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aita vp edition i guess except i haven't actually done anything yet i dont think im the asshole yet but i might be lol
i'm watching my cousin's cats for the weekend which i do pretty often, maybe once-twice a month? so i stay at her house for the weekend. she's said i'm allowed to have friends over so i don't have to sit here alone all weekend, and i've invited my two best friends the past 3 or so times. they're usually busy or have to work so they haven't come by yet, but this weekend one said she could come on saturday and they both said they might come on sunday too.
so saturday late morning i text my one friend (lets call her Friend 1) asking what the plan is and she says "I cant rlly make a decision rn / I just woke up and im feeling really terrible / But yea ig maybe not then sorry" and i just was like "it's okay, would be nice to hang out but i can entertain myself no worries
" and she reacted pretty poorly and just very passive aggressive and i really felt like i did something wrong or that she was mad at me somehow?
and then this morning my other friend (Friend 2) texts asking what the plan is for today and i explain i don't really know when my cousin will be back but they're both welcome to come hang out ! Friend 1 says she'll stay home today too (predictable) but Friend 2 says he'll just do some cleaning and then come over. then like an hour and a half later he texts that he's too hungover and wants to just rest and then go hang out and have dinner with Friend 1. i'm invited to join depending on when i get home, but i'm not sure when that will be?
tl;dr both my friends made vague plans to visit me this weekend and then both canceled but are still hanging out with each other? and there's a whole bunch of reasons why, and i do really understand them but at the same time i'm feeling really kind of lonely and unseen and am actually especially pissed at Friend 1 who bailed on me but then also way overreacted to what i thought was a pretty neutral text, got rly passive aggressive, and ended up making me feel really guilty and worried for her even though i really didnt ... do .... anything...
but yea idk if i'm being melodramatic and just need to eat something and get over it, or if i should say smth about it? just like "hey y'all i'm not mad or super upset but it was kinda disappointing and did not make me feel good"? or is that too much already? idk. idk!
i'm watching my cousin's cats for the weekend which i do pretty often, maybe once-twice a month? so i stay at her house for the weekend. she's said i'm allowed to have friends over so i don't have to sit here alone all weekend, and i've invited my two best friends the past 3 or so times. they're usually busy or have to work so they haven't come by yet, but this weekend one said she could come on saturday and they both said they might come on sunday too.
so saturday late morning i text my one friend (lets call her Friend 1) asking what the plan is and she says "I cant rlly make a decision rn / I just woke up and im feeling really terrible / But yea ig maybe not then sorry" and i just was like "it's okay, would be nice to hang out but i can entertain myself no worries
" and she reacted pretty poorly and just very passive aggressive and i really felt like i did something wrong or that she was mad at me somehow?and then this morning my other friend (Friend 2) texts asking what the plan is for today and i explain i don't really know when my cousin will be back but they're both welcome to come hang out ! Friend 1 says she'll stay home today too (predictable) but Friend 2 says he'll just do some cleaning and then come over. then like an hour and a half later he texts that he's too hungover and wants to just rest and then go hang out and have dinner with Friend 1. i'm invited to join depending on when i get home, but i'm not sure when that will be?
tl;dr both my friends made vague plans to visit me this weekend and then both canceled but are still hanging out with each other? and there's a whole bunch of reasons why, and i do really understand them but at the same time i'm feeling really kind of lonely and unseen and am actually especially pissed at Friend 1 who bailed on me but then also way overreacted to what i thought was a pretty neutral text, got rly passive aggressive, and ended up making me feel really guilty and worried for her even though i really didnt ... do .... anything...
but yea idk if i'm being melodramatic and just need to eat something and get over it, or if i should say smth about it? just like "hey y'all i'm not mad or super upset but it was kinda disappointing and did not make me feel good"? or is that too much already? idk. idk!
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