My ex texted me and??????? - Forum

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
And like, what the fuck?
We met accidentally literally two days ago and it was fine, friendly, we talked about what's happened in our lives lately and it was actually nice

"Just need to brag a bit. I've finally started to try stop smoking. The last 34 hours I've only smoked 4 cigs and when I've given it up for good my dad will get me a dog. Depending on how my life is then with work and relationship. Just wanted to brag to someone and you got the honor to be that person!
Maybe you were just going to bed or maybe you're out getting hammered. What do I know (you've soon finally managed to get rid of the last traces of me completely. If you haven't already stopped thinking of me. That's fucking cold. Anyways, soon I'm just a far away memory so congrats or whatever).
Now I messed up my bragging.
Maybe we'll talk some time in the future if you remember me. Whatever. I was going to delete this now because it got so messy, but eh, I've already written it all. Hope you're good, its a shame you never talk to me, as the dumped one you wonder. But it doesn't matter now. I'm not expecting you to start to care out of nowhere so no need for a guilty conscience, if you ever had one. It's whatever. You don't care so both you and I are whatever. Goodnight"

Just.. what the fuck?

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
He's probably drinking and that's why all this came out, idk? But I don't understand. Like it's fucking weird to keep a distance and not talk to each other a lot when you have broken up?? Dude we are trying to move on!!!!!! Talking to each other on the regular won't help!!!!

And it blows my mind how this man is SOON 40 but acts like this to someone who dumped him. He has gone through a plenty of breakups before and by the sounds of it it hasn't been too bad, but somehow THIS, a year long relationship, is what breaks him completely?

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Versailles wrote:
Don't answer

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

Versailles wrote:
Don't answer

I won't. Knowing him he has been drinking and tomorrow when he's sober he's probably gonna think he was an asshole and apologise

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
And tbh I'm a bit scared of him. I'm not scared for my own sake, I know he'd never harm me. But I know he'd beat the crap out of anyone new I'm seeing so haha great forever scared to be out in public with men even if they're just a friend bc he will think it's a new lover or some shit : )

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emogirrrl123 wrote:
block. he will literally never stop harassing you until you block him. he clearly doesn't understand that it's over and keeps guilting you to keep in touch and eventually get back together with him. fr, he's almost 40 yo and bragging about his dad getting him a dog once he has quit smoking. he used you financially and you're afraid (for a reason, it seems) that he'll beat up anyone who gets close to you. i highly advise you to talk about this with someone irl because i think you shouldn't be alone in this.

also as for the other thread yess invite him over (your coworker not your ex lol) you deserve some fun

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Claire wrote:
idk why u havent blocked this loser

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Lolinontot wrote:
Does... Does he think that he's 17 or something? Cause that sounds like something that an upset 17 year old going through his first ever break up would write.... Just "pity me" Oof.

If this is how he gets when he drinks then be prepared to have this happen on occation for like, the next few years or so.

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

Sera wrote:
block. he will literally never stop harassing you until you block him. he clearly doesn't understand that it's over and keeps guilting you to keep in touch and eventually get back together with him. fr, he's almost 40 yo and bragging about his dad getting him a dog once he has quit smoking. he used you financially and you're afraid (for a reason, it seems) that he'll beat up anyone who gets close to you. i highly advise you to talk about this with someone irl because i think you shouldn't be alone in this.

also as for the other thread yess invite him over (your coworker not your ex lol) you deserve some fun

it's just so bizarre bc he didn't seem this nutty when i was with him
and he has talked about previous breakups and relationships, and he's still best friends w one of his exes, friendly with other exes?? so idk wtf happened this time. his best friend fucking cheated on him n eventually left him for someone else, they even lived together, but nooooo i'm a dick lol
and yeah i've told a friend and my sister at least

coworker had to work the entire day today ugh -___-

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

Lolinontot wrote:
Does... Does he think that he's 17 or something? Cause that sounds like something that an upset 17 year old going through his first ever break up would write.... Just "pity me" Oof.

If this is how he gets when he drinks then be prepared to have this happen on occation for like, the next few years or so.

literally sounds like a 17yo tes
he sent me another text in the morning (as i expected) but he said he hadn't been drinking or "taken anything else". just that he hadn't slept the previous night, and not this night either. he didn't apologize tho like i thought he would. no remorse whatsoever for the text he sent

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cobain wrote:
"sorry for messy rant last night. i hadn't had a sip of alcohol, even if it seemed like it. i'd been awake all night, except for like a minute of sleep with my wonderful nightmares. i didn't feel good at all, but i tried.... i didn't sleep this night either because my chaotic brain so now i have a fun day to look forward to!
i don't know what to do! i'm getting desperate, it's horrible! i was going to watch soccer with my dad later, but that's not gonna happen. he'll do what he's always done, my entire fucking life, when i feel bad.... he'll be rude, nag and diminish me just because he knows that i'm too unwell to fight back. and he'll push all my buttons that'll make it worse and make more chaos my brain!
as i said i don't know what to do! i've neither had alcohol or taken anything else. but the sleep deprivation in combination with the nightmares, it becomes like awake-nightmares... .it's too much...
i don't know why i write all of this to you. possibly to explain why you got such a messy text last night. and you were almost the only one who knew about this issue i have sometimes. so it just happened. but i know you don't give a shit and that you don't want to listen to my issues. but you're the only one who kind of gets it. but i won't contact you anymore.
i've put your dad's ukulele and your dress in a bag by the way. i'll bring it and hang it on your door some time. if you give the the door code... but that requires that you answer me so i guess i'll have to send it in the post some day instead. or ask a neighbor of yours. whatever. it'll sort itself out"

honestly psychosis warning on all this. sleep deprivation isn't a good excuse to be foul to your ex THAT LITERALLY HASNT DONE ANYTHING WRONG ive always been so fucking nice to him, even when he's been horrible to me!!!!!!!!!!! i've done SO MUCH for this man and it bugs the FUCK out of me that he doesn't realize that.
and yeah he wrote "sorry" but literally just bc he's rambling and not for what he's said?
dont fucking trust men. jesus christ i know when i first talked about him on here, one of the first things i said about him was that he was "so sane". so that was absolutely fucking wrong.
and no i will NOT give him the door code. i highly doubt he'd be weird about it or that he'd ever "misuse" it or do anything, but if a bit of sleep deprivation can drive this man halfway into insanity i'd rather not take a risk. ya dig

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kruspersille wrote:
ive always wondered if he texts you in english or you translate them all

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
also get HELP with ur nightmares my dude
can't even count how many times i've "saved" him from nightmares and spasms and whatnot when he's sleeping. he's had a rough past and it's kinda haunting him in his sleep, but like if you actually try therapy instead of suppressing everything you ever feel and think then maybe MAYBE it'll get better. instead of unloading all that shit on ur gf and expecting her to save you every other night and fucking up her fucking sleep just cuz u have unresolved issues

i'm being mean but he's being mean to me ok and i'm sick of it and angry hah

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cobain wrote:

kruspersille wrote:
ive always wondered if he texts you in english or you translate them all

i translate them what a loser LOOOOOOOOOL
honestly it's a bit bc i know ppl on the outside are better at spotting manipulation tactics n shit and i wanna know if he's trying some shit lol. also bc i just do not have a life and vp is my friend

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kruspersille wrote:

cobain wrote:

kruspersille wrote:
ive always wondered if he texts you in english or you translate them all

i translate them what a loser LOOOOOOOOOL
honestly it's a bit bc i know ppl on the outside are better at spotting manipulation tactics n shit and i wanna know if he's trying some shit lol. also bc i just do not have a life and vp is my friend

omg no it wasnt meant like that!! 😱 i just think the translations are really good

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

kruspersille wrote:

cobain wrote:

kruspersille wrote:
ive always wondered if he texts you in english or you translate them all

i translate them what a loser LOOOOOOOOOL
honestly it's a bit bc i know ppl on the outside are better at spotting manipulation tactics n shit and i wanna know if he's trying some shit lol. also bc i just do not have a life and vp is my friend

omg no it wasnt meant like that!! 😱 i just think the translations are really good

no it's fine lol i didn't think u meant it in a rude way !! i personally think it's a bit loser-y loool but i also like doing it. oversharing is my expertise 😎😎
rly?? i always feel like they're so shit. esp when i'm translating stuff from my ex bc he comes up w his own complicated words and i'm like ????+????????