narcissistic parents - Forum

Kit
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Kit wrote:
yeah anyone have any experience w em lol

and im not talking abt the colloquial use, not lke "ugh my parents are such narcissists they did x for themselves when i wanted them to do y for me"

but i mean truly clinically significant npd narcissism

and uh yeah what have ur experiences been like ? what r they like ? what was ur childhood like ? do u still talk to them ? what's that like ? idk

also if ur parent(s) are just regular shitty i guess too lets talk abt it

tw for. you know. abuse

Kit
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Kit wrote:
yes this is so i can talk abt my daddy issues but i also heavily invite y'all to dish abt your daddy issues

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Delusion1111111 wrote:
mi father . sorry i wish i was i the mood to talk about this properly but tbh im still half asleep i need a coffee maybe ill be back. but the relationship.......not good yah lets put it that way

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Arthema wrote:

Kit wrote:
yes this is so i can talk abt my daddy issues but i also heavily invite y'all to dish abt your daddy issues

no father no problems lol
and he can also fuck off and never come back

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Versailles wrote:
oh my god... Npd parent, RUN is all I got to say.
My mother has npd and bp1, cut her off soon as I got old enough.
My childhoos was abusive borth physically and mentally Lots of therapy now and much happier without them.

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GenderTeam wrote:
my mom has bpd n bipolar so dats been always really uhhhhhh a lot to deal with, she still to this day criticizes my sister (in a very passive hard to explain way, basically makes my sister feel like she cant do anything and that she’s not good enough blah blah) and sporadically when my sister and mom have a miscommunication my moms like ”maybe you dont understand me because you’ve always been slower than other ppl, maybe ur autistic” like offensive stufffff that she shouldnt be saying and my sisters like 21 but has no self esteem cus of mom and she never admits that she’s wrong

SO like i wouldnt b surprised if she has narcissism too

dads even more to unpack,, but for example when she and my sister lived in the same city my sister always had to b my dads personal driver cus he bought her the car and would like blackmail her and call her a stupid bitch if she wanted to like study instead of drive our dad around

also my sister is way more sensitive than i am so she takes these things very personally and thats why i think that my parents are more in touch with her, she doesnt really fight back or argue back and when she does my parents come up w something until they get the last word and i just feel really bad for her, i rarely talk to my dad because idgaFFFF about him or his money but my sister is still in touch w him v regularly because she thinks that she can’t afford to cut ties w him (she could tho,,,) and idk i try to keep in touch w mom as much as possible cus its hard to be mad at her for some reason lol idk why my sister is regularly in touch w her tho probs the same reason as me

wow a RANT

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My mother needs to be the center of attention and have everything according to her wishes or she is pissed and locks herself in one of 2 rooms she has occupied in the house now and won't let anyone in there also she threatened to go in the forest and hang herself or drive the car off a cliff and then went out for 1 - 3 hrs alone after saying that it's our (me and my sister and dad's) fault often when I was a kid/teen.

I'm pretty sure it's where a big part of my anxiety comes from

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GenderTeam wrote:
childhood was not good cus mom wasnt diagnosed until we were like 6-7 and she started therapy when we were like 8 and she also has misophonia so she could get mad mad mad n like flip if somebody woke up to like go to the bathroom in the middle of the night or ate in a way that would annoy her

also she called me a whale when i was like 14 and i’ve hated my body since -__-

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disintegration wrote:
My mother needs to be the center of attention and have everything according to her wishes or she is pissed and locks herself in one of 2 rooms she has occupied in the house now and won't let anyone in there also she threatened to go in the forest and hang herself or drive the car off a cliff and then went out for 1 - 3 hrs alone after saying that it's our (me and my sister and dad's) fault often when I was a kid/teen.

I'm pretty sure it's where a big part of my anxiety comes from

She didn't have anything diagnosed tho bc people here go to church not therapy

Kit
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Kit wrote:

disintegration wrote:
My mother needs to be the center of attention and have everything according to her wishes or she is pissed and locks herself in one of 2 rooms she has occupied in the house now and won't let anyone in there also she threatened to go in the forest and hang herself or drive the car off a cliff and then went out for 1 - 3 hrs alone after saying that it's our (me and my sister and dad's) fault often when I was a kid/teen.

I'm pretty sure it's where a big part of my anxiety comes from

ajklfdsjk lfuck yeah that sounds a lot like my dad . like idk he rly started to go off the rails once he had kids and he wasnt the center of my mom's universe anymore and
yeah (big tw lmfafjkdlsjfdlks) after they got divorced he was sleeping in my lil sister's room n threatened to kill himself there so she'd find him in the morning when she went to go get her clothes idk like. thats so identifiable as narcissism 2 threaten to kill urself even tho like. he's done so for years and would never actually kill himself just like
the panic of losing control over other ppl and then trying desperately to regain it thru manipulation oof

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MossPiglet wrote:
oh my god... Npd parent, RUN is all I got to say.
My mother has npd and bp1, cut her off soon as I got old enough.
My childhoos was abusive borth physically and mentally Lots of therapy now and much happier without them.

yh my dad's also bp1 but wont get diagnosed w npd bc narcissists rarely do lmfao
but yeah ive been trying to cut him off since i was like 14/15 but idk part of me also still really wants to have some kidn of relationship w him or like. idk a relationship with a father figure at all tbh but my mom's bf isn't interested so
but every time we exchange emails its ok for like 1-2 replies and then idk he purposefully misinterprets smth i say or literally does the exact opposite of what i asked him to do and then gets super defensive n accusatory

and like idk i jsut rly dont think he understands even now that like. he was not the victim in this scenario nd he wasnt like. oh poor pathetic him he was abandoned by his family bc he's disabled/mentally ill or whatever but thats still the story he tells himself ? instead of he literally abused his family so bad for so long ?

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Kit wrote:
also in 2014-15ish we had a big argument about police murder & black lives bc i said the shooting of michael brown was racist & he disagreed n kept trying to convince me to b more """"openminded"""" so i called him a racist too and he got super angry

and then refused to send me his tax returns and jeopardized my university financial aid applications nd my whole academic future bc he was so offended at being called a racist

and now all he does is just get on facebook and bitch out everyone and anyone who disagrees w his bernie bro narrative in a way that is just so obscenely condescending and shitty and its just like. idk man imagine that

once he insisted we make a bet for $500 that he could get smth done at the bank for me, even tho i knew i needed to go to court for it. was smug abt it for weeks until it turned out he fucking couldnt & i was right. when i asked for my $500 he literally just texted back "*uck you" (lmfao) . i was 17 or 18 or smth

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Kit wrote:
once when i was like 12 he promised to take me and my friend to a movie but then forgot

then when i reminded him and insisted he still take us because a. he promised, b. its not my fault he forgot and c. its about a 10 min drive

he got mad that i was being idk disrespectful or talking back or whatever and just slapped me fully across the face in front of my new friend

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Kit wrote:

intimate wrote:
my mom has bpd n bipolar so dats been always really uhhhhhh a lot to deal with, she still to this day criticizes my sister (in a very passive hard to explain way, basically makes my sister feel like she cant do anything and that she’s not good enough blah blah) and sporadically when my sister and mom have a miscommunication my moms like ”maybe you dont understand me because you’ve always been slower than other ppl, maybe ur autistic” like offensive stufffff that she shouldnt be saying and my sisters like 21 but has no self esteem cus of mom and she never admits that she’s wrong

SO like i wouldnt b surprised if she has narcissism too

dads even more to unpack,, but for example when she and my sister lived in the same city my sister always had to b my dads personal driver cus he bought her the car and would like blackmail her and call her a stupid bitch if she wanted to like study instead of drive our dad around

also my sister is way more sensitive than i am so she takes these things very personally and thats why i think that my parents are more in touch with her, she doesnt really fight back or argue back and when she does my parents come up w something until they get the last word and i just feel really bad for her, i rarely talk to my dad because idgaFFFF about him or his money but my sister is still in touch w him v regularly because she thinks that she can’t afford to cut ties w him (she could tho,,,) and idk i try to keep in touch w mom as much as possible cus its hard to be mad at her for some reason lol idk why my sister is regularly in touch w her tho probs the same reason as me

wow a RANT

hjgklcxjklv god that sounds rly fucking rough tho like

idk its really sweet tho that u care that much abt ur sister & really sad tht she feels like she cant rly distance herself from them . is she younger ? idk i also have a younger sister nd like

wow idk just being sisters when u have parents that are super dysfunctional ? rough idk. at least for me it's rly affected our relationship idk how that is for u

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Versailles wrote:

Kit wrote:

MossPiglet wrote:
oh my god... Npd parent, RUN is all I got to say.
My mother has npd and bp1, cut her off soon as I got old enough.
My childhoos was abusive borth physically and mentally Lots of therapy now and much happier without them.

yh my dad's also bp1 but wont get diagnosed w npd bc narcissists rarely do lmfao
but yeah ive been trying to cut him off since i was like 14/15 but idk part of me also still really wants to have some kidn of relationship w him or like. idk a relationship with a father figure at all tbh but my mom's bf isn't interested so
but every time we exchange emails its ok for like 1-2 replies and then idk he purposefully misinterprets smth i say or literally does the exact opposite of what i asked him to do and then gets super defensive n accusatory

and like idk i jsut rly dont think he understands even now that like. he was not the victim in this scenario nd he wasnt like. oh poor pathetic him he was abandoned by his family bc he's disabled/mentally ill or whatever but thats still the story he tells himself ? instead of he literally abused his family so bad for so long ?

My mom is probably diagnosed with npd, because she used therapist and other ppl to try prove everyone's wrong and worthless - but not her - it backlashed and she quit. Bp1 came many years later. And tbh it was hard to cut contact - it's hard but I had to do it. All the manipulation... I feel like the only reason i've been semi- in contact is because of guilt and hope. It never got better and it drained me I've been studying psychology at uni a bit and reading tons, and I know the relationship won't do me any good. It's very unfair to have bad childhood and be almost without any family, but atleast I got my sister and friends. Struggle a lot of that fact, but i'd struggle more if I let them in my life again.

Hope you find peace and people supporting you, it's hard.

Kit
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Kit wrote:
sorry lmao this rly did turn into a me ranting abt my daddy issues thread i just .

one day im going to write a book w a long pseudopsychoanalysis of this dude bc idk

honestly i genuinely think that he'd be such a fascinating psychological specimen tho like if it didnt absolutely gut me every time he sent me a shitty email i'd be so into it . dude is absolutely fuckwild honestly

"I don't consider either of us as being obligated to the other." bitch shut the fuck up thats not magnanimous or generous its fucking delusional ! u are or at least once were obligated to me ! the idea that we r equals is hilarious ! comic ! laughable !

like he's honestly so delusional and insane it sometimes doesnt even feel real