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family problems and more family problems
background: i have a big family, grandma had 6 kids, each of those (except my mom) had 3-4 kids, all live in a small province except my mom & sister who live in the US, i'm somewhat estranged w most of them bc i didn't grow up with them & also am pretty socially impaired lol
so this weekend i was staying over at my cousin's sat-sunday and she was going to have lunch w our grandma on sunday so she asked if i wanted to stay for that & i said yes , hadn't seen my grandma in over a year at that point bc corona but she's vaccinated now so it's safe ! so i kinda surprised my grandma ig but we had a nice time, had lunch and a walk w the 3 of us was v nice
this morning in the family group chat another one of my cousins was like "hey oma how was it at j's (the cousin i was with) yesterday?"
& my grandma responds w describing j's new house (very big, 2 rooms and an attic), the neighborhood (very suburby n quaint) and the park nearby & how it's right at the edge of the city ! very fun and enthusiastic !
but like not even a mention of me at all not even smth basic like "and x was also there"
and idk why but it's really fucking with me !!!! like idk i know it's not malicious or anything but it also just feels like ???? oma pls ??? the attic registered higher on your list of "nice things about yesterday" than seeing me ? and idk when i saw my cousin's question idk why i just expected my grandma to say something about having seen me too ? but i guess not ? & idk it's just so hard for me to know how to have a relationship with my family and my grandma especially & then its like...oh guess it doesnt matter bc she doesnt even remember or care that i was there ?
and yeah im overreacting im aware ! its just like. another reminder that i'm not really a part of the family and even when i do manage to show up it's not even noticed ig. she also barely talked to me (not entirely her fault im hard to talk to im socially impaired) the whole afternoon and i tried so hard !!! i complimented her on her coat and had to repeat myself to get her to even realize i was talking
again idk what this thread is doing i use vp as a diary to vent my frustrations
tell me abt ur relationship with ur grandparents. mroe complicated more better im fascinated by multigenerational nonsense
family problems and more family problems
background: i have a big family, grandma had 6 kids, each of those (except my mom) had 3-4 kids, all live in a small province except my mom & sister who live in the US, i'm somewhat estranged w most of them bc i didn't grow up with them & also am pretty socially impaired lol
so this weekend i was staying over at my cousin's sat-sunday and she was going to have lunch w our grandma on sunday so she asked if i wanted to stay for that & i said yes , hadn't seen my grandma in over a year at that point bc corona but she's vaccinated now so it's safe ! so i kinda surprised my grandma ig but we had a nice time, had lunch and a walk w the 3 of us was v nice
this morning in the family group chat another one of my cousins was like "hey oma how was it at j's (the cousin i was with) yesterday?"
& my grandma responds w describing j's new house (very big, 2 rooms and an attic), the neighborhood (very suburby n quaint) and the park nearby & how it's right at the edge of the city ! very fun and enthusiastic !
but like not even a mention of me at all not even smth basic like "and x was also there"
and idk why but it's really fucking with me !!!! like idk i know it's not malicious or anything but it also just feels like ???? oma pls ??? the attic registered higher on your list of "nice things about yesterday" than seeing me ? and idk when i saw my cousin's question idk why i just expected my grandma to say something about having seen me too ? but i guess not ? & idk it's just so hard for me to know how to have a relationship with my family and my grandma especially & then its like...oh guess it doesnt matter bc she doesnt even remember or care that i was there ?
and yeah im overreacting im aware ! its just like. another reminder that i'm not really a part of the family and even when i do manage to show up it's not even noticed ig. she also barely talked to me (not entirely her fault im hard to talk to im socially impaired) the whole afternoon and i tried so hard !!! i complimented her on her coat and had to repeat myself to get her to even realize i was talking
again idk what this thread is doing i use vp as a diary to vent my frustrations
tell me abt ur relationship with ur grandparents. mroe complicated more better im fascinated by multigenerational nonsense
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