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Lituirchego wrote:
So my sister and her family live in Cambodia. And my nephew is a little older than 1 year old. He is the cutest little thing I have ever seen and the light of my life. I love him to pieces.
This is my first nephew or niece, and I wanna do the whole aunty thing justice because I think it matters more when he lives halfway across the world.
My sister's husband has a friend, who my sister doesn't even like tbh, but this friend keeps referring to herself as my nephew's aunty - even to the point where she's reposting photos on fb 'look at my nephew' and people actually assume my sister is her sister. Just now my sister posted a new photo of my nephew on fb (so cute), and she got there before me. It actually made me super angry and super sad that she was all over it and then I was sort of the second aunt, yknow?
This probably shouldn't bother me as much as it does, but it does. And I've spoken to my sister about it, who has spoken to this lass about it. But my sister says that this woman doesn't care, not only that but she's probably thriving on making me feel uncomfortable. I've also asked my sister to send photos and things to the family over here first, so that we feel we're actually a part of it (but that's a story for another day).
Now I understand, know and appreciate that close family friends can often be referred to as aunty or uncle or whatever, and especially in Cambodian culture those labels are used to refer to an older lady regardless of whether she is actually related to my nephew or not....and I wouldn't go as far to say she is actively ruining my first chance of being an auntie, but she is putting a dampener on the whole thing.
What I'm basically asking is am I allowed to be annoyed?
So my sister and her family live in Cambodia. And my nephew is a little older than 1 year old. He is the cutest little thing I have ever seen and the light of my life. I love him to pieces.
This is my first nephew or niece, and I wanna do the whole aunty thing justice because I think it matters more when he lives halfway across the world.
My sister's husband has a friend, who my sister doesn't even like tbh, but this friend keeps referring to herself as my nephew's aunty - even to the point where she's reposting photos on fb 'look at my nephew' and people actually assume my sister is her sister. Just now my sister posted a new photo of my nephew on fb (so cute), and she got there before me. It actually made me super angry and super sad that she was all over it and then I was sort of the second aunt, yknow?
This probably shouldn't bother me as much as it does, but it does. And I've spoken to my sister about it, who has spoken to this lass about it. But my sister says that this woman doesn't care, not only that but she's probably thriving on making me feel uncomfortable. I've also asked my sister to send photos and things to the family over here first, so that we feel we're actually a part of it (but that's a story for another day).
Now I understand, know and appreciate that close family friends can often be referred to as aunty or uncle or whatever, and especially in Cambodian culture those labels are used to refer to an older lady regardless of whether she is actually related to my nephew or not....and I wouldn't go as far to say she is actively ruining my first chance of being an auntie, but she is putting a dampener on the whole thing.
What I'm basically asking is am I allowed to be annoyed?
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