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Limbs wrote:
like a parent or whatever does it ever feel like things are ok again ? asking for a friend

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Limbs wrote:
it's been 10 years apparently but how is that possible?? feels like 3 months. or maybe 3 years idk

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wug wrote:
i think my dad is still sad about his mother's passing back in 2004. idk with my mother and her mother's passing in 2019.. it depends i guess.

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I haven't lost a parent yet, only 4 grandparents and one uncle and 2 friends so I can't say how it is to lose a parent but I would say it doesn't get better all the time but you start to think about it less frequently but it can still make you break down years later.
I think that's okay as long as it doesn't consume your life and makes it impossible to move forward.

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ellem wrote:
Lost my sister almost 3 years ago and had to go through ptsd therapy because of it so it can hit pretty hard tbh, and I honestly don’t think there’ll ever be a time when I don’t miss her and don’t feel sad while thinking about her but at least it’s easier now idk

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December wrote:
i've only lost two grandparents, both on my moms side, but i was like 5 and maybe 8 and i wasn't close to them. my grandpa had been sick all my life and was living at a home and i only met him a couple of times, something happened to him and he lost like oxygen in the brain or something and after that he was like angry all his life because of the brain injury i guess...really sad because mom said he was the nicest person before. and we were at my grandmas sometimes but not a lot (mom said she was kind of an alcoholic and i think that's how she got sick) but i think she still was a nice person. i don't even remember what she looks like. her husband was the sweetest tho, i feel like i remember him more even tho he passed away a year later.

so it was hard to be sad when i wasn't close to them. i don't even wanna think about my parents or siblings passing ugh...

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Limbs wrote:
like idk it just feels like everything is falling apart like the apocalypse is happening all of the time except for just me personally i guess. n it has felt like that since 3rd grade? i'm still waiting for it to be ok & not like everything is coming crumbling down. but idk if that's ever gonna happen

i remember telling my therapist in 2013 that it felt like the ground was pulled from under me n there was nothing left like everything was gone when mom died. it still feels like that like it never got ok. why does it still feel like when that it's been 10 fucking years

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cult wrote:
i mean ,, my dad died in 2013 and i think 2020 was the year i realized and accepted it. even though it does feel normal now there's still days tht are hard i don't think u'll ever get fully through a death of someone close

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Gilmore wrote:
I feel like I will die the day I lose my mom

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Gilmore wrote:
I feel like I will die the day I lose my mom

i did i think. good luck

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Gilmore wrote:
I feel like I will die the day I lose my mom

same honestly, she's my everything ?? without her i can't see any happiness

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Harumi wrote:
idk how it is to lose a parent, but have lost close ones
It's very hard at first, sometimes I forgot that they were dead and was thinking of calling them until I remembered they weren't here anymore. It's very painful at the beginning, and it feels kind of empty, like you're missing something inside you.

But after a while the pain is lessened, but it never goes totally away. Even tho it's been a few years I still feel a stab of pain of missing them sometimes. I still get very sad when there are things I wished to tell them, but they weren't there anymore, I miss their voice, their smile, their smell and their warmth when I hugged them. But it's definitively better now, I can look back on the good memories now, and not only the bad ones at the end. And I even smile when I think of them once in a while. It's kind of bittersweet.

If your friend have any close friends or family I would recommend them talking to them about their lost one, about how they feel, but also try talking about the nice memories. For me it helped talking about it, it just got worse trying to keep all the feelings inside.

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Laboratory wrote:
I mean it never goes away totally,, at least not from my exp,, lol but it gets easier
like in the beginning when I lost my dad I was a wreck 24/7 nd now I only have those meltdowns like once in a while or whenever I want 2 get in my feels n look at old pics n letters or whtever but yeah not as frequent

also just wanted 2 add that my dad passed 10 years n a few months ago to this day, so obviously I've had some time to heal

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YSL wrote:
my dad passed away last year and it honestly feels like i'll never fully heal from it

i'm guessing you never "get over" something like that, but you'll eventually find a way to live with it somehow... just because you have no other choice

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Laboratory wrote:
I mean it never goes away totally,, at least not from my exp,, lol but it gets easier
like in the beginning when I lost my dad I was a wreck 24/7 nd now I only have those meltdowns like once in a while or whenever I want 2 get in my feels n look at old pics n letters or whtever but yeah not as frequent

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Laboratory wrote:

YSL wrote:

Laboratory wrote:
I mean it never goes away totally,, at least not from my exp,, lol but it gets easier
like in the beginning when I lost my dad I was a wreck 24/7 nd now I only have those meltdowns like once in a while or whenever I want 2 get in my feels n look at old pics n letters or whtever but yeah not as frequent

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