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I dislike my cousin, and kinda feel guilty..
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SweetLapis wrote:
There's this one cousin I have that I never really got along with and overall got to be honest, I don't really care for him. Don't wish anything bad on him, but just don't like him for a couple of reasons.
Guess, the biggest one would be is that he can be incredibly nasty. Like, he sorta has a shitty temper and can say some really messed up shit with any thought or care for the person in question.
Yesterday, I over heard him talking shit about me for no reason in my own house all because my mom asked him to do something. I was in my room at the time laying down since I've been feeling under the weather lately. Not gonna go full detail to what he said since a lot of it is personal.
Overall, he was being a snarky ass and I was shocked but also pissed since I would never talk shit behind someone's back like that for no reason like that even if I don't care for the person that much. And this is one of the many things that always caused us to clash will he used to live here on and off.
There's more reasons why I never liked him such as taking advantage of others to being quite the hypocrite but has no problem criticizing others for shortcomings that along with his.
He's honestly something else....
As I've gotten older, I've grown to feel a bit bad for feeling this way about him and try to be on good terms/civil with him whenever we cross paths but sometimes I just wanna cuss him out whenever he starts acting like an ass. And that's where I start not feeling so guilty anymore since I don't think we'll ever be 100 percent on good terms even if we both tried. Overall, I'm starting to accept that I just don't like one of my cousins due to differences.
Any who, anyone else has that one relative they just can't get along with or just don't like?
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Rotte wrote:
I don't have anyone i don't talk to. But others in my family have. They just tell them off and then cut contact. Just because you are family, don't mean you gotta act nice and just deal with his bs
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ouch wrote:
I don't like anyone in my family except my sister, but I can tolerate everyone else except my grandparents on dads side, uncle (and his kids and girlfriend) and all none close family 
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SweetLapis wrote:
Angelica wrote:
I don't have anyone i don't talk to. But others in my family have. They just tell them off and then cut contact. Just because you are family, don't mean you gotta act nice and just deal with his bs
I guess a positive here is that it's not often I'll see him unless my aunt is visiting (he's her ride).
But, yeah. I try to be nice to prevent drama since I can't stand it but sometimes I just wanna let lose.
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ouch wrote:
ouch wrote:
I don't like anyone in my family except my sister, but I can tolerate everyone else except my grandparents on dads side, uncle (and his kids and girlfriend) and all none close family 
Theres not much wrong w them, they r just incredibly boring ppl who I have no interest in talking to, except my grandma being guilt tripping and being passive agressive and my grandpa being nauseously creepy towards me 
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kagura wrote:
you are not obligated to love somebody just because they are family and you don't need to be in touch with them 
i don't like my aunts and their families at all, but i think feeling is mutual. i simply don't speak to them expect what is necessary in family gatherings once in a year 
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i dislike everyone on my dads side and he has 16 siblings btw so imagine how many cousins i have 😭 
Date: 03-11-2021 16:20
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SweetLapis wrote:
MaterialGirl wrote:
i dislike everyone on my dads side and he has 16 siblings btw so imagine how many cousins i have 😭
Holy shit...Growing up with sixteen siblings is just no....
And cousins, I can't even begin to imagine but I'd guess you've got twenty to thirty cousins.
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Sylvan wrote:
My family is not talking to half of my extended family and I kinda get it bc my aunt is a - she is unpleasant and fucked up in so many different ways.

Not talking to my uncle on that side either bc he formed an alliance with my aunt. There is so much bad blood it really sucks. 
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Sera wrote:
there's nothing wrong with not getting along with someone and you definitely don't need to be nice just because he's family and to prevent drama. he sounds like an ass.

i'm in the process of cutting off or at least avoiding my mom for a very long time which i initially thought i would never do as there's already a certain stigma surrounding not being in contact with your bio man (who [+ his side of the family] i cut off over 10 years ago), needless to say how people look at you and what they assume of you when you're not in contact with neither of your parents and only have very minimal contact with your other relatives. to avoid a lot of questions, i usually just lie and say that i'm just not close with my family and leave out the cutting off part. it took a long time for me to come to the conclusion that this is the right decision as i don't view my mom as a bad person or anything. she's just very damaged, which sucks as, though i never craved for a paternal figure (thus the lack of "daddy issues" ), i did see my mom kind of as both of my parents though a lot of times i felt like the parent. 
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Alam wrote:
Bruh I don't even remember all of my cousins' names, it's okay.
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Rouya wrote:
why do you feel guilty about not liking him when he's a straight up asshole lol. you're justified and there's nothing wrong with not liking someone, you dont even need a legit reason, sometimes people can just rub you the wrong way. i don't like my aunt because she's annoying, superficial and overall just very different from me. but she's not an asshole like your cousin lol. your cousin is legit a dick, so. if anyone should feel guilty it should be him for being like that

also i dont like my mother-in-law lol she is also annoying, reminds me a lot of my aunt
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Date: 03-11-2021 18:29
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SweetLapis wrote:
Sera wrote:
there's nothing wrong with not getting along with someone and you definitely don't need to be nice just because he's family and to prevent drama. he sounds like an ass.

i'm in the process of cutting off or at least avoiding my mom for a very long time which i initially thought i would never do as there's already a certain stigma surrounding not being in contact with your bio man (who [+ his side of the family] i cut off over 10 years ago), needless to say how people look at you and what they assume of you when you're not in contact with neither of your parents and only have very minimal contact with your other relatives. to avoid a lot of questions, i usually just lie and say that i'm just not close with my family and leave out the cutting off part. it took a long time for me to come to the conclusion that this is the right decision as i don't view my mom as a bad person or anything. she's just very damaged, which sucks as, though i never craved for a paternal figure (thus the lack of "daddy issues" ), i did see my mom kind of as both of my parents though a lot of times i felt like the parent. 
Oh, he is an ass. Absolute ass that even his own mom says so, and that's saying something since he takes after a lot of her own bad qualities. Good thing I barely see him anymore.

I get ya. It's annoying how people are quick to bad mouth other people for cutting off relatives since I'd imagine it's not the first thing most people wanna do unless that relative is is really toxic or downright abusive.
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SweetLapis wrote:
Rouya wrote:
why do you feel guilty about not liking him when he's a straight up asshole lol. you're justified and there's nothing wrong with not liking someone, you dont even need a legit reason, sometimes people can just rub you the wrong way. i don't like my aunt because she's annoying, superficial and overall just very different from me. but she's not an asshole like your cousin lol. your cousin is legit a dick, so. if anyone should feel guilty it should be him for being like that

also i dont like my mother-in-law lol she is also annoying, reminds me a lot of my aunt
I feel that way because I've always been taught to always be there and trust family, etc even though I've learned the hard way through abuse by a relative that even your own blood can harm you too, maybe even more than a stranger. I'm starting to just accept things as is.
Lol I can't say I dislike my aunt(literally his mom) but I do find her annoying since she can be controlling, selfish, nosy asf and just a bitch sometimes. More like a love and hate type of relationship.
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Sera wrote:
SweetLapis wrote:
Sera wrote:
there's nothing wrong with not getting along with someone and you definitely don't need to be nice just because he's family and to prevent drama. he sounds like an ass.

i'm in the process of cutting off or at least avoiding my mom for a very long time which i initially thought i would never do as there's already a certain stigma surrounding not being in contact with your bio man (who [+ his side of the family] i cut off over 10 years ago), needless to say how people look at you and what they assume of you when you're not in contact with neither of your parents and only have very minimal contact with your other relatives. to avoid a lot of questions, i usually just lie and say that i'm just not close with my family and leave out the cutting off part. it took a long time for me to come to the conclusion that this is the right decision as i don't view my mom as a bad person or anything. she's just very damaged, which sucks as, though i never craved for a paternal figure (thus the lack of "daddy issues" ), i did see my mom kind of as both of my parents though a lot of times i felt like the parent. 
Oh, he is an ass. Absolute ass that even his own mom says so, and that's saying something since he takes after a lot of her own bad qualities. Good thing I barely see him anymore.

I get ya. It's annoying how people are quick to bad mouth other people for cutting off relatives since I'd imagine it's not the first thing most people wanna do unless that relative is is really toxic or downright abusive.

yeah. so no reason to feel guilty for not liking him. i know that there's a certain pressure to be nice and give shitty people "just another chance" as a woman but fuck that, really. if drama makes you uncomfortable, that's valid, but you really don't have to be nice to such people or feel guilty about not liking them

and definitely. i doubt the majority of people cut off others "just because"
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autism wrote:
i've cut ties with half of my family. I don't really understand why you should get along with people just because you're related.
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