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Koolaid wrote:
TW: beauty standards rant
every day i see those "love yourself as you are" messages online and it all seems so bullshit. because i actually feel like it's only getting worse. when u look around u see beauty standards that change every season, now it's having a fat ass and thick lips, 10 years ago it was the opposite.
people use tanning salons , risking cancer, to darken a few shades. meanwhile in asia , people coat themselves in bleaching products to be a few shades lighter.
every few tiktoks i see girls getting rhinoplasty to fix their big nose, or risking _death_ to get an illegal BBL in mexico. killing and starving yourself in the gym to get the perfect hourglass figure. and if you can't work it, you buy it.
makeup products that promise youthful skin are bought by the dozen, we lather ourselves in 10 layers of skin creams in the hope we stay young forever. fitness culture is mostly about appearances than about health. it's a pissing contest about who can be effortlessly beautiful and perfect the most.Ā
and we all don't want to admit that because we have made this belief that if you're a feminist you're supposed to not give a fuck about the male gaze right? so why are women still killing themselves in the gym and getting fake tans? there is this cognitive dissonance between knowing that wanting to adhere to beauty standards means you care about how you're perceived, and also wanting to practice self-love, which seems to go against all that.
but what does loving yourself as you are even mean? it's become such a vacuous statement: self-love. do you love yourself if you get plastic surgery? dye your hear? change fashion style? it means nothing. it's a buzz word, a sound bite.
i'd honestly rather people just be straight up and say "yes i care how people perceive me. i like to be desired. i like to change myself to how social beauty standards are." like, just be honest about it. my god
TW: beauty standards rant
every day i see those "love yourself as you are" messages online and it all seems so bullshit. because i actually feel like it's only getting worse. when u look around u see beauty standards that change every season, now it's having a fat ass and thick lips, 10 years ago it was the opposite.
people use tanning salons , risking cancer, to darken a few shades. meanwhile in asia , people coat themselves in bleaching products to be a few shades lighter.
every few tiktoks i see girls getting rhinoplasty to fix their big nose, or risking _death_ to get an illegal BBL in mexico. killing and starving yourself in the gym to get the perfect hourglass figure. and if you can't work it, you buy it.
makeup products that promise youthful skin are bought by the dozen, we lather ourselves in 10 layers of skin creams in the hope we stay young forever. fitness culture is mostly about appearances than about health. it's a pissing contest about who can be effortlessly beautiful and perfect the most.Ā
and we all don't want to admit that because we have made this belief that if you're a feminist you're supposed to not give a fuck about the male gaze right? so why are women still killing themselves in the gym and getting fake tans? there is this cognitive dissonance between knowing that wanting to adhere to beauty standards means you care about how you're perceived, and also wanting to practice self-love, which seems to go against all that.
but what does loving yourself as you are even mean? it's become such a vacuous statement: self-love. do you love yourself if you get plastic surgery? dye your hear? change fashion style? it means nothing. it's a buzz word, a sound bite.
i'd honestly rather people just be straight up and say "yes i care how people perceive me. i like to be desired. i like to change myself to how social beauty standards are." like, just be honest about it. my god
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