:

scoff wrote:Claire wrote:

scoff wrote:
i'd go places
like, i'd go to london and maybe to the US and then to berlin and then i'd stay in berlin and just... live there? idk man, i like berlin

if you came to chicago you could crash at my place for real i've got a spare room and an air matress

you know, the thing about that is that now i can actually do that? not now during the corona pandemic, naturally, but afterwards when i get time off work (i got a job - or maybe another one, i'll know that on monday, otherwise i'm going in to sign papers on tuesday) i could actually really go places

i've never left europe before,,, i couldn't go to say the US or so with the ex cos he'd been charged with possession of drugs

yea but this wont last forever and soemday you can come visit the us and when you do if you come to chicago theres a place for you