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Lituirchego wrote:
*this happened before lockdown*
anyways, a tiny bit of context. me and my friend a* work in the same pub and we drink a fair amount together. this time last year she decided to stop drinking. we would have the worst arguments when we were drunk, often over silly things that (i think, although possibly misremembering) she overexaggerated. she would never apologise and i always apologised to keep the peace, even tho in several cases i definitely wasn't at any fault. our friendship was good and we never fell out once she stopped drinking.
flash forward to this event. i was reaching out to a new friend (B) and we had a few drinks. i was quite drunk, but it was a difficult time as a coworker of myself and A had terminal cancer (i think this is relevant because we were both struggling with what was happening). me and B had a really good night, it took my mind off things and i really enjoyed her company. A was working at the pub and we decided to have a last drink there. B ordered a taxi, and we were rushing to get in it, and i'd forgotten to put my mask on and it was a bit of a drunken blur. i did say bye to A, but perhaps hurriedly. A asked me if we were going into town, i shook my head. A asked again and I shook my head again. i thought nothing of it, went home and got some wine. then i get a text message saying 'that was rude'. i didn't understand so i replied with 'what?'
A: 'the way you left'
Me: 'i said bye? what was rude?'
A: 'i was like are you off into town, you're just shaking your head and i asked where you're going to and you shut the door and shake your head. if that was the other way round you've have lost your shit at me. 1. me not inviting you and 2. not even answering me and waving me off. not waving me bye. waving off the question. it was so weird'.
Me: 'not sure what you're on about. shaking my head means no. no means no.' -then i sent a photo of me at home- 'this is me home. fuck you. not taking this bs anymore'.Ā
Then A blocks me.Ā
The way I see it, A was aggressive in her weirdness about the goodbye and I reacted to that with more aggression. I could have handled it much better but I'm not totally mad because boundaries needed to be set. This is not the first instance that she's gone off on one with me over something stupid like that. But maybe I'm just being defensive and I'm the ah?
AITA?Ā
*this happened before lockdown*
anyways, a tiny bit of context. me and my friend a* work in the same pub and we drink a fair amount together. this time last year she decided to stop drinking. we would have the worst arguments when we were drunk, often over silly things that (i think, although possibly misremembering) she overexaggerated. she would never apologise and i always apologised to keep the peace, even tho in several cases i definitely wasn't at any fault. our friendship was good and we never fell out once she stopped drinking.
flash forward to this event. i was reaching out to a new friend (B) and we had a few drinks. i was quite drunk, but it was a difficult time as a coworker of myself and A had terminal cancer (i think this is relevant because we were both struggling with what was happening). me and B had a really good night, it took my mind off things and i really enjoyed her company. A was working at the pub and we decided to have a last drink there. B ordered a taxi, and we were rushing to get in it, and i'd forgotten to put my mask on and it was a bit of a drunken blur. i did say bye to A, but perhaps hurriedly. A asked me if we were going into town, i shook my head. A asked again and I shook my head again. i thought nothing of it, went home and got some wine. then i get a text message saying 'that was rude'. i didn't understand so i replied with 'what?'
A: 'the way you left'
Me: 'i said bye? what was rude?'
A: 'i was like are you off into town, you're just shaking your head and i asked where you're going to and you shut the door and shake your head. if that was the other way round you've have lost your shit at me. 1. me not inviting you and 2. not even answering me and waving me off. not waving me bye. waving off the question. it was so weird'.
Me: 'not sure what you're on about. shaking my head means no. no means no.' -then i sent a photo of me at home- 'this is me home. fuck you. not taking this bs anymore'.Ā
Then A blocks me.Ā
The way I see it, A was aggressive in her weirdness about the goodbye and I reacted to that with more aggression. I could have handled it much better but I'm not totally mad because boundaries needed to be set. This is not the first instance that she's gone off on one with me over something stupid like that. But maybe I'm just being defensive and I'm the ah?
AITA?Ā
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