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DaddyIssues wrote:
I've been ready to move away from home for years now, but I finally got enough money and knowledge to actually do it. The only problem is that I don't have my driving license yet. I've always been sure the if I can take it before I move away from home I NEED TO DO THAT.

However, my home situation is... not the best. I know that there are people who have it A LOT worse but I still feel sick being home. My mom always tell me I'm good for nothing and worthless. My brother never defends me. He also used to punch me until I was shaking on the floor and then kick me. My mom knew about this for years before actually stepping in.

I feel like throwing up every day I wake up knowing it's gonna be another day of yelling and backlash from everything I do. I've tried telling people around me but no one really believes me since "my family seems so nice" and when I bring up this problem people seem to think I'm overreacting. I feel so powerless and small cause no one believes me and no one want to help me figure this out.

So, should I stay another year to get my license but feel scared the whole time or should I move without it and try to take it at a later time in my life (and then also have to spend much more money on it)?

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saint wrote:
you can always get your license later in life. rn all that matters is that you're safe / feeling safe

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Rotte wrote:
I would say get away and get the license later, it definitely sounds like u should think about your mental health first in this situation.

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If you need a driving license to move your stuff, you could easily hire a moving company or ask around your friends. l would like to inform you that money means shit if your health is on the stage. Yes, it would be more expensive but would it really be worth living a year in that household.

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alprazolam wrote:
i just wanna say that i believe you 'cause i've lived in a somewhat similar situation and it never gets any easier
living on your own w/o a driver's license is a struggle but if it's in any way possible for you to get away from that household, get the fuck out asap

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alprazolam wrote:
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never prioritize money over your physical and mental wellbeing

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saint wrote:

Vodyanoy wrote:
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never prioritize money over your physical and mental wellbeing

!!!!!!!!

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DaddyIssues wrote:

saint wrote:
you can always get your license later in life. rn all that matters is that you're safe / feeling safe

Ella wrote:
I would say get away and get the license later, it definitely sounds like u should think about your mental health first in this situation.

I know that's the logic way to see it, but I get told all the time that if I don't take it now; I'll probably never get it

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ouch wrote:
Why would u pay more for taking it later

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DaddyIssues wrote:

ouch wrote:
Why would u pay more for taking it later

Cause if I still live at home I have someone who can drive with me for free as if I were to move, then I would need to pay for lessons

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DaddyIssues wrote:

Vodyanoy wrote:
i just wanna say that i believe you 'cause i've lived in a somewhat similar situation and it never gets any easier
living on your own w/o a driver's license is a struggle but if it's in any way possible for you to get away from that household, get the fuck out asap

Thank you

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Rotte wrote:

DaddyIssues wrote:

saint wrote:
you can always get your license later in life. rn all that matters is that you're safe / feeling safe

Ella wrote:
I would say get away and get the license later, it definitely sounds like u should think about your mental health first in this situation.

I know that's the logic way to see it, but I get told all the time that if I don't take it now; I'll probably never get it

U are the one who can decide that, not them thought!
Plenty of people move out before getting their license and u can live alone without the license as long as u are willing to walk or take the public transport ofcause.

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DaddyIssues wrote:

Ella wrote:

DaddyIssues wrote:

saint wrote:
you can always get your license later in life. rn all that matters is that you're safe / feeling safe

Ella wrote:
I would say get away and get the license later, it definitely sounds like u should think about your mental health first in this situation.

I know that's the logic way to see it, but I get told all the time that if I don't take it now; I'll probably never get it

U are the one who can decide that, not them thought!
Plenty of people move out before getting their license and u can live alone without the license as long as u are willing to walk or take the public transport ofcause.

Yea, you are right...

I knew it before but I needed the push and to hear that I'm not insane. I'll move out as soon as I can. Thank you