Barbarella wrote: my mom is turning down the surgery that would remove the rest of her cancer because she'd need a stoma/colostomy bag and is afraid she won't be able to afford the materials and healthcare upkeep long term.
It's also this really weird middle ground where I do not think my mom is mentally fully capable of truly understanding the impact of her medical decisions, but she's not so far-gone that she should be deemed unable to make those medical decisions herself
Barbarella wrote: we are not close and I have a lot of yucky mixed feelings about my mom but its still like goddamn she's choosing to effectively live the rest of her life on pain meds shitting herself because of the cost of medical supplies
This is the reality most folks here face... and so many folks don't realize how they're just one illness or accident away from having to make a hard choice like that