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Aeipathy
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Aeipathy wrote:
Hello, wanna give me your opinion on what to do about this?

So in December I got two tickets to go to Trixie and Katya's tour (drag queens if you don't know them) and I told my best friend when I got them that he could come with me. We've been close for a long time (since 2015) so I didn't expect any issues to come from that. Well since December, this guy has changed quite a lot and has gotten pretty rude. He'll make fun of my clothes, talk about his plans with our mutual friends and say stuff like "I wasn't going to invite you, but you can probably come I guess" (without me asking), consistently make plans with me and not show up, excessively talk trash behind his closest friends' backs to me about their appearance, significant others, families, plans, lifestyles, etc., ended up cheating on his long-term boyfriend with multiple people until the guy finally broke up with him (and he was wrecked), talked badly about my family, and has just done and said countless little rude things to me/about me and our friends. 

So now it's getting a bit closer to the show (September) and I'm reaaaaaaally regretting telling him he could come with me. When I asked some of my friends & family what to do about it, they all said I should find someone else and "maybe he'll forget about the show," but that isn't going to happen because he talks about it a lot and the first time I'd seen him since the two of us got back from our colleges for break, he said "I have a feeling [my bf] is going to end up taking my spot for Trixie and Katya and he better not." I'd feel really bad telling him he can't come after telling him he could, but I don't really like hanging with him at all at this point because he's been pretty mean. I'd much rather take anyone else. 

How do you think I should deal with this? 

TLDR: I told someone they could go to a show with me when I got tickets 6 months ago, show is now in 3 months and he's changed A LOT & become really rude and I wish I hadn't told him he could come
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Date: 01-07-2022 00:03
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Arthema wrote:
So he can be mean without thinking about the outcomes and you can't?

that's not a friend that's a bitch.
I'd tell him to fuck off all together and forget about it ngl

but nicer version, that I can't see myself going with him anymore and just..
yeah
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Date: 01-07-2022 00:06
Aeipathy
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Aeipathy wrote:
Abby wrote:
So he can be mean without thinking about the outcomes and you can't?

that's not a friend that's a bitch.
I'd tell him to fuck off all together and forget about it ngl

but nicer version, that I can't see myself going with him anymore and just..
yeah
Yeahhhh, I haven’t talked to him very much recently (and I’m glad) but I’m too nice to just tell him no and not feel bad about it at all, haha

Just wanted to get some more opinions and see if people thought it’d be super horrible of
me to take someone else 
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Date: 01-07-2022 00:09 | Times changed: 1
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Eliah wrote:
I don't think you should let him go with you anymore, that's no way to treat a friend, and it sounds more like he's using you until you take him on the tour and then he'll just dump you completely.
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Arthema wrote:
Aeipathy wrote:
Abby wrote:
So he can be mean without thinking about the outcomes and you can't?

that's not a friend that's a bitch.
I'd tell him to fuck off all together and forget about it ngl

but nicer version, that I can't see myself going with him anymore and just..
yeah
Yeahhhh, I haven’t talked to him very much recently (and I’m glad) but I’m too nice to just tell him no and not feel bad about it a all, haha

Just wanted to get some more opinions and see if people thought it’d be super horrible of
me to take someone else 
No
not only I'd do that I'd be so much more horrible then you so no feeling bad, otherwise you'd take him with you and you'll ruin the experience for yourself
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Date: 01-07-2022 00:11
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Arthema wrote:
Also on another note, jealous
I usually am not a fan of people but those 2  like wow
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Aeipathy
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Aeipathy wrote:
Eliah wrote:
I don't think you should let him go with you anymore, that's no way to treat a friend, and it sounds more like he's using you until you take him on the tour and then he'll just dump you completely.
I’ve thought the same thing. But telling him he can’t go would very likely end the friendship which would be good on one hand but also would be sad since it’s been so long. But he’s completely changed for the worse so  I’ll find a way to tell him no
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Date: 01-07-2022 00:12
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Eliah wrote:
Aeipathy wrote:
Eliah wrote:
I don't think you should let him go with you anymore, that's no way to treat a friend, and it sounds more like he's using you until you take him on the tour and then he'll just dump you completely.
I’ve thought the same thing. But telling him he can’t go would very likely end the friendship which would be good on one hand but also would be sad since it’s been so long. But he’s completely changed for the worse so  I’ll find a way to tell him no
Yeah I totally understand that, never fun having to let go of an old friendship, regardless of why. From what you're describing he really isn't acting like a friend at all and while it might be painful now, I think it'll serve you well long-term. 
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Date: 01-07-2022 00:17
Aeipathy
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Aeipathy wrote:
Abby wrote:
Aeipathy wrote:
Abby wrote:
So he can be mean without thinking about the outcomes and you can't?

that's not a friend that's a bitch.
I'd tell him to fuck off all together and forget about it ngl

but nicer version, that I can't see myself going with him anymore and just..
yeah
Yeahhhh, I haven’t talked to him very much recently (and I’m glad) but I’m too nice to just tell him no and not feel bad about it a all, haha

Just wanted to get some more opinions and see if people thought it’d be super horrible of
me to take someone else 
No
not only I'd do that I'd be so much more horrible then you so no feeling bad, otherwise you'd take him with you and you'll ruin the experience for yourself
good point, yeah
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Date: 01-07-2022 00:24
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Heartbroken wrote:
Yeah nah, drop him
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Date: 01-07-2022 00:24
Aeipathy
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Aeipathy wrote:
Abby wrote:
Also on another note, jealous
I usually am not a fan of people but those 2  like wow
I knowwww I love them. I’m super excited
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Date: 01-07-2022 00:24
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Arthema wrote:
Aeipathy wrote:
Abby wrote:
Aeipathy wrote:
Yeahhhh, I haven’t talked to him very much recently (and I’m glad) but I’m too nice to just tell him no and not feel bad about it a all, haha

Just wanted to get some more opinions and see if people thought it’d be super horrible of
me to take someone else 
No
not only I'd do that I'd be so much more horrible then you so no feeling bad, otherwise you'd take him with you and you'll ruin the experience for yourself
good point, yeah
yep
you got the tickets, you get to call the shots, if he will make you feel bad about it,  bring up that he hasn't been a saint to complain like that and well
yeah
if he'd still bitch about it, drop him altogether 
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Date: 01-07-2022 16:03
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Arthema wrote:
Aeipathy wrote:
Abby wrote:
Also on another note, jealous
I usually am not a fan of people but those 2  like wow
I knowwww I love them. I’m super excited
hell yeah hope fully you'd have fun!
and find a better person to go there with
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Date: 01-07-2022 16:04
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devilcake wrote:
Honestly he doesn’t seem like the type of person one would want to stay friends with anyways so I’d just Uninvite him and if he can’t take it too bad he shouldn’t have been an asshole and now he has one friend less
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Date: 01-07-2022 16:54 | Times changed: 1
Taomiline
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Taomiline wrote:
Aeipathy wrote:
Abby wrote:
So he can be mean without thinking about the outcomes and you can't?

that's not a friend that's a bitch.
I'd tell him to fuck off all together and forget about it ngl

but nicer version, that I can't see myself going with him anymore and just..
yeah
Yeahhhh, I haven’t talked to him very much recently (and I’m glad) but I’m too nice to just tell him no and not feel bad about it at all, haha

Just wanted to get some more opinions and see if people thought it’d be super horrible of
me to take someone else 
You gotta be kind to yourself too, though! I'd say just find an actually decent human being to go with instead, that person doesn't sound like someone to invest time on.
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