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How to stop being grumpy?
Taomiline
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Taomiline wrote:
I just feel like I snap at people (or the one person I interact with actually) too much. Like, if they slightly annoy me I just snap at them or say something in a mean tone. I don't like to and I never used to, my negativity just gets the better of me way more often than before.

Any tips? I really don't want be mean to the very few friends I have
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Date: 19-02-2022 17:19
Taomiline
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Taomiline wrote:
I mean, I may have kept my feelings bottled up before but I definitely don't feel better letting them show when it means I end up being mean.
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Date: 19-02-2022 17:20
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autism wrote:
don't say anything
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Date: 19-02-2022 17:21
Aphrodite
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Aphrodite wrote:
Talk to someone about your negative feelings
Use exercise/art/whatever as an outlet for your emotions
Be vocal about you feeling angry. For instance when you snap at someone, apologize and tell them you didn't mean it and if you want, tell them that you've been feeling off for sometime and you are feeling overall negative so it has nothing to do with them.
Lastly, think for a moment before you say anything
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Date: 19-02-2022 17:23
Adamandeve
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adamandeve wrote:
Having a notebook to write down feelings and emotions helps me. After that I read it and try to see if I am being immature or if me acting out would be justified 
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Date: 19-02-2022 17:27
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ouch wrote:
Be quiet, when I get like that (rare) I just shut up cus I know smth bad will be said 
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Date: 19-02-2022 17:42
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Limbs wrote:
i feel like working out why you feel grumpy often could help? like what in your life is making you grumpy, is there something stressing you out or making you generally unhappy, could it be hormonal or something. & when something annoys you, take 10 seconds to just breathe before you react in any way. you can take note of the feeling, say in your mind "i'm feeling [x] right now" and try to just observe that feeling happening instead of being pulled into it. 

you could also keep a journal of times when someone annoys you and you snap at them. write down what happened before you snapped, what emotions you felt, was there something else on your mind at the time (like something causing stress or w/e), and what you wish you had done instead. over time you might notice patterns and it might help you take a step back in those moments
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Date: 19-02-2022 17:44
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ouch wrote:
Aphrodite wrote:
Talk to someone about your negative feelings
Use exercise/art/whatever as an outlet for your emotions
Be vocal about you feeling angry. For instance when you snap at someone, apologize and tell them you didn't mean it and if you want, tell them that you've been feeling off for sometime and you are feeling overall negative so it has nothing to do with them.
Lastly, think for a moment before you say anything
Yes this might be good as an explanation but from my experience it does not help at all when angry/snappy ppl have told me that and I just take it as an excuse rather than an explanation (regardless of them being "this isn't an excuse bla bla bla but im not feeling well or smth n thats been making me more snappy) and I want to interact with them even less. Might be diff for other ppl but for me yeah bad stuff 
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Date: 19-02-2022 17:46
Aphrodite
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Aphrodite wrote:
ouch wrote:
Aphrodite wrote:
Talk to someone about your negative feelings
Use exercise/art/whatever as an outlet for your emotions
Be vocal about you feeling angry. For instance when you snap at someone, apologize and tell them you didn't mean it and if you want, tell them that you've been feeling off for sometime and you are feeling overall negative so it has nothing to do with them.
Lastly, think for a moment before you say anything
Yes this might be good as an explanation but from my experience it does not help at all when angry/snappy ppl have told me that and I just take it as an excuse rather than an explanation (regardless of them being "this isn't an excuse bla bla bla but im not feeling well or smth n thats been making me more snappy) and I want to interact with them even less. Might be diff for other ppl but for me yeah bad stuff 
Very true
But i feel like it's better to say something rather than just being grumpy without a reason if that makes sens
At least for me, an anxious overthinker, it's much better to know it has nothing to do with me because i will without a doubt think there's something wrong with me
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Date: 19-02-2022 17:53
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ouch wrote:
Aphrodite wrote:
ouch wrote:
Aphrodite wrote:
Talk to someone about your negative feelings
Use exercise/art/whatever as an outlet for your emotions
Be vocal about you feeling angry. For instance when you snap at someone, apologize and tell them you didn't mean it and if you want, tell them that you've been feeling off for sometime and you are feeling overall negative so it has nothing to do with them.
Lastly, think for a moment before you say anything
Yes this might be good as an explanation but from my experience it does not help at all when angry/snappy ppl have told me that and I just take it as an excuse rather than an explanation (regardless of them being "this isn't an excuse bla bla bla but im not feeling well or smth n thats been making me more snappy) and I want to interact with them even less. Might be diff for other ppl but for me yeah bad stuff 
Very true
But i feel like it's better to say something rather than just being grumpy without a reason if that makes sens
At least for me, an anxious overthinker, it's much better to know it has nothing to do with me because i will without a doubt think there's something wrong with me
Yeah I think it depends how close friends w them u r, and how u were when u met the other person. Cus I don't mind grumpy ppl, just regular ppl that suddenly turned grumpy for no apparant reason 
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Date: 19-02-2022 18:28
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