i wanna change my life - Forum

Private
National star

scoff wrote:
yes i got this sudden feeling that i need to change my entire life
i need to move far far away, get a job in a whole other field, leave everything and start going on tinder dates, cut my hair, move countries.... eh

is this what they call a quarter life crisis?

Private
World famous

Versailles wrote:
Do it

Private
World famous

Versailles wrote:
if you got money and won't overdo it it's not bad to get away a bit with airbnb, flight/train or drive. Did lots of spontanious shit in my early 20s and it was so worth it.

Wanna live 1-3 months abroad next year if i'm still single and/or if i meet someone who wanna join. And yeah it might be quarter life crisis, I esp feel it since i got dumped a month ago.

Private
National star

kagura wrote:
idk i get that urge every week

Private
National star

kagura wrote:
my life has changed upside down in few months tho

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

Versailles wrote:
if you got money and won't overdo it it's not bad to get away a bit with airbnb, flight/train or drive. Did lots of spontanious shit in my early 20s and it was so worth it.

Wanna live 1-3 months abroad next year if i'm still single and/or if i meet someone who wanna join. And yeah it might be quarter life crisis, I esp feel it since i got dumped a month ago.

for me personally it's definitely a quarter life crisis lol
i'm having real issues with realizing i'm in my mid twenties like how did that even happen
and yessss, going away for a while would be nice!!! but since i work in health care i think it would be stupid to do it this year even if covid has gone down quite a bit and i'm vaccinated
you never know and i wouldn't wanna give covid to a patient

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

kagura wrote:
my life has changed upside down in few months tho

my life has changed like fuck in the past year and it's so???? man idk who i am anymore lol

Private
World famous

Versailles wrote:

scoff wrote:

Versailles wrote:
if you got money and won't overdo it it's not bad to get away a bit with airbnb, flight/train or drive. Did lots of spontanious shit in my early 20s and it was so worth it.

Wanna live 1-3 months abroad next year if i'm still single and/or if i meet someone who wanna join. And yeah it might be quarter life crisis, I esp feel it since i got dumped a month ago.

for me personally it's definitely a quarter life crisis lol
i'm having real issues with realizing i'm in my mid twenties like how did that even happen
and yessss, going away for a while would be nice!!! but since i work in health care i think it would be stupid to do it this year even if covid has gone down quite a bit and i'm vaccinated
you never know and i wouldn't wanna give covid to a patient

I know right, crazy how fast time passed and suddenly you're almost 25!! Late september it is for me, but becoming 24 was/is hard, i always felt like i'm gonna be forever young kind of. Until i'm not.

Yeah gotchu, but the positive is that you can plan ahead and find destinations and what you wanna do, and it's so good esp if you use this year to save up for fun memories. Then you got something to look forward to.

Don't think this crisis is bad, it kinda motivates one to do things outside the box or what you're comfortable with too.

Private
National star

kagura wrote:

scoff wrote:

kagura wrote:
my life has changed upside down in few months tho

my life has changed like fuck in the past year and it's so???? man idk who i am anymore lol

sameee. i was in a stable and healthy relationship, i was living with my roommates, i didn't drink much or used anything else, i studied and it seemed fine
now i'm living alone in small aparment, single af seeing new tinder person every week, i've been on sick leave from school for 6 months and i'm a fucking stoner
what a character development. life's good tho i'm just little lost

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

Versailles wrote:

scoff wrote:

Versailles wrote:
if you got money and won't overdo it it's not bad to get away a bit with airbnb, flight/train or drive. Did lots of spontanious shit in my early 20s and it was so worth it.

Wanna live 1-3 months abroad next year if i'm still single and/or if i meet someone who wanna join. And yeah it might be quarter life crisis, I esp feel it since i got dumped a month ago.

for me personally it's definitely a quarter life crisis lol
i'm having real issues with realizing i'm in my mid twenties like how did that even happen
and yessss, going away for a while would be nice!!! but since i work in health care i think it would be stupid to do it this year even if covid has gone down quite a bit and i'm vaccinated
you never know and i wouldn't wanna give covid to a patient

I know right, crazy how fast time passed and suddenly you're almost 25!! Late september it is for me, but becoming 24 was/is hard, i always felt like i'm gonna be forever young kind of. Until i'm not.

Yeah gotchu, but the positive is that you can plan ahead and find destinations and what you wanna do, and it's so good esp if you use this year to save up for fun memories. Then you got something to look forward to.

Don't think this crisis is bad, it kinda motivates one to do things outside the box or what you're comfortable with too.

having a positive outlook on things sure help, only i'm not exactly known for having that quality eh
i think i feel a little bit stuck and sort of unsure about what i want to do vs what i should do, you know? like, do i want kids or do i want to travel the world? do i want to get my shit together or do i want a bottle of wine? do i want to keep working where i'm at or do i wanna apply for a new job? do i want to share my life with my bf or do i not? do i want to live in the city or do i want to live in a rural area?

shit's hard

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

kagura wrote:

scoff wrote:

kagura wrote:
my life has changed upside down in few months tho

my life has changed like fuck in the past year and it's so???? man idk who i am anymore lol

sameee. i was in a stable and healthy relationship, i was living with my roommates, i didn't drink much or used anything else, i studied and it seemed fine
now i'm living alone in small aparment, single af seeing new tinder person every week, i've been on sick leave from school for 6 months and i'm a fucking stoner
what a character development. life's good tho i'm just little lost

i thin mine changed in the opposite direction
i used to be in an abusive af relationship, was kind of a stoner, was a slacker in college and never had money and now i'm in a relationship with another man (whom i love, but god he annoys me to death sometimes), i live in a different town, i finished college and am currently working although not full time etc etc
but there is also this other thing? the ex and i used to travel, go to parties, meet people, do stuff... in this relationship we barely do anything but sitting around at home - he doesn't even like travelling

Private
World famous

Versailles wrote:

scoff wrote:

Versailles wrote:

scoff wrote:
for me personally it's definitely a quarter life crisis lol
i'm having real issues with realizing i'm in my mid twenties like how did that even happen
and yessss, going away for a while would be nice!!! but since i work in health care i think it would be stupid to do it this year even if covid has gone down quite a bit and i'm vaccinated
you never know and i wouldn't wanna give covid to a patient

I know right, crazy how fast time passed and suddenly you're almost 25!! Late september it is for me, but becoming 24 was/is hard, i always felt like i'm gonna be forever young kind of. Until i'm not.

Yeah gotchu, but the positive is that you can plan ahead and find destinations and what you wanna do, and it's so good esp if you use this year to save up for fun memories. Then you got something to look forward to.

Don't think this crisis is bad, it kinda motivates one to do things outside the box or what you're comfortable with too.

having a positive outlook on things sure help, only i'm not exactly known for having that quality eh
i think i feel a little bit stuck and sort of unsure about what i want to do vs what i should do, you know? like, do i want kids or do i want to travel the world? do i want to get my shit together or do i want a bottle of wine? do i want to keep working where i'm at or do i wanna apply for a new job? do i want to share my life with my bf or do i not? do i want to live in the city or do i want to live in a rural area?

shit's hard

Yeah goals and wants are hard to navigate but worth looking on it.
I usually make a list of what I like, who I am, where I see myself in 5 years etc. What kind of person do I wanna be, how am I, where have I been, what do I work with? and then you cultivate life that way to get there.

What do you wanna do? Write it down, and put from 1 to 10 how much do you wanna it to be part of your life, let's say traveling, party, hobby, new job etc. You don't have to make big changes, but change of routine and if you do things you like occasionally, I don't think you'd question your life as much. I question my life when I feel i'm stuck and not happy, so it's my bodies way to communicate it's time for some change.

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

Versailles wrote:

scoff wrote:

Versailles wrote:
I know right, crazy how fast time passed and suddenly you're almost 25!! Late september it is for me, but becoming 24 was/is hard, i always felt like i'm gonna be forever young kind of. Until i'm not.

Yeah gotchu, but the positive is that you can plan ahead and find destinations and what you wanna do, and it's so good esp if you use this year to save up for fun memories. Then you got something to look forward to.

Don't think this crisis is bad, it kinda motivates one to do things outside the box or what you're comfortable with too.

having a positive outlook on things sure help, only i'm not exactly known for having that quality eh
i think i feel a little bit stuck and sort of unsure about what i want to do vs what i should do, you know? like, do i want kids or do i want to travel the world? do i want to get my shit together or do i want a bottle of wine? do i want to keep working where i'm at or do i wanna apply for a new job? do i want to share my life with my bf or do i not? do i want to live in the city or do i want to live in a rural area?

shit's hard

Yeah goals and wants are hard to navigate but worth looking on it.
I usually make a list of what I like, who I am, where I see myself in 5 years etc. What kind of person do I wanna be, how am I, where have I been, what do I work with? and then you cultivate life that way to get there.

What do you wanna do? Write it down, and put from 1 to 10 how much do you wanna it to be part of your life, let's say traveling, party, hobby, new job etc. You don't have to make big changes, but change of routine and if you do things you like occasionally, I don't think you'd question your life as much. I question my life when I feel i'm stuck and not happy, so it's my bodies way to communicate it's time for some change.

the problem is i don't even think i know what i want whatsoever
right now my life consists of working and being bored and that's all
i know there's stuff i should be doing (at 24 i still don't have my drivers license for example) but i just can't seem to get them done

Account deleted

wrote:
Do it or regret it

Private
National star

scoff wrote:

C4TH3DR4L wrote:
Do it or regret it

but what if i do it and then regret doing it?

Private
World famous

Versailles wrote:

scoff wrote:

Versailles wrote:

scoff wrote:
having a positive outlook on things sure help, only i'm not exactly known for having that quality eh
i think i feel a little bit stuck and sort of unsure about what i want to do vs what i should do, you know? like, do i want kids or do i want to travel the world? do i want to get my shit together or do i want a bottle of wine? do i want to keep working where i'm at or do i wanna apply for a new job? do i want to share my life with my bf or do i not? do i want to live in the city or do i want to live in a rural area?

shit's hard

Yeah goals and wants are hard to navigate but worth looking on it.
I usually make a list of what I like, who I am, where I see myself in 5 years etc. What kind of person do I wanna be, how am I, where have I been, what do I work with? and then you cultivate life that way to get there.

What do you wanna do? Write it down, and put from 1 to 10 how much do you wanna it to be part of your life, let's say traveling, party, hobby, new job etc. You don't have to make big changes, but change of routine and if you do things you like occasionally, I don't think you'd question your life as much. I question my life when I feel i'm stuck and not happy, so it's my bodies way to communicate it's time for some change.

the problem is i don't even think i know what i want whatsoever
right now my life consists of working and being bored and that's all
i know there's stuff i should be doing (at 24 i still don't have my drivers license for example) but i just can't seem to get them done

You dont need to know what you want lmao, i just knew i was bored and unhappy and I planned some new things to do to shake it up. Like fuck it, why not try climbing at the climbing center. Or go to a new bar or there's a event that's worth going to even tho i'm not particurly interested.
I'm 24 soon 25 with no driving license either, i started briefly before covid but then pandemic hit and motivation gone. Gonna try again this summer, but it's no stress too.