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hutsu wrote:
or trying to act like one anyway, how do you deal with your own need to settle things while trying to give space and time to someone? in this case it's my partner whom i live with. we share a home and i don't want to keep pushing my need to talk everything through after a fight and a failed attempt to have a conversation. i want to be able to give him the night and talk about it tomorrow but i feel like i'm putting myself through a lot more than i would if things weren't left hanging like this
writing this actually feels helpful but it also feels problematic to share personal issues online before settling them with the people involved. also, this is probably not the best place to vent anyway, but i dislike the idea of my partner coming across a post about this and he follows me on pretty much any other platform i use.
if anyone relates to any of this i'd appreciate any suggestions. especially on how to deal with having such different needs after things getting heated between you and someone close to you. like both experiences are valid but it feels so tricky to navigate this. i hate going to bed when i know we're still both mad and feel horrible.
reading this through makes me kinda question if the intensity of my feelings come through at all, this might sound like the smallest thing (which might be true), but sadly it doesn't take away my feelings lol. and i know i can be overly sensitive - i'm just trying to state that i think i'm pretty aware of myself in this situation and the biggest struggle here for me is having to calm myself and get grounded now, because i dread needing to go through all of it again when he's ready to have a conversation. but there's no point in forcing it so i just need ways to cope.
tldr i'm a baby and don't want to go to sleep without kiss and make up
or trying to act like one anyway, how do you deal with your own need to settle things while trying to give space and time to someone? in this case it's my partner whom i live with. we share a home and i don't want to keep pushing my need to talk everything through after a fight and a failed attempt to have a conversation. i want to be able to give him the night and talk about it tomorrow but i feel like i'm putting myself through a lot more than i would if things weren't left hanging like this
writing this actually feels helpful but it also feels problematic to share personal issues online before settling them with the people involved. also, this is probably not the best place to vent anyway, but i dislike the idea of my partner coming across a post about this and he follows me on pretty much any other platform i use.
if anyone relates to any of this i'd appreciate any suggestions. especially on how to deal with having such different needs after things getting heated between you and someone close to you. like both experiences are valid but it feels so tricky to navigate this. i hate going to bed when i know we're still both mad and feel horrible.
reading this through makes me kinda question if the intensity of my feelings come through at all, this might sound like the smallest thing (which might be true), but sadly it doesn't take away my feelings lol. and i know i can be overly sensitive - i'm just trying to state that i think i'm pretty aware of myself in this situation and the biggest struggle here for me is having to calm myself and get grounded now, because i dread needing to go through all of it again when he's ready to have a conversation. but there's no point in forcing it so i just need ways to cope.
tldr i'm a baby and don't want to go to sleep without kiss and make up
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