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Am I being paranoid?
Hungover
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hungover wrote:
So, long story short: Had a favourite person for 2-3 years, and it ended
horribly, we don't talk anymore but we're in the same friend group
still, and we live in the same collective.
Anyway, our collective is hosting a Halloween party Halloween and it invites
only. One of my really close friends just asked if I wanted to go look
for costumes with them for "Friday", I said sure without thinking much
about it, but then out of curiosity, I asked them what they were doing
said Friday. They told me "*my collective* Halloween party" and It
confused me, because they don't know anyone in the collective outside of
me and my old FP - and I hadn't invited them.
I ask who invited them and they reply that my old FP did, now, I keep calling them my "old FP"
but I honestly don't think I'm over them, yet.
My friend KNOWS how much this person has hurt me, so of course, I'm a bit surprised to hear
they've been talking enough for them to get invited without me knowing?
I think this is an important thing to say, my friend is rather new in our
friend group, so it's not like they knew my FP before things got bad.
I feel weird, kind of lied to? I'm not sure what my goal is with this post, I just needed to get it out, tbh.
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:32
Hungover
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hungover wrote:
oh yeah, I have borderline, hence why "favourite person"
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:33
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wug wrote:
hungover wrote:
oh yeah, I have borderline, hence why "favourite person"
what does favourite person mean i think i have asked before but i don't understand 
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:42
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ouch wrote:
Yes
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:43
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wug wrote:
I wouldn't say it's being paranoid but maybe unreasonable to have a reaction to other people having friends/acquaintances that you are no longer friends with or not friends with?  
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:45
Hungover
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hungover wrote:
Klasifikovany wrote:
hungover wrote:
oh yeah, I have borderline, hence why "favourite person"
what does favourite person mean i think i have asked before but i don't understand 
They're like, my FAVOURITE person in the world. My mood depends on them, my confidence depends on them, I put them on a pedestal, they mean the world to me, I'm willing to do ANYTHING for them, I lose myself in my relation to them.
It's super intense, can also be very toxic like it was with the person Im talking about in this thread, like, they didn't respond to my messages and I got admitted to the psych ward bc I felt so hurt
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:45
Hungover
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hungover wrote:
Klasifikovany wrote:
I wouldn't say it's being paranoid but maybe unreasonable to have a reaction to other people having friends/acquaintances that you are no longer friends with or not friends with?  
I wouldn't care if me and my old fp had parted on good terms, if they hadn't treated me like absolute garbage, if they hadn't made my mental health so bad I got admitted three times in three weeks. My friend knows these things happened, which is why it hurts that they're talking to them behind my back.
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:46
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ouch wrote:
Klasifikovany wrote:
I wouldn't say it's being paranoid but maybe unreasonable to have a reaction to other people having friends/acquaintances that you are no longer friends with or not friends with?  
Yes I agree, esp if u live in the same place as them still and ur in the same friend group 
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:48
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ouch wrote:
hungover wrote:
Klasifikovany wrote:
I wouldn't say it's being paranoid but maybe unreasonable to have a reaction to other people having friends/acquaintances that you are no longer friends with or not friends with?  
I wouldn't care if me and my old fp had parted on good terms, if they hadn't treated me like absolute garbage, if they hadn't made my mental health so bad I got admitted three times in three weeks. My friend knows these things happened, which is why it hurts that they're talking to them behind my back.
But have u talked to the new person and asked abt why they have talked behind ur back or whatever 
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:49
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ouch wrote:
hungover wrote:
Klasifikovany wrote:
hungover wrote:
oh yeah, I have borderline, hence why "favourite person"
what does favourite person mean i think i have asked before but i don't understand 
They're like, my FAVOURITE person in the world. My mood depends on them, my confidence depends on them, I put them on a pedestal, they mean the world to me, I'm willing to do ANYTHING for them, I lose myself in my relation to them.
It's super intense, can also be very toxic like it was with the person Im talking about in this thread, like, they didn't respond to my messages and I got admitted to the psych ward bc I felt so hurt
How did they treat u like garbage tho, cus now it sounds like u think they treated u like garbage and blame them for ur bad mental health because they didn't respond to ur messages 😭
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:50
Hungover
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hungover wrote:
ouch wrote:
hungover wrote:
Klasifikovany wrote:
what does favourite person mean i think i have asked before but i don't understand 
They're like, my FAVOURITE person in the world. My mood depends on them, my confidence depends on them, I put them on a pedestal, they mean the world to me, I'm willing to do ANYTHING for them, I lose myself in my relation to them.
It's super intense, can also be very toxic like it was with the person Im talking about in this thread, like, they didn't respond to my messages and I got admitted to the psych ward bc I felt so hurt
How did they treat u like garbage tho, cus now it sounds like u think they treated u like garbage and blame them for ur bad mental health because they didn't respond to ur messages 😭
I don't want to go into everything?
They DID treat me like shit, they used me, strung me along, did things to trigger me when I'd told them repeatedly that something like leaving me on read made me feel extremely bad. They were hot and cold, only texted me when they were on breaks with their gf, ignored me completely in social settings, and was generally just being fucking mean.
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Date: 24-10-2022 13:53
Private
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wug wrote:
hungover wrote:
Klasifikovany wrote:
hungover wrote:
oh yeah, I have borderline, hence why "favourite person"
what does favourite person mean i think i have asked before but i don't understand 
They're like, my FAVOURITE person in the world. My mood depends on them, my confidence depends on them, I put them on a pedestal, they mean the world to me, I'm willing to do ANYTHING for them, I lose myself in my relation to them.
It's super intense, can also be very toxic like it was with the person Im talking about in this thread, like, they didn't respond to my messages and I got admitted to the psych ward bc I felt so hurt
I don't think it can be non-toxic honestly 
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Date: 24-10-2022 15:45
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Rotte wrote:
Klasifikovany wrote:
I wouldn't say it's being paranoid but maybe unreasonable to have a reaction to other people having friends/acquaintances that you are no longer friends with or not friends with?  
I agree too this personally, i think one can be friends with ppl u clash with. It's another thing if they took sides and wasn't honest. But it seems they are honest about it and don't let it come between either friendship.
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Date: 24-10-2022 15:51
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