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Cobain
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cobain wrote:
ahahah the dude i'm seeing couldn't see me this weekend either
so like i have every other weekend off from work, he has every weekend off. my last free weekend he couldn't see me, not this one either. is it too much to ask for him to plan around my weekends off???? like sure we don't have to see each other ALL my off weekends but now when we didn't see each other last time this pissed me the fuck off

and not even a week ago he told me we'd see each other this weekend. we like decided it. so i casually asked him earlier today if i'm going home with him later and then he told me he can't. so that riles me up too. both that we decided to be with each other but also that he didn't tell me about his other plans until now when i asked

pls i'm giving up soon like it's the fucking valentines weekend too wtf go to hell lol

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
and like no matter what i say or do i can't fucking change his plans which makes me OIJKGLSLG
he told me he and his friends are going to another friend (other town) to like celebrate that he got a baby. they're going w car and he was like "u know i don't have a car so i'm going with them i'm sorry, it's my fault. i asked them to change the date but they didn't want to" DIDNT WANT TO LOOOL IF U HAVE OTHER FUCKINGGNGNG PLANS TELL THEM THAT AND JUST ???????????????????????? DONT AGREE TO GOING WHEN U HAVSE OTHER FUCKING PLANS ? go alone next weekend ?????? idfc i'm just ew i don't even know what to reply to him so i haven't replied to that and it's been an hour ugh

i don't wanna be THAT bitch either. change ur plans for me hehehehe to hell with ur friends bc ME ME ME
but then again we had fucking plans first so

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
not to mention the last weekend i thought we'd see each other he had to "babysit" a friend or smth
i don't think it's just excuses bc he's not into me bc i think he is into me, i kinda know he is, but ? idk apparently not so much that u can fucking stick to ur words or smth and not enough to want to see me looool

it's not even a long distance relationship but the next time i'll be able to see him (IF HE IS FUCKING AVAILABLE THEN BC APPARENTLY I CANT KNOW RIGHT) it'll be almost 2 months since we last saw each other wtf

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
ok so i just texted him n was like "you could have told your friends you couldn't go with them this weekend"
is2g if he says "i did say that" or smth i'm gonna lose my mind. bc obviously u fucking could since ur going with them lmfao. if u can cancel plans with me for them i 100% expect him to cancel plans with them for me simple as that

Private
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Sobbing wrote:
maybe ur losing urself a bit with this relationship
he has his own life and he clearly is living it, maybe you should stop investing all your time and energy on what he is doing and keep living your own life as well, you existed prior to him

good to keep in mind

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

Sobbing wrote:
maybe ur losing urself a bit with this relationship
he has his own life and he clearly is living it, maybe you should stop investing all your time and energy on what he is doing and keep living your own life as well, you existed prior to him

good to keep in mind

ur not wrong, i know i'm investing too much and i have a bad habit of doing so
at the same time i think he's a dick for making plans w me and not sticking to it and not telling me wtf is up, u know? like i said i don't expect him to be completeley available to me whenever i'm available bc i know ppl have their own lives and they are very much allowed to have their own life. it's just such a big disappointment and it makes me angry. like not seeing each other for more than a month? i can't have it like that lol

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
"they have a car baby. i'll call u when i quit work"

fuck the car tho like sdgkj,nflhndgnlkhgnklhlgnklhglkhgnklhgnklhnkl sorry i know i'm actually crazy but like i honestly don't think it's too much to ask for him to plan around my schedule a bit. how else are we ever gonna be able to see each other?? like i said, i don't expect him to be with me every single chance there is bc ppl have lives (i don't so maybe that's why i'm getting so upset over this lmfao) but like..... idk.... in a relationship i expect to be prioritized a bit yes. not every time. not every time. but he prioritized his friend last time so idfk fuck this i don't even know what to say bc i just feel crazy but at the same time i think my feelings are valid lol sorry vp for having to put up w my shit time and time again. imagine being me and having to put up with myself constantly pls exhausting

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Why don't you make plans with your friends too? Doesn't have to be something special. Invite them too your place for some wine and maybe play some card games and stuff...
I'm a 50 year old living in a 20 year old body because, yes, that is my idea of fun lol

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

NOface wrote:
Why don't you make plans with your friends too? Doesn't have to be something special. Invite them tpo your place for some wine and maybe play some card games and stuff...
I'm a 50 year old living in a 20 year old body because, yes, that is my idea of fun lol

i don't have friends babeeey
ok i do have some friends (like. 2-3 mayb) but i rarely see them. but yeah no i'm gonna ask one of them if we're getting drunk tomorrow so there's that. might go to my moms today idk

Private
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Sobbing wrote:

cobain wrote:

NOface wrote:
Why don't you make plans with your friends too? Doesn't have to be something special. Invite them tpo your place for some wine and maybe play some card games and stuff...
I'm a 50 year old living in a 20 year old body because, yes, that is my idea of fun lol

i don't have friends babeeey
ok i do have some friends (like. 2-3 mayb) but i rarely see them. but yeah no i'm gonna ask one of them if we're getting drunk tomorrow so there's that. might go to my moms today idk

yea go to your moms, ground yourself
and its ok if ur crazy as long as u acknowledge it, just try to observe your behavior and catch yourself before you fully immerse yourself this relationship you have going on, obviously you're gonna grow into a unit and work together as two people but you also have to keep your individuality
i dont know how your life looks single but you have to be happy with your own company and not NEED someone else,, it'll just create codependency and men in general don't like clingy women, they like chasing

so... maybe instead of focusing ur frustration about him not priotizing you, think about why you need that prioritization and what it is you're seeking from him? the way he makes you feel? how happy he makes you? the attention you get?`what is it you're craving from him that you cant get from yourself and your friends around you?

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

Sobbing wrote:

cobain wrote:

NOface wrote:
Why don't you make plans with your friends too? Doesn't have to be something special. Invite them tpo your place for some wine and maybe play some card games and stuff...
I'm a 50 year old living in a 20 year old body because, yes, that is my idea of fun lol

i don't have friends babeeey
ok i do have some friends (like. 2-3 mayb) but i rarely see them. but yeah no i'm gonna ask one of them if we're getting drunk tomorrow so there's that. might go to my moms today idk

yea go to your moms, ground yourself
and its ok if ur crazy as long as u acknowledge it, just try to observe your behavior and catch yourself before you fully immerse yourself this relationship you have going on, obviously you're gonna grow into a unit and work together as two people but you also have to keep your individuality
i dont know how your life looks single but you have to be happy with your own company and not NEED someone else,, it'll just create codependency and men in general don't like clingy women, they like chasing

so... maybe instead of focusing ur frustration about him not priotizing you, think about why you need that prioritization and what it is you're seeking from him? the way he makes you feel? how happy he makes you? the attention you get?`what is it you're craving from him that you cant get from yourself and your friends around you?

wont go to my moms today, im not feeling like it cuz i know this is too much in my head so i'll just want to go home the entire time. maybe tomorrow (if my friend cant see me n get wasted) or sunday instead.
i don't think i'm ready for that kind of introspection LOOOL like i know i'm so bad at being alone. my dating history is quite telling bc i haven't been alone in years and years. i always have at least an interest for someone and if i don't i don't feel complete. even before i started having relationships/seeing people i ALWAYS had someone to think of. been like that my whole like, my life revolves around love (more specifically, men. ew). i get attached easily, i hop into new relationships (even if they're short lived) almost instantly etc etc. but that's a can of worms i can't open at this time in my life tbh. at least i'm aware of my issues, right??? but idk if that's for the better or worse

Cobain
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cobain wrote:
anywho he called and he was like "baby i'm so sorry. it's my fault. don't be angry, i'm sorry" etc
he asked me if i'm off on monday n i told him he knows i work the entire next week, including the weekend. i only have thursday off so he told me he'd make it up to me then bc he had a lot of plans or smth. but he works mon-fri so idk. not the same as seeing each other on a weekend tbh haha but i'm just being a brat
he said he'd been thinking of this all day and felt bad and that i was gonna be angry n stuff. he asked what i was gonna do today so i told him i don't know. he told me to go to my sister or my mom, told him i don't want to. he was like "no drinking tonight tho" i was like "why" he was like "bc u will be sad. i know you u know" LOL no drinking tonight but hopefully tomorrow bby
sorry but i still don't fucking get this lol. i swear to u he haven't even said to his friends that he had other plans and couldn't this weekend. they could go next fucking weekend instead, what's the rush??????? ugh. it's the FUCKING VALENTINES WEEKEND i'm glad i never bought him anything haha i was highly considering it but i'm glad i didn't and i'm sure he hasn't gotten me anything either so fuck it

i'm still angry yes

Alam
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Alam wrote:
When you say "seeing" it makes me think you're casually dating him, so it's not like you're in a relationship with him. Why would he plan his weekend around you?

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

Alam wrote:
When you say "seeing" it makes me think you're casually dating him, so it's not like you're in a relationship with him. Why would he plan his weekend around you?

we haven't really had the convo yet about what we are
i was gonna talk to him about it the last weekend i thought we'd see each other. and we have talked on the phone since then and mutually decided to talk this weekend. he has called me his gf several times lol but i think we both need some clarity still

Private
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kruspersille wrote:
is this a new guy or the one from ur work

Cobain
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cobain wrote:

kruspersille wrote:
is this a new guy or the one from ur work

the one from work