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Cobain
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cobain wrote:
about my work again, I AM SORRY but they just keep surprising me with their fucking bullshit?!?!?!?!?

yeah i have an intern again (the last one "quit" after 2 days bc she thought it was too stressful and she didn't want to work there). guess how i found out i'd have an intern this time? THROUGH THE WEEKLY FUCKING MAIL MY BOSS SENDS OUT TO EVERYONE ON FRIDAYS. i got to know THIS friday that an intern will start with me today. wtf? like, u couldn't take the 5 fucking seconds and tell me before that???? that's so fucking shitty. hadn't she sent out that mail i wouldn't have known! it's really not right neither to me or the intern.

and like the last time, the intern has basically NO information about anything. neither do i so i just feel like a dumbass all the time.
also, this woman is idk 50+, about my parents age i guess. she has worked as a dentist assistant for 20 years but she badly injured her feet and has arthritis and other problems that made her inable to work. so now she's in this organization thingy for ppl having trouble working due to their physical/mental problems. and i just KNOW my boss picked someone from there because they save money on it, they probably won't have to pay her salary (either the organization does it, the unemployment service idk). 100% sure of it. she won't be able to work here, i'm quite sure. long days, tough and heavy work, stressful, on ur feet constantly. how did they even think that through? she even said herself before she left today that she was unsure that this would work for her

god i'm just FUCK someone shoot me i can't take another second of this

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
the positive thing, i guess, is that she has lots of work experience due to just being older and worked for all her adult life. she actually told me that it doesn't feel right that i should be alone, the long days, the stress, all that. now, i feel like i can't really be very upfront and honest with an intern who's just starting lol, i can't be like "i hate this and i'd rather die". but i told her it gets really tough. i don't wanna blurt out everything i actually feel and think, you know?

also u know. my bosses won't say shit when this intern quits due to the extreme workload, long days, stress either. they didn't say shit when the last intern quit and this won't be any different. even though they will probably never find anyone else who'd actually agree to work this shit ass job

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
i think it's time to cry a little bit lol i think i need it now

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Claire wrote:
i would have quit already tbh

what kind of safety nets do you have can you really not quit this

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Claire wrote:
like this workplace sounds worse with every post you make and i already thought it was super abusive

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

Claire wrote:
i would have quit already tbh

what kind of safety nets do you have can you really not quit this

if i get fired i know i'll get 80% of my salary from the union for 3 months. i'm not sure i'll get that if i resign myself, i believe you need to have good reasons for resigning and you'd have to prove it, and i don't know how to prove this (i have "witnesses" though, like i know some of my coworkers would have my back on this, and my boyfriend, friends and family but idk if they'd accept them since they have close relationships with me. not sure if they even accept witnesses for proof)

i have savings, but i refuse to live off of them because it's the first time in my life i've been able to save, and i'm gonna spend it on getting a drivers license. i would be able to live on that for at least 6 months though i believe, if i really had to.
other than that i don't think i really have any safety nets. i feel very stuck lol. i'm applying to jobs but i'm not attractive on the job market bc i don't have an education and this job is the only real work experience i have. i kind of want to study, but i don't know how it'd work when i have a 3 month notice. i'd have to resign 3 months before the education even starts, and i might not even get into school. idk, everything just feels impossible lmao i know it's probably not, but i feel very helpless

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Claire wrote:

cobain wrote:

Claire wrote:
i would have quit already tbh

what kind of safety nets do you have can you really not quit this

if i get fired i know i'll get 80% of my salary from the union for 3 months. i'm not sure i'll get that if i resign myself, i believe you need to have good reasons for resigning and you'd have to prove it, and i don't know how to prove this (i have "witnesses" though, like i know some of my coworkers would have my back on this, and my boyfriend, friends and family but idk if they'd accept them since they have close relationships with me. not sure if they even accept witnesses for proof)

i have savings, but i refuse to live off of them because it's the first time in my life i've been able to save, and i'm gonna spend it on getting a drivers license. i would be able to live on that for at least 6 months though i believe, if i really had to.
other than that i don't think i really have any safety nets. i feel very stuck lol. i'm applying to jobs but i'm not attractive on the job market bc i don't have an education and this job is the only real work experience i have. i kind of want to study, but i don't know how it'd work when i have a 3 month notice. i'd have to resign 3 months before the education even starts, and i might not even get into school. idk, everything just feels impossible lmao i know it's probably not, but i feel very helpless

you need to contact schools and have a conversation with a person about your situation if you wanna go to school imo

you could start logging all the abusive stuff that happens at work- thats your proof. just writing it all down with dates and times. collect information for a couple weeks. does your union know that you keep getting treated this poorly at work?? a union should have protected you from the majority of the bullshit youve told us about this workplace.

if you didnt have a job youd have more time to work on finding a job. gettnig fired and having three months could be a viable option tbh lmao. idk i would be more desperate to get the fuck out of there if i was in your shoes.

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

Claire wrote:

cobain wrote:

Claire wrote:
i would have quit already tbh

what kind of safety nets do you have can you really not quit this

if i get fired i know i'll get 80% of my salary from the union for 3 months. i'm not sure i'll get that if i resign myself, i believe you need to have good reasons for resigning and you'd have to prove it, and i don't know how to prove this (i have "witnesses" though, like i know some of my coworkers would have my back on this, and my boyfriend, friends and family but idk if they'd accept them since they have close relationships with me. not sure if they even accept witnesses for proof)

i have savings, but i refuse to live off of them because it's the first time in my life i've been able to save, and i'm gonna spend it on getting a drivers license. i would be able to live on that for at least 6 months though i believe, if i really had to.
other than that i don't think i really have any safety nets. i feel very stuck lol. i'm applying to jobs but i'm not attractive on the job market bc i don't have an education and this job is the only real work experience i have. i kind of want to study, but i don't know how it'd work when i have a 3 month notice. i'd have to resign 3 months before the education even starts, and i might not even get into school. idk, everything just feels impossible lmao i know it's probably not, but i feel very helpless

you need to contact schools and have a conversation with a person about your situation if you wanna go to school imo

you could start logging all the abusive stuff that happens at work- thats your proof. just writing it all down with dates and times. collect information for a couple weeks. does your union know that you keep getting treated this poorly at work?? a union should have protected you from the majority of the bullshit youve told us about this workplace.

if you didnt have a job youd have more time to work on finding a job. gettnig fired and having three months could be a viable option tbh lmao. idk i would be more desperate to get the fuck out of there if i was in your shoes.

yeah i will probably do that eventually. it's hard actually going through with things like this though because i'm always so exhausted both physically and mentally. also because i'm scared my bosses will somehow find out i've talked to someone about quitting or just my situation at work. lol.

have not talked to the union personally, but i know some coworkers who have. and actually, yeah, that's a great idea. i'll start writing down some of the big things that have happened and then continue as things keep happening, i guess. then i'll try to contact the union.
my boyfriend worked here b4 they fucked him over so badly (he got sick leave the last 1-2 months of his employment because the bosses were bullying him) and he contacted the union about it. they said they are well aware of my bosses and told him to get other employees to contact them with stuff. idk why i haven't done it yet. i think i'm just scared LOL

true. but sadly it's easier to get a job when you have a job. it doesn't make any fucking sense, but that's how it is

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Claire wrote:

cobain wrote:

Claire wrote:

cobain wrote:
if i get fired i know i'll get 80% of my salary from the union for 3 months. i'm not sure i'll get that if i resign myself, i believe you need to have good reasons for resigning and you'd have to prove it, and i don't know how to prove this (i have "witnesses" though, like i know some of my coworkers would have my back on this, and my boyfriend, friends and family but idk if they'd accept them since they have close relationships with me. not sure if they even accept witnesses for proof)

i have savings, but i refuse to live off of them because it's the first time in my life i've been able to save, and i'm gonna spend it on getting a drivers license. i would be able to live on that for at least 6 months though i believe, if i really had to.
other than that i don't think i really have any safety nets. i feel very stuck lol. i'm applying to jobs but i'm not attractive on the job market bc i don't have an education and this job is the only real work experience i have. i kind of want to study, but i don't know how it'd work when i have a 3 month notice. i'd have to resign 3 months before the education even starts, and i might not even get into school. idk, everything just feels impossible lmao i know it's probably not, but i feel very helpless

you need to contact schools and have a conversation with a person about your situation if you wanna go to school imo

you could start logging all the abusive stuff that happens at work- thats your proof. just writing it all down with dates and times. collect information for a couple weeks. does your union know that you keep getting treated this poorly at work?? a union should have protected you from the majority of the bullshit youve told us about this workplace.

if you didnt have a job youd have more time to work on finding a job. gettnig fired and having three months could be a viable option tbh lmao. idk i would be more desperate to get the fuck out of there if i was in your shoes.

yeah i will probably do that eventually. it's hard actually going through with things like this though because i'm always so exhausted both physically and mentally. also because i'm scared my bosses will somehow find out i've talked to someone about quitting or just my situation at work. lol.

have not talked to the union personally, but i know some coworkers who have. and actually, yeah, that's a great idea. i'll start writing down some of the big things that have happened and then continue as things keep happening, i guess. then i'll try to contact the union.
my boyfriend worked here b4 they fucked him over so badly (he got sick leave the last 1-2 months of his employment because the bosses were bullying him) and he contacted the union about it. they said they are well aware of my bosses and told him to get other employees to contact them with stuff. idk why i haven't done it yet. i think i'm just scared LOL

true. but sadly it's easier to get a job when you have a job. it doesn't make any fucking sense, but that's how it is

dont write down some of the things. write down EVERY single thing.

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Claire wrote:
even things that dont seem 'that bad'

i dont think you even realize how bad this is honestly like you know its bad obviously but i dont know if youre experienced enough to knw exactly HOW bad it is i am genuinely concerned for you a nd honestly for your safety

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Claire wrote:

cobain wrote:
so i followed him n when we got there he grabbed me around my waist and pulled me towards him and tried to kiss mejkdg,nfgmfg i hate it here

like you said this in another thread and like idk if i made the connection at the time but this was a sexual assault.

this alone should be enough to get you unemployment benefits in whatever part of europe youre in is it sweden i dont remember

but you live in a country that surely cares about workers rights unlike the country i live in and being sexually assaulted at work is enough abuse to leave. you never should have been in a position where this was even a posibility. you shouldnt be alone with men at this particular job and your employers KNOW that.

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Claire wrote:

cobain wrote:
so i followed him n when we got there he grabbed me around my waist and pulled me towards him and tried to kiss mejkdg,nfgmfg i hate it here

like you said this in another thread and like idk if i made the connection at the time but this was a sexual assault.

this alone should be enough to get you unemployment benefits in whatever part of europe youre in is it sweden i dont remember

but you live in a country that surely cares about workers rights unlike the country i live in and being sexually assaulted at work is enough abuse to leave. you never should have been in a position where this was even a posibility. you shouldnt be alone with men at this particular job and your employers KNOW that.

your employers havve put you at risk and they know damn well that they have

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Claire wrote:
if you havent told your union you were sexually assaulted at work that should be your next step imo

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

Claire wrote:

cobain wrote:
so i followed him n when we got there he grabbed me around my waist and pulled me towards him and tried to kiss mejkdg,nfgmfg i hate it here

like you said this in another thread and like idk if i made the connection at the time but this was a sexual assault.

this alone should be enough to get you unemployment benefits in whatever part of europe youre in is it sweden i dont remember

but you live in a country that surely cares about workers rights unlike the country i live in and being sexually assaulted at work is enough abuse to leave. you never should have been in a position where this was even a posibility. you shouldnt be alone with men at this particular job and your employers KNOW that.

but they're dementia patients so idk if it works like that because of the dementia : (((

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
i'm scrolling through the site 4 jobs n i'm close to tears lol
it feels so impossible! of course i'll apply to anything i can, even if there's just a small small chance i'll get it. but most of the jobs have requirements like education, drivers license/car. lots of teacher jobs and such. academic education requirements. so ofc i'm not gonna waste my time even trying to get one of those because i absolutely don't meet the requirements. very few jobs i can actually apply to.

god i'm just stuck
i spent all of last night writing down all the shit that has happened at my workplace, all the shit i can remember at least and i'll keep writing down whatever i keep remembering as i remember it. weird sentence but i think you know what i mean. and of course, as shit keeps happening i'll write it down too, with dates. it's hard writing dates to the shit that has happened but i wrote "june 2020" or "autumn 2020" etc to get like a roguh idea of when it happened. yeah and then in maybe a month or so i'll contact the union with it. i don't think they can actually do anything to make work better for me, i despise my bosses and the workplace and the work in itself with every fiber of my being and nothing can change that, not even if they ease my workload. and i don't think they can help me with new jobs and stuff like that because i guess they don't work like that, but they can answer some of my questions regarding the notice period, maybe studies and how that'd work, and just general stuff about where to look for jobs etc etc

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
ok no i think i'll have to look up how 2 get sick leave for exhaustion/burnout or smth
had a breakdown when i got home today. like, we've had quite a "calm" period the last 2 weeks or so but it's still too much and i just can't handle it. this is breaking me in half. your work shouldn't affect your every day life this much, this negatively.

i barely have the energy to go to the store (and the store is right around the corner from my apartment, takes 1 minute to go there, maybe 5 minutes inside of the store, 1 minute home!!!!), barely have the energy to fucking take care of myself! even showering becomes a big fucking task and i feel disgusting. couldn't give less of a shit about makeup, and makeup is normally something i like doing and it's previously been very important to me to do my makeup when i start my day. but i just don't have the energy to care. don't have the energy for my boyfriend, and it's not something he's doing wrong, it's just that i can't fucking focus and i can't engage and be the way that i normally am. i barely talk to friends bc i can't find the time nor energy, don't talk to or see my family that often (covid fucks w that too ofc) because i just CANT do anything anymore.

i sleep and cry and work and work some more and cry and sleep and work and sleep and cry cry work sleep work work work work cry sleep