scoff wrote:Claire wrote:scoff wrote:
i don't know
i just feel like he fell for me hard and REAL fucking quick and idk if that's a good thing??
i mean, he's a real nice person from what i've seen thus far and he respects me and all that, but i'm just... because i know myself to be a person who tends to find fucked up people, right? so i'm scared he'll turn out to be just as much as a piece of shit as the last one (i mean i doubt it tho, because this one isn't a junkie and also he doesn't do such fucked up shit like my ex did)
its good that youre feeling cautious. cause it can be bad if someone is too into you too fast. like 'love bombing' you know.
youll know more after you ask him to slow down- youll see if he respects that boundary or not.
yeah
it's nice to hear that it's good because at this point i don't really know which of my thoughts and feelings are normal and what's just paranoia from my relationship with my ex, you know? because i freak out disproportionally about some things from time to time - like, i think this guy and i were discussing music and bands and whatnot and he questioned why the fuck guns n roses are my favorite band lol and i just, uh, raised my voice and asked what the fuck he was questioning that for and basically told him to fuck off (because what came to my mind then was that one time when my ex spent an entire afternoon mocking me for my taste in music and eventually we got into an actual physical fight about it and...)
so this guy then apologized for what he'd said and i'm like ??? WHAT?! because WHAT??? men can do that?! idk i apologized for getting mad and this guy thinks i've nothing to apologize for because he was, in his own words, acting like an asshole so it was justified????
anyway, i will and then i'll see what happens from there
i actually believe he will respect that boundary but at the same time i'm not gonna be naive about it so i'll have a talk with him probably tomorrow
i think this is really good for you and that youre approaching this with the right amount of caution.