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awp wrote:
trying to cope with my anxiety and stress because my mom is screaming at me for doing my responsibilities. (i.e chores)

threatens to call the police on me for screaming at her back because i'm panicking and knocking into things because i'm pacing around listening to her torment me and insulting me.

>told her that my college still didn't take my financial aid money
>mom tells me that she'll help me with the situation
>also tells me to give her the number and that she'll call the education center on the way to work
>minutes later she calls me back yelling at me and explaining what the operators told her
>quote on quote "she's supposed to do that, not you mom"
>me. confused and upset.
>all hell breaks loose
>and now I'm getting kicked out once she gets home.

so now i'm in bed curled up into a ball crying for listening and letting my mom "help" me (':

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Omg wtf

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I'm so sorry

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awp wrote:

Yasu wrote:
I'm so sorry

you don't have to apologize, it's not your fault
it's mine for not paying attention to myself and letting my mom baby me all the way to college.

so i deserve it for being a "mamas girl"

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deaIs wrote:

Yasu wrote:
I'm so sorry

you don't have to apologize, it's not your fault
it's mine for not paying attention to myself and letting my mom baby me all the way to college.

so i deserve it for being a "mamas girl"

I know it's not my fault, I'm sorry that you got to that kind of situation. It's not your fault neither. I'm not saying that it's straightly you mom fault but.... She could reacted better. Idk anything else about your mom but she don't seem trustworthy by that you told

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alprazolam wrote:

deaIs wrote:

Yasu wrote:
I'm so sorry

you don't have to apologize, it's not your fault
it's mine for not paying attention to myself and letting my mom baby me all the way to college.

so i deserve it for being a "mamas girl"

it shouldn't be your responsibility to draw the lines in the relationship between a you and your parent(s)...

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awp wrote:

Vodyanoy wrote:

deaIs wrote:

Yasu wrote:
I'm so sorry

you don't have to apologize, it's not your fault
it's mine for not paying attention to myself and letting my mom baby me all the way to college.

so i deserve it for being a "mamas girl"

it shouldn't be your responsibility to draw the lines in the relationship between a you and your parent(s)...

i always think about it and tell her about it but she told me this before..
"i know i'm a pain in the ass but i won't leave you alone until you're done with college"

it doesn't mean anything if not everything she yells at me about is entirely college.
and to be frank, 99% isn't college. it's just baby drama between me and her and it's down right embarrassing for me.

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awp wrote:

Yasu wrote:

deaIs wrote:

Yasu wrote:
I'm so sorry

you don't have to apologize, it's not your fault
it's mine for not paying attention to myself and letting my mom baby me all the way to college.

so i deserve it for being a "mamas girl"

I know it's not my fault, I'm sorry that you got to that kind of situation. It's not your fault neither. I'm not saying that it's straightly you mom fault but.... She could reacted better. Idk anything else about your mom but she don't seem trustworthy by that you told

she does it all the time, i'm not surprised but extremely stressed and emotionally drained. she's always putting me down for doing the things i wanna do for myself, but yet i get followed around and she tells me things that i already know what to do but insists that she'll do it herself. so telling me that i'm irresponsible, and lazy makes me the "bad person" in her view? i feel insulted by my own mother.

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Versailles wrote:
It's unfair to distress you out like that and calling you names/ lazy etc. I get it that parents can be frustrated for their reasons idk, but she doesn't deal with situation well. You're old enough to make your own decisions. I'd suggest family counseling, it would be healthy to have a third-part/therapist in this.

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MossPiglet wrote:
It's unfair to distress you out like that and calling you names/ lazy etc. I get it that parents can be frustrated for their reasons idk, but she doesn't deal with situation well. You're old enough to make your own decisions. I'd suggest family counseling, it would be healthy to have a third-part/therapist in this.

i kid you the fuck not, but i'm extremely depressed and it's been an entire 8 years that i've been stuck with it. i don't tell her because i know how she'll react to it and tell me the same sad excuse over, and over again. "why don't you move in with your dad?" "watch me get a boyfriend so i don't have to pay attention to you" etc etc. she's not a bad mom, but she's terrible at taking care of her child. only time i feel safe away from her is my job and that's about it. i can't ask for therapy because she'll take it as an insult that she's not doing anything right.

so i'm going to sit down and try to talk to her today, but if she cuts me off then i'm leaving for good because; once a therapist said to me: "communication is key". doesn't that sound right?? she's stubborn and doesn't wanna take what's right but uses excuses to shut me up from telling her whats right.