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Sylvan wrote:
Can you even do something except tell them you are worried and that you are here for them??

My dad was overweight for over 15 years but then he lost 30kg in just 1,5 years and now he just won't stop?
He refuses to eat properly because it's 'unhealthy' and tells everyone around him how much better he feels.

He now weights just 2kg more than me...

Like he is a grown ass adult and it's not my responsibility but it's really worrying me still

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Ask him to take a general check up at the doc, maybe? Like hear the docs opinion and such? Or a course in healthy eating?

I dunno.
Does he have a spouse his own age that can take it up w him?

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Sylvan wrote:

Nesta wrote:
Ask him to take a general check up at the doc, maybe? Like hear the docs opinion and such? Or a course in healthy eating?

I dunno.
Does he have a spouse his own age that can take it up w him?

He is at the technically 'not underweight if he gains 4kg' point so his blood work and all that look fine for now and doctors here are drilled to look out for overweight patients because they are much more common, so I doubt it would help at this time unfortunately :/

My mum always tells him how she is worried but he then tells her nothing is wrong with him and that she needs to lose weight (which she has tried for the last 20 years).

Honestly no one in this family has a healthy relationship with food and their body

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Sylvan wrote:

Nesta wrote:
Ask him to take a general check up at the doc, maybe? Like hear the docs opinion and such? Or a course in healthy eating?

I dunno.
Does he have a spouse his own age that can take it up w him?

He is at the technically 'not underweight if he gains 4kg' point so his blood work and all that look fine for now and doctors here are drilled to look out for overweight patients because they are much more common, so I doubt it would help at this time unfortunately :/

My mum always tells him how she is worried but he then tells her nothing is wrong with him and that she needs to lose weight (which she has tried for the last 20 years).

Honestly no one in this family has a healthy relationship with food and their body

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Like he's an adult and your mother is there so she probably has an eye out if it should get to a worse point. You can only decide your own actions, anyways. He may come around, who knows. I think its best to try not worry more than you have to (i know its likely impossible tho but for ur own sake, you can't force him, so prioritize what's better for your own health when you can.)

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Melody wrote:
if he doesn't listen to you guys expressing your worries then there's not much else that can be done sadly :/ it sounds like he's gone way too deep into it and might not change his ways until his body can no longer function properly... and gives out

it's very scary stuff. had to call an ambulance on my younger sister for the same reason. she got help through her hospital visit though and is doing much better these days (after 3 years). she was very reluctant towards any treatment as well, insisting there was nothing wrong with her even after she collapsed, however at that point they (healthcare employees) can force treatment on you since you're at risk of major health issues

since it's not only a physical illness, asking one to get help unfortunately has very little effect and sometimes only of negative kind. it's a very tough situation and i suffered a lot mentally, though not as much as my sister did. i still a worry about her these days as she works out almost daily still and i don't know how she eats as she lives on her on (as do i), but every time i've seen her she's looked better and healthier and so i'm hopeful

and i hope your dad can fight through the shit as well. perhaps even realize he can't live the way he is right now before it's too late